Author dreamingoftigers Posted December 20, 2010 Author Share Posted December 20, 2010 Oh btw, nobody better ever purchase McD for me. I haven't touched the stuff in 7-8 years blech! Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Lol, nice rant. I used to be fat back in high school, but I've since lost weight and am at a healthy 120 lbs. I used to be bullied alot as well, kids can be mean, and my peers can be absolutely judgmental. I think whatever it is you decide to do, do it healthily and ignore all those negative comments from strangers. One of my friends and my current lover is actually a little on the heavy side. The thing about her is that she's very confident and I love her personality so much that her weight just isn't an issue. Also, she's embarking on her fitness program and has lost around 20-30 pounds already. She has some of the most amazing curves and boobs, and I can't say that I want her to lose weight so much as just toning up and looking extremely sexual. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 BTW, it's better to have cheat days then to go completely fat or carb free. I'm a exercise nut myself, but I also crave chocolate and cake from time to time. The only times I ever allow myself to endulge is on Sundays or after a workout. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamingoftigers Posted December 20, 2010 Author Share Posted December 20, 2010 Hey, my whole life has been a constant wieght problem. Otherwise, who knows?, I'd might be one of those snarky putzes who keeps patting himself on the back for not being fat--as if it were a choice for him. My weight goes in and out with the tides. Having certain people in your immediate life can be toxic. My last relationship went kaput as I got myself in such super shape I don't think anyone would think I were ever a fatty. But then this girl seemed to be about eating out all the time, going to her mother's house and having everyone bring a host of Italian pastries blah, blah, blah. It was hard to say no and not appear like I was rejecting her culture and family. So, I gave in and it knocked me totally offf my pins. Then, guess what? She wonders how I could gain weight. Duh? Can't have it both ways--some people can. I can't. Hang in there and don't take any shi+. I really dug your rant and know where you're coming from. Thaqy can eat me too. I used to go to OA in NYC where I was one of the few men among many struggling women--not a bad place to be. Hey world--eat us! LOL My dad is Italian/(Irish/Hungarian) (weird). Food all of the time. Both my parents were HUGE when I was growing up, the month after paycheques was eating out every night, then the second part of the month was scraping by on shake and bake and pasta sauce from the freezer. And grilled cheese sandwiches. Blech. Big guilt trips about food. "Clean you plate, children in Africa" blah blah blah. I honestly did not understand the children in Africa thing until I was much older. I used to wonder why they didn't send the African children my food, or how eating my food was supposed to help them. My mother almost never cooked (thank god). One time she made this horrible thing called Salmon Romanoff. My grandmother was trying to encourage her to cook more so she coerced me into eating 4 plates of the awful stuff and tell my mom I really really liked it. I had to eat so much of it that I ended up puking and I didn't get over hating fish until I was 23. I tried a nice cut of Salmon at a restaurant. The thought of canned salmon still gives me chills. I went to OA at 17. And yes there was the token guy there too LOL. There is a guy member in S-Anon here too. Tough role in some ways I bet. (Back then I don't think that there were rules about not mentioning specific food, I am not sure if there are now either but they say not to mention anything at FA). The guy member there talked about how he had a moment of shame and ate a whole box of cookies. I was shocked. I remember thinking "who does that?" (hey, I was 17) Well sure enough it was a little coping trick I picked up 2-3 times a year after that until I got pregnant. I am glad I cannot even imagine doing that now, ugh. It's cool when another person gets it. Seriously, sometimes people can make it seem like you are a total freak and you kind of wonder how they can live the way they do without developing these problems. It is super-nice not to be alone with these issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamingoftigers Posted December 20, 2010 Author Share Posted December 20, 2010 My parents are still toxic in this manner. I try hard not to get hateful about it (I still blame them for my childhood obesity) Don't forget that a lot of people simply don't comprehend the struggle if they haven't had to go through it, and that buying you fast food etc. might not be malicious, just a bit ignorant or insensitive. Just tell him to stop bringing it and communicate your goals and what you have to do to reach them and I can't imagine it wouldn't stop. I wholeheartedly blame mine. My grandmother left when I was 7 and I packed on pound after pound after that. They used to give me whole cans of chunky soup and grilled cheese sandwiches for lunch all the time. Or Mr. Noodles. Or Mac and cheese. ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamingoftigers Posted January 9, 2011 Author Share Posted January 9, 2011 I missed this one, haven't been back to this thread in awhile. Girl, if that's you in your avatar, you're much better off than many people I've seen. You are very beautiful. ( Thanks, nice to hear). I'd say take a week and write down exactly what you eat. Afterwards, review it and figure out what you can cut out and what you should replace it with. There's a show on BBC that I recommend so many of my friends who have a problem with food addiction/unhealthy eating. "You are what you eat". Not only does that show exhibit bad dietary habits, but methods on responding and eating well. I think I watched an episode of that show, doesn't the host kind of spy on the people eating. Then she shows them how much they ate in a week? This one guy had a duffle bag of doughnuts alone. I am actually going on a food plan that worked for me before, it is lots of veggies, some meat and a simple, healthy breakfast of rolled oats, plain yogurt and fruit. I feel so much better on it and it is really easy to make, when I get more in the swing of things, I can see what flavorings etc, I can use without comprimising my health. My whole family is allergic to wheat gluten so I really should not comsume it (I was too chicken of the needle to get tested). I also know that there is NO benefit to eating sugar and it royally screws up my metabolism. I get heart palpatations when I eat ice cream. I would rather be done with it completely then try to ration my poison. That would be kind of like only doing a little meth daily. Just doesn't make any sense to me to worry about that stuff again if I don't have to. I think for the most part the people would understand that I was 300 lbs before (315 at heaviest) and that I have no desire to go back there. My only problem with food at the moment is cooking for one. Being in a long distance relationship, I often find that while I'm a GREAT cook, I have trouble cooking for myself and am much more prone to calling for take-away or delivery. Still, even with delivery food I usually limit myself to the vegan menu, a healthy selection from a good Thai restaurant, or pizza on Fridays. I am a great cook too, I wish that I had more of a budget to do it these days. I love Thai and vegetarian food as well, my favorite pizza is thin-crust vegetarian with little to no cheese. In your last comment, you said that you were uegly. Looking at your picture, you are sooooo not ugly. You have a full figure, yes, but your face, your hair, and your concern for yourself and others manifest in your post make you a VERY beautiful person. (Thanks again) You do not need plastic surgery. No one needs plastic surgery unless it is used to fix damage through birth defects or accidents. (I think if you have deformed skin areas like excessive sagging after a major weight-loss that that would be reasonable to have that removed. There shouldn't be a blatant reminder of what you worked so hard to be rid of.) If you get a chance to, watch some Margret Cho. She's an awesome comedian whose opinion on beauty is worth knowing. Perhaps even watching Katy Perry's "Firework" might help. Her opinion on human beauty is both fundamental and great. I saw Firework. And I'll drive this home one more time: You are effin beautiful. You have no reason to be uncomfortable in your skin. YAY Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamingoftigers Posted January 9, 2011 Author Share Posted January 9, 2011 Lol, nice rant. I used to be fat back in high school, but I've since lost weight and am at a healthy 120 lbs. I used to be bullied alot as well, kids can be mean, and my peers can be absolutely judgmental. I think whatever it is you decide to do, do it healthily and ignore all those negative comments from strangers. Will do. One of my friends and my current lover is actually a little on the heavy side. The thing about her is that she's very confident and I love her personality so much that her weight just isn't an issue. Also, she's embarking on her fitness program and has lost around 20-30 pounds already. She has some of the most amazing curves and boobs, and I can't say that I want her to lose weight so much as just toning up and looking extremely sexual. LOL, nice. BTW, it's better to have cheat days then to go completely fat or carb free. I'm a exercise nut myself, but I also crave chocolate and cake from time to time. The only times I ever allow myself to endulge is on Sundays or after a workout. I am not going fat or carb free, but I am only eating healthy carbs. I don't think our bodies are programmed to process refined starches and sugars. