homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 (edited) Sorry... You are getting sound advice... Listen! You were just dumped... Your world is upside down... You do not know which way is up. You are not of sound mind or body at the moment... Trust us and not yourself! Edited December 29, 2010 by homebrew Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2010_Sorry Posted December 29, 2010 Author Share Posted December 29, 2010 Thanks to everyone. You're absolutely right. I didn't get sappy... I simply replied back and told him that I am moving on and working on becoming the best I can be for whatever the future holds for me. I asked that he stop discussing our marriage, and his pain over the loss of our family with me, as it is too painful. Enough crying... lacing up my boots! Link to post Share on other sites
Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Thanks to everyone. You're absolutely right. I didn't get sappy... I simply replied back and told him that I am moving on and working on becoming the best I can be for whatever the future holds for me. I asked that he stop discussing our marriage, and his pain over the loss of our family with me, as it is too painful. Enough crying... lacing up my boots! That was a mean reply. You could've said it better, but remember, YOU were the one pining after him and disrupting his healing process. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I agree.. you could have worded that nicer. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Thanks to everyone. You're absolutely right. I didn't get sappy... I simply replied back and told him that I am moving on and working on becoming the best I can be for whatever the future holds for me. I asked that he stop discussing our marriage, and his pain over the loss of our family with me, as it is too painful. Enough crying... lacing up my boots! Now what? You wait for the response right? Keep the dialogue going? Does his girlfriend know about any of this? Does she know you are actively trying to win him back? Are you hoping that his fear of losing you forever will make him decide to be with you again? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2010_Sorry Posted December 30, 2010 Author Share Posted December 30, 2010 LOL... that wasn't my reply verbatim. I thought it was important that he knew that I was doing what he asked me to do, to move on. While I want to be there for him when he needs me, talking about our marriage and how he hurts over us is too painful for me to hear when he's not ready to work on us. I'm really trying to do what he asked me to do. Not saying that I'm getting out there and dating other people... but I need to work on convincing myself that HE has moved on... and his e-mails and texts about how much he misses our family only pulls me back in... Unless he is wanting me back, I don't think there is any point in stringing me along. Trust me, it wasn't a mean reply... I gave you guys the watered down version....it was very heartfelt. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted December 30, 2010 Share Posted December 30, 2010 Chances are deep down he still wants you but the trust is just not there anymore. It is going to be hard bringing that back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2010_Sorry Posted December 30, 2010 Author Share Posted December 30, 2010 Now what? You wait for the response right? Keep the dialogue going? Does his girlfriend know about any of this? Does she know you are actively trying to win him back? Are you hoping that his fear of losing you forever will make him decide to be with you again? No, I'm hoping I don't get a response. As a reponse relating to our relationship will only set me back even further. I honestly don't know if his girlfriend knows that I wanted to get back together before they started their relationship. (You probably don't know, but I starting pushing reconciliation when he was single... when he told me that he was in a new relationship, I backed off.) I'm hoping that we both can heal.... if that brings us back together it would be wonderful... if not, then I am learning to accept that. Link to post Share on other sites
PowerOfOne Posted December 30, 2010 Share Posted December 30, 2010 I'm hoping that we both can heal.... if that brings us back together it would be wonderful... if not, then I am learning to accept that. Good attitude to have. Never say never but don't count on it. Link to post Share on other sites
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