Wedding planning and mother woes....

[raclar]

I need to vent!

 

I have a great fiance and I'm super excited about marrying him. However, I am having trouble with my mother and wedding planning. My fiance and I live in Chicago, but I grew up in Cleveland. Originally we were talking about having a small wedding- immediate family only, but were talking into having a larger wedding- its what the parents wanted. Part of the reason I agreed was my mom, who is retired, said she could take care of a lot of the planning, especially if it took place in cleveland. Since I'll be starting a new job Jan 3, I figured this would be the best solution.

 

Well.... last week my mom dropped a bomb... she and dad are going to visit my sister who lives in TX, for *2* months! They aren't coming back to OH until early march. So she won't actually be in OH to do wedding planning during the most critical wedding planning time (we just nailed down the date/venue so now can try to reserve photogs/DJs/etc- waiting until March to do these will be too late- too soon before the wedding). I am extremely angry that she mislead us about her intentions of planning the wedding.

 

And also she keeps saying "I've done this before" (for my sisters wedding) like.. this is not all that important, its no big deal we can just slap together any old wedding.

 

And another choice phrase of hers "well, we don't leave for another week, we can just plan it all before I leave" !!!!!!!!! Who do you know plans a wedding for 100 ppl in a week.

 

I'm just so angry. I feel like she's not taking my wedding seriously. I could see her going to visit TX for a few weeks but 2 months! for vacation. She's not going for like.. surgery or a job or anything like that- just for fun. She says she's "just tired of the cold weather". Maybe I'm being a bridezilla. I dunno.

 

Am I unreasonable? What can I do? I feel overwhelmed by starting a new job and having to plan an out of town wedding myself.

[allina]

I need to vent!

 

I have a great fiance and I'm super excited about marrying him. However, I am having trouble with my mother and wedding planning. My fiance and I live in Chicago, but I grew up in Cleveland. Originally we were talking about having a small wedding- immediate family only, but were talking into having a larger wedding- its what the parents wanted. Part of the reason I agreed was my mom, who is retired, said she could take care of a lot of the planning, especially if it took place in cleveland. Since I'll be starting a new job Jan 3, I figured this would be the best solution.

 

Well.... last week my mom dropped a bomb... she and dad are going to visit my sister who lives in TX, for *2* months! They aren't coming back to OH until early march. So she won't actually be in OH to do wedding planning during the most critical wedding planning time (we just nailed down the date/venue so now can try to reserve photogs/DJs/etc- waiting until March to do these will be too late- too soon before the wedding). I am extremely angry that she mislead us about her intentions of planning the wedding.

 

And also she keeps saying "I've done this before" (for my sisters wedding) like.. this is not all that important, its no big deal we can just slap together any old wedding.

 

And another choice phrase of hers "well, we don't leave for another week, we can just plan it all before I leave" !!!!!!!!! Who do you know plans a wedding for 100 ppl in a week.

 

I'm just so angry. I feel like she's not taking my wedding seriously. I could see her going to visit TX for a few weeks but 2 months! for vacation. She's not going for like.. surgery or a job or anything like that- just for fun. She says she's "just tired of the cold weather". Maybe I'm being a bridezilla. I dunno.

 

Am I unreasonable? What can I do? I feel overwhelmed by starting a new job and having to plan an out of town wedding myself.

 

Plan your own wedding, and if it's ore convenient for you, plan it in Chicago. Why do you want to have it in OH? A wedding is not impossible to plan while working full time. It would be easier to plan a local wedding but even if you do an OH wedding it can be done. Plus, it's your wedding, don't you want to be the one that makes the decisions?

 

If you want to get married in OH my suggestion is to start doing research right now. Go to a site like theknot and look at venues in and near Cleveland. Pick 3-4 that you like and that are in your budget and schedule a visit for an upcoming weekend. Take a road trip with your fiance and pick a place. Almost everything else can be done online. If you want to interview a photographer or florist in person take another road trip.

 

When is the wedding?

[Lauriebell82]

I agree with allina that you should plan your own wedding! It's not that hard, it's a little stressful, but if you are organized then it is definately doable!