JackJack Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Well of course this is a spin off from the "Open marriage very happy" thread. I'm in a closed marriage, meaning its just my wife and I. We both prefer it that way. There is no inviting of others into our love nest, and we believe in being with just one person. I guess if I wanted to be with other women or her with other men we wouldn't have gotten married and just stayed single and did whatever we wanted. Its good to know that for ME, I don't feel the need or want to share her. And vice versa. NEXT! Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Very happily mono! I actually kind of "get off" on monogamy. The exclusivity is a major turn-on for me. Lucky for H Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Monogamous relationships are passe, didn't you know that? Yep, every marital problem would be cured if we could all just scr*w anyone we want. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JackJack Posted December 20, 2010 Author Share Posted December 20, 2010 Very happily mono! I actually kind of "get off" on monogamy. The exclusivity is a major turn-on for me. Lucky for H Same here! Nothing about go, pick em' and stick em' appeals to me. But thats just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 closed engagement and very happy here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JackJack Posted December 20, 2010 Author Share Posted December 20, 2010 closed engagement and very happy here. Engaged? I must have missed that memo, I didn't know that. Congrats to you! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Engaged? I must have missed that memo, I didn't know that. Congrats to you! Thank you. For your reference http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t238152/ Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 i am super duper happy with my closed marriage as well! ** one thing that bummed me out though (not about my marriage) i was at the gyno a few months ago and she always asks about pregnancy- if i am trying or not... i say no, she asks about BC, i say none. then she asks if my H and i use condoms, i say no. and she starts going on about STD's so i say well i AM married- and she says that is not prevention (i have been tested recently and i am good and so is H) so SEE my gyno doesn't even have faith in non-cheating spouses! Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Same here! Nothing about go, pick em' and stick em' appeals to me. But thats just me. That is lovely to hear from a man Link to post Share on other sites
Author JackJack Posted December 20, 2010 Author Share Posted December 20, 2010 That is lovely to hear from a man :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Alma Mobley Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 i am super duper happy with my closed marriage as well! ** one thing that bummed me out though (not about my marriage) i was at the gyno a few months ago and she always asks about pregnancy- if i am trying or not... i say no, she asks about BC, i say none. then she asks if my H and i use condoms, i say no. and she starts going on about STD's so i say well i AM married- and she says that is not prevention (i have been tested recently and i am good and so is H) so SEE my gyno doesn't even have faith in non-cheating spouses! Does your gyno think you should be using condoms?? On topic: In a closed marriage as well and very happy! Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Extremely happy in a monogamous relationship. My boyfriend's the best and there's no way I'd ever be able to share him or give part of myself to someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 i am super duper happy with my closed marriage as well! ** one thing that bummed me out though (not about my marriage) i was at the gyno a few months ago and she always asks about pregnancy- if i am trying or not... i say no, she asks about BC, i say none. then she asks if my H and i use condoms, i say no. and she starts going on about STD's so i say well i AM married- and she says that is not prevention (i have been tested recently and i am good and so is H) so SEE my gyno doesn't even have faith in non-cheating spouses! Eeh, its probably just reflective of how often she has to tell a patient they have an STD and hear them reply "but I've only ever been with my husband since we got together!" Kinda like cops believing everyone is a potential criminal after a while. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 18 years in a closed marriage, and really enjoying it. Interesting how the longer you're together, the less the idea of someone else appeals to you, even when you're really pissed off at your partner. "He might be a pinhead, but he's my pinhead!" :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Interesting how the longer you're together, the less the idea of someone else appeals to you This has been true for me, as well Link to post Share on other sites
shadowofman Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 U mad OP? Seems there is some aggression below the surface. Link to post Share on other sites
John Bigboote Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 I am super happy for all of you. All I would ever ask for any person is that they know as much happiness, love, and fulfillment as possible in this life. Especially this time of year. Have an eggnog on me. Link to post Share on other sites
Distant78 Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 In a closed relationship. Engaged to my woman. Love being mono. Nothing better than climaxing with a partner you love and looking into their watery, sparkling eyes as euphoria washes over your body.:love: Link to post Share on other sites
impz Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 Well of course this is a spin off from the "Open marriage very happy" thread. I'm in a closed marriage, meaning its just my wife and I. We both prefer it that way. There is no inviting of others into our love nest, and we believe in being with just one person. I guess if I wanted to be with other women or her with other men we wouldn't have gotten married and just stayed single and did whatever we wanted. Its good to know that for ME, I don't feel the need or want to share her. And vice versa. NEXT! Well, blame me for being a selfish person, but I cannot ever imagine the need or want to share my wife with anyone at all. I am quite sure she's equally selfish, so we fit each other to a tee. Call me a traditional man, but I still believe marriage should be monogamous. Those that do not believe this have their own set of beliefs. I cannot even fathom agreeing with them, but it's their view in life. It's their choice to make. Link to post Share on other sites
Distant78 Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 Well, blame me for being a selfish person, but I cannot ever imagine the need or want to share my wife with anyone at all. I am quite sure she's equally selfish, so we fit each other to a tee. Call me a traditional man, but I still believe marriage should be monogamous. Those that do not believe this have their own set of beliefs. I cannot even fathom agreeing with them, but it's their view in life. It's their choice to make. Agreed. Yea, they're the ones who will fall. It turns me on to know my baby only wants my mind, body, and soul. Link to post Share on other sites
impz Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 Agreed. Yea, they're the ones who will fall. It turns me on to know my baby only wants my mind, body, and soul. Very much so, but as I said it's their choice. Even though I cannot understand them, I am taught to be tolerant of people I do not agree. As much as I find it abhorrent (i.e. the notion of an open relationship), I think no one has the right to force their beliefs down anyone's throat. I agree with you that your other half just wants you and no one else. I love it when my wife tells me about her various fantasies she wants to do with me and she can't imagine doing it with anyone else... Ok, I ain't going into too much information territory! She also calls me quite impossible to cheat: I'm too lazy to hook up with others, I refuse to spend money on needless things (affairs and all), I enjoy doing my research work rather than flirt with girls. I sound like a slob! Link to post Share on other sites
Distant78 Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 Very much so, but as I said it's their choice. Even though I cannot understand them, I am taught to be tolerant of people I do not agree. As much as I find it abhorrent (i.e. the notion of an open relationship), I think no one has the right to force their beliefs down anyone's throat. I agree with you that your other half just wants you and no one else. I love it when my wife tells me about her various fantasies she wants to do with me and she can't imagine doing it with anyone else... Ok, I ain't going into too much information territory! She also calls me quite impossible to cheat: I'm too lazy to hook up with others, I refuse to spend money on needless things (affairs and all), I enjoy doing my research work rather than flirt with girls. I sound like a slob! Hey, you're almost describing me! That's not a slob, it's working hard! Link to post Share on other sites
AVR1962 Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 I would not have it any other way myself. Married twice personally, first husband wanted an open marriage, wanted to be with other women, we divorced after 7 years. I have been remarried for 18 years and while marriage isn't all steamy and everything I ever dreamed of I am not going to cheat on him and as far as I know he has been faithful too. It's my belief that marriage is the unity of two individulas to be committed to one another. I've seen the destruction of those who feel they are entitled to sleep around. For these people there is a boundary that gets crossed, if it even existed in the first place, and the thrist never gets quenched. This is not going to make them happy....it is more of an addiction (a sick high) than anything else. Yes, I have some very strong opinions on the suject, lived it. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 Well of course this is a spin off from the "Open marriage very happy" thread. I'm in a closed marriage, meaning its just my wife and I. We both prefer it that way. There is no inviting of others into our love nest, and we believe in being with just one person. I guess if I wanted to be with other women or her with other men we wouldn't have gotten married and just stayed single and did whatever we wanted. Its good to know that for ME, I don't feel the need or want to share her. And vice versa. NEXT! Two peas in a pod and neither of us would have it either way. Very happy together However, I'd rather see people in an open marriage any day of the week rather than the mess of an A, so even though it isn't for me or my relationship - if it works for some people and they can be happy? Good on them. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 Very happily monogomous here too. My man and I have an awesome relationship. We're best friends, we love each other deeply and we have fantastic sex - there's no room for anyone else in that equation. Knowing that we're both faithful is a huge turn on in itself. I don't understand open marriages, but each to their own. Link to post Share on other sites
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