tenderhearted Posted March 17, 2004 Share Posted March 17, 2004 I met this guy and he asked for my number. He's called and we've spoken a few times. He calls about once a day. We just met about a week or two ago, although the first week I was rather busy and missed most of his calls (according to my caller ID). Not until the past few days have we actually been in constant contact. He's been to my place once, and I've been to his place once. He's called this week and twice I've missed his call (again!) I don't want him to think I'm avoiding him! So (finally) my question is this: Should I ask for his number or should I wait for him to volunteer it? Once, I mentioned that I would need to call him back (trying to give him a hint to give me his number) but he suggested he'd just call ME back. I know it shouldn't be a big deal since we're both grown adults and I don't think he has anything to hide (I've been to his place and he appears to be a bachelor). Didn't mention having a wife nor did I see a wedding ring, haha. In fact he said that he was single so I see no reason why he hasn't given it to me by now. Normally when I meet a guy, we exchange numbers mutually but it didn't happen that way this time so I have no idea if i should just ask for his number so that he doesn't always have to be the one calling me. Technically I know his number anyway since it shows up on my caller ID but I don't want to just call unless he gives me the ok. A part of me feels like I'm just making a hill into a mountain and I just need to take a chill pill and ask the man for his dang number, LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 17, 2004 Share Posted March 17, 2004 I don't know if its this way with everyone, but I've found that with caller ID being the norm, it's almost an unneccesary step--if you call a gal, you're giving her permission to call you back with your number, unless you block it. Link to post Share on other sites
RedneckRomeo Posted March 18, 2004 Share Posted March 18, 2004 Well, I am in a somewhat similar situation. I like this girl, and I'd like to call her sometime, and even though I do know her number, it feels strange to call without asking first if I could. What I'd do though - is what I did in another situation. Find an excuse to call him - any one will do - but better to have a good one - and jsut call him up. Pretend you have a genuine interest in this other subject, and then just start a normal conversation after you find out what you need. Then you also will have a chance to ask if he minds you calling. Most likely he wont care, and you will have permission to call more if you like. I'm trying to get a good excuse to call her - and then I'm gonna take my own advice. ...someday... Link to post Share on other sites
Regulus Posted March 18, 2004 Share Posted March 18, 2004 Once, I mentioned that I would need to call him back (trying to give him a hint to give me his number) but he suggested he'd just call ME back. weird... Next time you talk to him, ask for his number. If it's an issue again, walk away b/c that's shady behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
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