timmilesacoustic Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 Long story short guys! One of my best/close friends who's a girl told me the other day she used to fancy me when we were in college, i told her i used to fancy her and have always have had a soft spot for her even to this day. She said "I've tried to see you in a different light and when i go out with you i try to pretend we have never met before so i can see you in another way other than a friend but i can't, its me being wierd" - This statement tells me we can only be friends BUT whats confusing me is - Repeatedly since i have told her i liked her she has been saying "Why didn't you tell me back in college?" "I can't stop thinking about what you told me the other day" "I still can't believe you never told me Tim" "thats playing on my mind now" Etc! And im thinking, okay clearly we are friends and she can't see me different but why is she saying that stuff? im confused? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 Because she can't believe you've been feeling this way for so long and never mentioned, and better yet, managed to hide it. Read no secret message in there. She just can't believe you managed effectively, to live a lie. That's all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author timmilesacoustic Posted December 16, 2010 Author Share Posted December 16, 2010 That may be true to some extent, but then effectively, she was also living a lie? because she kept her secret of liking me the entire time through college quiet also? and didn't tell me until recently? I think i am most probably reading into it as "i wish you told me so we could do something about it" i think thats the angle i was looking at it from, most likely i am very wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 So you say to her: "Now you know, and I know - are we going to do anything about it?" And see what she says. It's called communication. Something you have both unfortunately been avoiding, it seems. Link to post Share on other sites
Author timmilesacoustic Posted December 16, 2010 Author Share Posted December 16, 2010 but now she has said she can only see me as a friend but is giving me these mixed signals about wishing i had told her, and wanting to meet up with me, and how its playing on her mind. i think she doesn't know what she wants... but im no expert, in fact im the furthest from an expert... but thank you for your help i appreciate it! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 I'm asking you genuinely - just what is it that is preventing you from actually talking this over with her? tell her, no strings attached, no complications, just sorting things out in your mind.... get things out, put your cards on the table, and clear the air. Why is it so difficult for people to just TALK nowadays - ?! Link to post Share on other sites
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