Why are betrayed partners always expected to take the high road?

[New_Life08]

Yeah I understand what you mean. I think it seems this way because the betrayed person's value system toward cheating goes out the window when they cheat or do something equally vulger to even the score. I suppose most people expect the betrayed to practice what they preach so to speak.

 

Another thing could be that people feel any self respecting person would not continue the relationship after the first affair. When a person continues in the relationship for years with a serial cheater and/or other forms of emotional abuse should not expect a whole lot of sympathy from bystanders who can see the obvious solution.

 

So yes I suppose they are expected to take the high road and end it so they can get on with their life.

[itsmeagain]

Well, cheating is wrong - period. And that is true regardless of the surrounding circumstances. While being cheated on may be a painful experience, it does not give license to that person to cheat to enact some sort of revenge. If the relationship still carries monogamous expectations, they should be continued after an individual cheats ...or not. Break up with the cheater if you cannot get over it. Besides, cheating would only further complicate an already complicated situation.

If (you) want to cheat, then don't pretend to be justified because of what was done to you.

[Distant78]

Well, cheating is wrong - period. And that is true regardless of the surrounding circumstances. While being cheated on may be a painful experience, it does not give license to that person to cheat to enact some sort of revenge. If the relationship still carries monogamous expectations, they should be continued after an individual cheats ...or not. Break up with the cheater if you cannot get over it. Besides, cheating would only further complicate an already complicated situation.

If (you) want to cheat, then don't pretend to be justified because of what was done to you.

 

Cheated on IS a painful experience. Not maybe.