aerogurl87 Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 I'd say to avoid your ex's facebook page at all costs. I didn't and it's how I found out my ex left me for someone, and after putting a comment on his wall about how I hoped his new girlfriend liked knowing he had told me I was the one the morning before , I got blocked. Best thing he could've done because it allowed me to heal more and move on with my life instead of stalking his facebook to see if there was any hint for a reconcilliation. But how the tables have turned now as he's the one who unblocked me and keeps sending me text messages telling me to listen to all these love songs now. Link to post Share on other sites
SDA Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 this wasn't on hers it was on mine Link to post Share on other sites
J Wool Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 I give u an example of what FB has done for me. 2 weeks after moving out she d-friend me but keep some of my families as friend. Also she blocked me on msn. Fast fwd to 4 months she emailed me inviting me to be friends becoz she is no longer angry with me and...wait for it...she has started dating. As hurt as I was I managed to wish her well and accepted the request to see what was going on. Only to find out that she has been talking about her new fling from September (which makes it 2 months after I move). The day I accepted the request was the day she made the most posts. As heart wrenching as it was I remain calm not 1 comment. Then I did what I felt was right, deactivated my account and all other social sites, msn and others become dormant and fully initiated NC. One week after NC she then unblock me on msn. I can tell you I was half way thru the healing process but that email and FB posts pushes things to day 1. Since then I have been on it once to check out a girl I met then it hit me (check to c if she was trying to make me jealous). Well I can tell u the posting about the new fling has stopped. Trust me it's better to not know becoz u don't want to know that they are happy (even if it's pretending). Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Almost five months after the breakup and four months on NC I checked my exes Facebook one last time before blocking her. Nothing noteworthy on there but seeing her face again still hurt. I blocked her, deleted her phone number, burned notes from her, and threw the key to her townhouse in the bay. I feel like I'm starting a new life. Link to post Share on other sites
Good Arms Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 NOTHING good comes from looking. NOTHING. It doesn't matter what you find, it will bring you down. If she's obviously with somebody, that would devastate me. If she's not apparently, then she is choosing being single over being with me. This is so true. At first it killed me that she would rather be single than carry on with me. Well, it still does. What's that supposed to do to your self-esteem?! And then when I saw evidence she was interested in someone else just 3 weeks on, that destroyed me. I was so upset that week I ended up taking a couple of days of work. EVERYTHING I saw when I couldn't resist snooping on her FB in those early weeks hurt me, even the mundane things that were open to interpretation. It took me time and a lot of painful setbacks to see the light, but believe me... if you were dumped, you do not want to look at your ex's Facebook. BLOCK THEM! And homebrew's post earlier was fantastic. Link to post Share on other sites
JimmyB26 Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 I was facebook friends with the ex for months, almost a year after the breakup. Things between us got very rocky. She texted me and hung out with me for months after the breakup, during her LDR with her new guy. Didn't show him a whole lot of respect by doing so, either. Anyway, she sent me a couple of really racist jokes around December 2009 and I criticized her for it, and suddenly she wanted to be left alone - typical of this girl, since months before she'd sent me a bikini photo of her from a trip to see the new guy, while I was with a new girl, and I called her on that bull**** too, which sent her into a similar rage episode. We didn't talk for a while after the December 2009 incident, until I got a text for my birthday in early Feb - she saw pictures from the party on my facebook. She liked a couple more of my statuses, and after a call on the phone about the time of her college graduation in April, she said something to the effect of her not seeing us being friends anymore. Okay, I said - not friends? No need to be facebook friends, and quickly defriended her. Her retaliation? I still laugh about it - to punish me, she went so private that the only trace of her is sometimes I'll see a thumbnail picture next to some of her old comments and sometimes I won't. I'm guessing that every so often she lowers the privacy level so that she can run a search on me or something. Link to post Share on other sites
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