version44 Posted March 15, 2004 Share Posted March 15, 2004 My gf of a year is over seas. One week she is talking about how "when she gets back we will be stronger then ever and together for a long time, maybe forever." She says this to me and her friends/family. Then she calls the next week and wants to break up! She sounds confused and I am shocked. She says that she may be making a mistake, but she needs this time to make the most of her experences. She "doesn't want to feel guilty for having fun while I am here." Then she tells me to "do what I want here." I know that she might have met another guy from there, but she only has 2 months left before she comes home. Two months seemed like nothing now it seems like forever! The other problem is that she has no where else to go for a couple weeks and will be staying with an Ex that happens to be near there. When they were together he treated her bad and cheated on her. All of her friends/family hate him, love me. She is a good, strong, smart, women. I love her very deeply and want her back when she returns. She has expressed the same, "for now." I have expressed how I feel to her. I have also made future plans with her for when she returns that I want to keep. What I am afraid of is that 1) she will rekindle things with the Ex. and completely leave me or 2) she will grow herself apart from me and not come back when she comes home. I don't want to quit. I want to fight for her, but I don't want to do too much and push her away. What do I do now? What should my next move be? How do I save this so we can start fresh when she gets back? Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted March 15, 2004 Share Posted March 15, 2004 I had a relationship with a guy who was always telling me that he was scared of mairrage and commitment. What it ended up doing to me is making me very insecure and unhappy. All I can say is that I think you feel the same way. Relationships are supposed to make us happy not worried all the time that the other person is going to bolt. Cant say anything else except that your situation sucks and I think she is giving you a little of a preview of what is going to end up happening. It would be much better I think for you to spare yourself of the inevitable. Just ask yourself... if you loved someone would you constantly threaten to leave them Spare yourself ....And I think it will feel better for you if you make the break. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts