Serious Reconciliation after GIGS?

[Mrlonelyone]

I will be honest with you. I am totally open to Indians being with other races. So are my siblings and some of my cousins. My parents, "the older generation" and many people of the current "american born" generation are not though. It was hard to convince them to be okay. They act okay but will talk bad of the "relationship" the moment your back is turned.

 

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I am very proud of what I am but I do consider people of my ethnic background to be very racist. I guess many people of my ethnicity believe that "we" are the supreme race and the "British empire" destroyed "our" power and "we are" destined to be great again. Indians view black people lower then them. Its the assumption that they are unfaithful, participate in crime easily, unreasonable, uneducated and other things. I have had black friends who tried to date indian girls but they all failed (and my friends have excellent dating skills). Strange enough my sisters have all dated black guys. So its possible but my dad views himself as a failure because my sister has a half black children.

 

I want to make it clear that I am very proud that I am Indian but not proud in a "race" selfish way. I do believe there are Indians out there that don't mind being viewed as no better than other cultures/races. I do believe that there are Indians who don't care what other Indian families think when it comes to interracial dating, children, marriage. It will be hard to find it though..... I hope I helped.

 

You helped immensely. The one thing I think some here have had a hard time understanding is the cultural difference I have had to try and negotiate all this time. ..... Almost as if I would mention race as a possible factor as some sort of an excuse. To some, not all, but a great many East Indians race really matters. No mixing the races, no mixing the religions. Of course mixing certain races will have an easier time than others.

 

It's one more thing I really have to think about. Do I want to deal with that for the rest of my life. Do I want her to deal with that? Because in a sense that's what I am asking for her to do. Will she be able to take it this time? How can I help her to deal?