loSt LoVe Posted March 14, 2004 Share Posted March 14, 2004 [color=blue][/color] Really need some help here... Well..it has been 6 mths since the breakup ....we were dating for about a yr...Started having lots of minor arguements...and soon it ended... Now..almost everyday...memories of her wld naturally flow into my mind...i cant stop thinking of her...the things we been through..the time we spent together....I realized that she was the RighT gal for mi...but i did nt cherish her back then... I tried calling her and asking her out...but she was always busy....therefore i did not have any chances....Really wished i could juz have another chance to atleast court her..... Have spoken to frenz about mi problem..but they just say ...Let time heal it....ARgh...but to mi...time will not heal this pain....it will onli let mi be immune to it...and how long would that be... Juz feel totally lost now..... How can i get her back?? how can i win her heart back? how can i let her regain her faith towards mi.... Happiness seems liek a stranger to mi now... Link to post Share on other sites
Karlise Posted March 14, 2004 Share Posted March 14, 2004 Why don't you write her a long letter describing exactly how you feel? A letter is special. It shows someone you took the time to write down the true feelings in your heart. Many people don't write real letters anymore. At the end of the letter say, 'The ball is in your court. If you don't respond, I will know it's time for me to move on. If you feel as I do, there may be a second chance for us, let me know' That way you have given her an ultimatem or sorts. It's her choice. Either let you move on or try again. She will have to choose. She may be still angry at you for whatever and letting things drag out because she might want to see you 'suffer' This is also a way to let her know that it's time for both of you to hammer out a decision. Maybe the idea of you 'moving on' will get her thinking? Anyway, if you DO NOT hear from her, let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
shopgrl Posted March 14, 2004 Share Posted March 14, 2004 Lost......-- why did you and your ex break up? I'm going through a break up too so I know your pain. I know it's easier said than done but if I were you, I would move on. By continuing to call and pursue her, you're showing her that she can have you whenever she wants. You know, sad but true, sometimes people don't realize what they've got until it's gone. It's been six months, you've tried to get back together with her and she refused. Let her go. As tough as it may be, leave the next move up to her. If she truly loves you, she'll be back. She is the one who broke up with you, right? Go out with your friends, have a good time and most importantly, allow yourself to heal. If it's meant to be, you guys will get back together but you have to give it time and only time will tell. Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted March 14, 2004 Share Posted March 14, 2004 sounds like a plan. One day maybe she wakes up and just thinks "what have I done". Then you get a call. But everything you do to try to make it happen between now and then prevents that from happening. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted March 14, 2004 Share Posted March 14, 2004 Lost - Um, did it ever cross your mind that she may have a significant other? This could be the reason why she is turning down your advances, without hurting your feelings. ~V Link to post Share on other sites
Author loSt LoVe Posted March 15, 2004 Author Share Posted March 15, 2004 [color=blue][/color] Thanks for your responses...really appreciated them... Actually i have written my feelings to her few months back...and the reply was that....she wasnt ready to get into a relationship...with any 1 at the momment...just wans to be alone and quiet down.... Moving on .....have been struggling with tat....but everytime i think of her(which comes naturally)...about how perfect she is...and the future of us together...i just cant bare to let such a wonderful person leave my life.... Juz want to keep trying to get her back...hopefully she will be touched..and hav trust in mi again.... sobzzzz.... Thanks again...God bless... Link to post Share on other sites
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