StarryEyes86 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 I went on a few dates with this guy about a month ago. He didn't contact me much after the first date, I initiated contact (whoops) and then he told me he was getting a job promotion and work transfer to another city and state. He wanted to go out again just for fun and we hung out and messed around, then made plans to go on one more date before he left for training. We ended up not meeting because he had to meet a coworker for study material for training. He said he would keep in touch and I just left it at that and didn't respond. I'm pretty active in the dating scene and moved on anyway, and even though I did really like this guy, I let it go because it seemed he wasn't that interested in me after our first date and the only reason why there was a second date was because he knew I was interested in messing around with him. I'm not anticipating ever seeing him again, but he was a pretty cool guy and I'd like to keep in touch with him just as a friend if anything. I haven't contacted him since he canceled on our date and like I said, I didn't respond to his last text to me. I'm wondering if I should wish him a Merry Christmas or would I come across as desperate, annoying, etc. I thought it would be a nice gesture but I don't want to send off any wrong signals. Thanks everyone! Hope you have a great day
refurb Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 I'm not anticipating ever seeing him again, but he was a pretty cool guy and I'd like to keep in touch with him just as a friend if anything. If that's you're TRUE reason for contacting him, then why not? It won't come across as anything but a nice thing to do. RF
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 I'm glad I did it. He texted me back "Merry Christmas" as well. Thanks everyone. I think I should just leave it at that? Or should I text, "Thank you" at least? I dunno. Maybe not. No biggie at this point. I'm just glad it wasn't going to be as awkward as I thought it would be.
TaraMaiden Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 I'm laughing right now.... Do you really need advice on "Erm, should I txt back 'thank you'...?" And then? If he texts back "you're welcome" do you want advice on how to respond to that....? Don't you think you're over-thinking this? Jeesh, enough already...just leave it! You just need to stop analysing everything,and just chill! Hyper-analysis causes paralysis.... Sometimes, a hi, is just a hi.....
ecm Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 I'm laughing right now.... Do you really need advice on "Erm, should I txt back 'thank you'...?" And then? If he texts back "you're welcome" do you want advice on how to respond to that....? Don't you think you're over-thinking this? Jeesh, enough already...just leave it! You just need to stop analysing everything,and just chill! Hyper-analysis causes paralysis.... Sometimes, a hi, is just a hi..... I hadn't been on in a while & I almost forgot how funny/wise you are!
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 I'm laughing right now.... Do you really need advice on "Erm, should I txt back 'thank you'...?" And then? If he texts back "you're welcome" do you want advice on how to respond to that....? Don't you think you're over-thinking this? Jeesh, enough already...just leave it! You just need to stop analysing everything,and just chill! Hyper-analysis causes paralysis.... Sometimes, a hi, is just a hi..... Thanks, I just re-read what I wrote and realized how ridiculous I'm sounding.
joeLove Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 I have the feeling a (wilder) part of you would like to have a little fun with this guy before he leaves ... :D:D no?
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 I have the feeling a (wilder) part of you would like to have a little fun with this guy before he leaves ... :D:D no? Bahaha...well, he already left a few weeks ago for training and then I *think* he gets reassigned to his new place right after. However, before he left he hinted to me that he would be coming back to pack all his things together. As much as I would like to have some fun with him, I sincerely doubt it will happen. Plus, since he told me he was moving, I was more interested in pursuing a friendship with him since a relationship wouldn't be possible and I thought it was early enough in the dating scene to make that switch.
refurb Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 I have the feeling a (wilder) part of you would like to have a little fun with this guy before he leaves ... :D:D no? I was thinking the same thing. There is WAY too much over-thinking for this to be only a friendship. Go for it! Nothing wrong with a quick fling before he leaves! RF
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 I was thinking the same thing. There is WAY too much over-thinking for this to be only a friendship. Go for it! Nothing wrong with a quick fling before he leaves! RF Well...I tend to over-think a lot of things in my life, even in friendships. It just stems from low self-confidence and the constant worry that I annoy all my friends. I think that's why I'm in graduate school for analyzing British folios because that requires someone to over-think on a regular basis and write about said over-thinking in the form of a dissertation. I usually keep my over-thinking inside my head...except here and in my academic writing lol I guess if he wanted a quick fling when he got back from training before he moved to his new location...If I'm single when that time came, I wouldn't mind. I suppose then, if you were me...how would one go about umm...making the fling happen...I don't usually do things like this, which is why I'm so lost. My original intention of sending the Merry Christmas text was just to open that door of communication again since he sent the last text a few weeks ago and I never responded. And he wished me a Merry Christmas right back and I left it at that and haven't responded. I guess if you were me, what would you do next? I'm actually irritating myself re-reading this so I *sincerely* apologize for coming off as a whiny confused teenage girl. Thanks for helping me on this journey.
ecm Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Well...I tend to over-think a lot of things in my life, even in friendships. It just stems from low self-confidence and the constant worry that I annoy all my friends. I think that's why I'm in graduate school for analyzing British folios because that requires someone to over-think on a regular basis and write about said over-thinking in the form of a dissertation. I usually keep my over-thinking inside my head...except here and in my academic writing lol I guess if he wanted a quick fling when he got back from training before he moved to his new location...If I'm single when that time came, I wouldn't mind. I suppose then, if you were me...how would one go about umm...making the fling happen...I don't usually do things like this, which is why I'm so lost. My original intention of sending the Merry Christmas text was just to open that door of communication again since he sent the last text a few weeks ago and I never responded. And he wished me a Merry Christmas right back and I left it at that and haven't responded. I guess if you were me, what would you do next? I'm actually irritating myself re-reading this so I *sincerely* apologize for coming off as a whiny confused teenage girl. Thanks for helping me on this journey. I do the same thing. I annoy myself, as well. At least we're aware of it It's how our brains work- we can't change that, but hopefully we can learn from our experiences! I swear this website is what helped me get over my "BIG" ex. (not that YOU need to get over this guy- just saying it's a good place to hear advice/ annoy yourself-hee hee) Good luck! xo
Author StarryEyes86 Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 I do the same thing. I annoy myself, as well. At least we're aware of it It's how our brains work- we can't change that, but hopefully we can learn from our experiences! I swear this website is what helped me get over my "BIG" ex. (not that YOU need to get over this guy- just saying it's a good place to hear advice/ annoy yourself-hee hee) Good luck! xo Thanks ecm! It's assuring to know I'm not alone in this. I just want to make sure I'm doing everything "right".
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