Femmefatale Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 My BF and I are 28 and 26 and have lived together for quite some time. We both get along very well, rarely have any fights, care for each other...but the romance and passion is missing? He had difficulty getting along with my family in the past and serious issues with my sibling. I feel like I'm the only one that tries to bring up the future and marriage and he has said six months ago that he wasn't 100% sure if I am the one. We almost broke up then but it didn't happen....we built a lot together and I couldn't bare the thought of letting go someone who is smart, responsible, caring, funny, etc. I guess I was willing to wait for him to sort out issues with my family (which may never happen)...We are now in a short term long distance relationship...and I still love him but...I'm not IN love with him. Our sex life is dry and we usually just stay home to watch movies...I want more adventure instead of sitting around. Is this something we can fix? Or is it time to move on? Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 My BF and I are 28 and 26 and have lived together for quite some time. We both get along very well, rarely have any fights, care for each other...but the romance and passion is missing? He had difficulty getting along with my family in the past and serious issues with my sibling. I feel like I'm the only one that tries to bring up the future and marriage and he has said six months ago that he wasn't 100% sure if I am the one. We almost broke up then but it didn't happen....we built a lot together and I couldn't bare the thought of letting go someone who is smart, responsible, caring, funny, etc. I guess I was willing to wait for him to sort out issues with my family (which may never happen)...We are now in a short term long distance relationship...and I still love him but...I'm not IN love with him. Our sex life is dry and we usually just stay home to watch movies...I want more adventure instead of sitting around. Is this something we can fix? Or is it time to move on? IMO things can change but only if both people in the relationship put 100% in to improving and saving the relationship. In your case, with you no longer being in love with him, and him not being sure you're the one, it just seems like it's time to break up. Of course it's hard to let go of a 5 year relationship but it seems like you've hung on a good year too long already. Sometimes knowing when to let go and move on is just as important as knowing how and when to work things out. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 I agree with allina that it may be time to cut your losses. There is someone out there for you, but if you stay with someone you are not in love with and have no future with, then you will be missing out on meeting other people. Link to post Share on other sites
paleblue Posted December 27, 2010 Share Posted December 27, 2010 Im going to go with what the other two posters have said so far. I know what you mean when things sorta dry up in the romance department. It sucks, but it’s sorta expected to happen. You can get by that. Tho add to that the difficulty with getting along with the family, kinda makes it hard if family is important to you. But the most alarming thing to me you said that sticks out is 1) him saying he wasn’t 100% sure six months ago if you are the one. Really?? That is like a death blow to the relationship. Why bother at that point? and 2) You saying you love him but are not in love with him. Another death blow. You’ve both killed each other. Unless you both jump start this somehow...... It kinda sounds like it’s a relationship of convenience and comfort at this point. But I know change is scary. So are broken hearts. Link to post Share on other sites
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