heartbreaking update...

[mmiller5373]

Yeah, I remember her telling me how much she loved me, just 2 weeks before she left. Saying things like, you'll always be mine, my heart is all yours, I could never let you go.

 

Guess you never really know what's going through a woman's mind. Somewhere inside, she must have known she wasn't in love with me anymore.

[bl22]

Feel like ive just been broken up with again, feel like throwing up, cant sleep. What a great christmas eve. Life is **** right now

[paleblue]

Give yourself the best Christmas present you can give yourself. Delete her from FB and your life.

[bl22]

Give yourself the best Christmas present you can give yourself. Delete her from FB and your life.

 

 

Ive deleted fb completely. I dont need that kind of pain and pressure. The entire fb is 1 big popularity contest, something Im not ready for right now.

 

After last night, I feel like Im back to Day 1, hearts going million miles an hour constantly, i find it hard to eat or sleep.

[BlindRage]

I am in the same boat as you buddy. It's been around 4-5 months for me now. She's heartless, we were together 2 and a half years, she threw me away like a piece of worthless garbage.

[BlindRage]

I have never used social networking sites... having heard all the of drama that they have caused my friends, family and co-workers (These are NORMAL, HEALTHY ADULTS MIND YOU)... I am sure I will never have one.

 

The problem that my friends, family and co-workers was due to the other 90% of the people that do not use social media sites the way it was intended.

 

They were spending way to much time having conversations with their significant other and their close friends on who X was... How did they know them. Why do you want to be their friend? Why do they want to be your friend? What do they want? What does Y mean and why would they say that?

 

These were either on their facebook or a friend of a friend of a friend....

 

Most of my friends are men... but their significant others were spending as much time on their site as their own... just keeping a "sharp eye on things" is what they said.

 

Now I did have several friends who ARE GREAT guys... Love their wife, their kids, happily married, etc. They confined in me that they were contacted by their exes who were asking to met up, being flirty, etc. Now they didn't do anything or act on it. But like one of them said... "If it wasn't for Facebook... I would have never have been tempted or even had to think about it".

 

Now I know I will get flamed for this thread... Yes, at the end of the day, I choose whether or not I am going to be faithful or not... not facebook.

 

Ask yourself this then? Does using Facebook make being faithful (both physical and emotional), maintaining the trust in my relationship, making my partner feel safe and secure, etc. 100% more difficult?

 

Of course the answer is YES!

 

I am faithful because I choose to be... I make it easy on myself by not putting myself in situations (walking up to the edge of the cliff) where I would / might be temped (fall off the cliff). So for me, I avoid Facebook (stand a couple feet back from the edge of the cliff).

 

As a guy... I hate to worry... By not facebooking... That is less thing I have to worry about. Plus as a guy, I know women are social creatures and curious by nature... So of course she is going to want to talk about, discuss, gossip, stalk, have disagreements with me or they people that post on my facebook, etc.

 

Tell me what man wants to "talk" or "listen" more than we have too... Me, I'd just rather watch the game instead. Call me crazy... but I am not missing anything by not facebooking but I am avoiding potential problems.

 

Of all the couples I known or met.... Not one of them has wanted their significant other would use it. It has ALWAYS been they were glad that they didn't. The ones that did have it... I have always heard that they flat out didn't like it or they had issues with it or they have concerns about it.

 

Do you know why that is?

 

Because deep down... Everyone knows what I said above... is true!

 

Men have a hard enough time with the internet and porn... You want to throw them in the lions den... with REAL women they actually can talk to and be with?

 

Why ruin a perfectly good relationship / marriage by tempting fate?

 

REAL MEN DO NOT FACEBOOK

 

 

 

Agreed 100% I don't have a facebook nor will I ever have one. It's true it makes cheating easier. My ex left me for someone she met over facebook. What a ****ing joke.

[BlindRage]

Yeah, I remember her telling me how much she loved me, just 2 weeks before she left. Saying things like, you'll always be mine, my heart is all yours, I could never let you go.

 

Guess you never really know what's going through a woman's mind. Somewhere inside, she must have known she wasn't in love with me anymore.

 

 

I remember the day before she broke up with me saying: "I love you so much and we will always be together forever"

[Fermentum]

Damn the FB! I just logged on to check my messages before going to sleep. And my brother was logged in, and she was in the online contact bar, so I popped over before really thinking about it. It was nothing bad, I think her and the rebound broke up so it was nothing dramatic or painful. I'm ust pissed at myself for breaking. But it's been the holidays and its been really hard, so maybe thats the reason. Ah, well. Long story short: FB is the devil. Because people will present a persona online that is different from what they're actually feeling. So all those that slip up and look at the Ex's FB and think they're doing well...it may be a lie. They more than likely are just keeping up appearances. Hope that this helps.