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 Healthy cooking on a budget is easier than you think. MUCH cheaper than buying takeout every day. If your H brings takeout home, just throw it straight in your outdoor rubbish. He isn't being very supportive if thats what he is up to. You may need to totally overhaul your kitchen, your fridge and your habits, but it is possible. My H and I cook everything from scratch, and we barely buy any pre-packaged or processed foods. I know exactly what goes into every meal we have. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamingoftigers Posted January 10, 2011 Author Share Posted January 10, 2011 Healthy cooking on a budget is easier than you think. MUCH cheaper than buying takeout every day. If your H brings takeout home, just throw it straight in your outdoor rubbish. He isn't being very supportive if thats what he is up to. You may need to totally overhaul your kitchen, your fridge and your habits, but it is possible. My H and I cook everything from scratch, and we barely buy any pre-packaged or processed foods. I know exactly what goes into every meal we have. Thank you, I have been making some proactive steps in that regard: Please check out the Thinner Ass Progress Log, I just thought that I would respond to left behind responses. Link to post Share on other sites
KraftDinner Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 I just want to say that I'm so sorry for the **** you have had to listen to from idiots who think their opinions are more important than your feelings. The stuff you wrote that random morons have said to you... that's heartbreaking. I've never understood how some people can say such things to others. Awful. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Healthy cooking on a budget is easier than you think. MUCH cheaper than buying takeout every day. If your H brings takeout home, just throw it straight in your outdoor rubbish. He isn't being very supportive if thats what he is up to. You may need to totally overhaul your kitchen, your fridge and your habits, but it is possible. My H and I cook everything from scratch, and we barely buy any pre-packaged or processed foods. I know exactly what goes into every meal we have. How do you do that, sb? I've actually found fresh veggies to be crazy expensive in NZ, especially during winter. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 How do you do that, sb? I've actually found fresh veggies to be crazy expensive in NZ, especially during winter. I think it really depends on where you are. In the US there is pretty wide disparity on veggies. If I want organic, I will have to pay through the nose. But there are available non-organic veggies available at more reasonable prices, mind you I will end up with bendy celery instead of crisp, brown edged broccoli, ect. In the winter I often switch over largely to frozen veggies and use a steaming process to crisp them up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamingoftigers Posted January 16, 2011 Author Share Posted January 16, 2011 I have been all over the Northern States and found a huge difference in vegetable and fruit quality depending on the state. Some of the prices for regular food were completely outrageous! Some places had fruits and veggies for the same prices that we have in Canada in these small little towns and the selection was far worse! I couldn't believe the quality of food in most of the places we went. Seattle was wonderful however, so was Maine. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 (edited) How do you do that, sb? I've actually found fresh veggies to be crazy expensive in NZ, especially during winter. We live in a warm climate, so we can grow some of our own in the summer, and I spend less on other stuff. I refuse to compromise on the quality of our food, and we rarely eat anything thats prepackaged. Our food bill isn't the cheapest but I think its worth it. ETA:- I use alot of frozen veges as well, nutritionally they are good as they are usually snap frozen immediately after they are picked. Edited January 16, 2011 by sb129 Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Good luck with your weight loss. I'm sorry you feel upset. You should feel proud of your body. Larger women need love, too! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamingoftigers Posted January 17, 2011 Author Share Posted January 17, 2011 Thanks, working on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Jaytb Posted February 6, 2011 Share Posted February 6, 2011 I'm really glad you're making a positive change. I was a fat kid in middle school and I spent high school working it off. It takes a lot work but you just have to stick to it! I got kind of lazy for a couple years now and so I am now going back to the gym to get healthy. I hope you feel great that you're making this change because it is a very positive change. And when you've accomplished your goal, you should feel like a million bucks Link to post Share on other sites
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