Why wont he file??

[Confusedme5]

So I have posted my situation here a few times but it has gotten so confusing I have no idea what to think anymore. I met with my stbx about a week ago so he could give me papers that we needed to start mediation, well it turned into lunch where I was planning on telling him I am not interested in being his friend (as I wrote in another post) I decided I wanted to also air my feelings on the situation just because I feel I need some closure. I told him I thought this divorce is not the right choice and that I think we could work things out, that I made a commitment to him and that I wasn't willing to let it go this easily yada yada yada...he said he is very confused and believes he is making a selfish decision but just needs more time to think. I asked him if he still wanted to go to the mediation consultation and he told me nothing would be done that day to start the divorce and that we should still go to see what our options are. Fast forward a week, yesterday was the consultation, we didn't really find out anything we didn't already know just basically met the mediator. Afterwards I asked him if he was 100% sure that he wanted to go through with this and he said yes. When I asked him when he intended to file he said not anytime soon. When I ask him why he doesn't want to do it soon he just says he does not know. He is leaving town for 2 weeks for the holiday and asked if I would just give him these 2 weeks to think. I told him yes but I just don't understand what he needs to think about or what this means. Money is not an issue with filing. Any ideas on what is going on here??

[sirweasles]

he may be unsure of what he wants to do and just doesnt care about you enough to make a dicision I would suggets that you get the papers and have him sign them move on with your life you need sombody that will always cherrish you

[vtbrokenhearted]

I am going through the same thing. My husband has had an affair though, but he kept saying he didn't know what he wanted, over and over again. I got tired of waiting and filed the papers myself after he refused to talk with me and continued to tell me he needed more time. One thing I didn't expect was the anger he threw at me after getting served the papers. It's been extremely painful, and I don't know if I'm really doing the right thing, but I know I want to be happy.