Married_Woman Posted March 17, 2004 Posted March 17, 2004 Question for the married women... My husband of 3 years, has days every now and than that he does Speed, close our bedroom door, he's up all night watching porn, looking at his porn magazines. He says all men do that. Does yours? Thanks for answering... D. Quote
SoleMate Posted March 17, 2004 Posted March 17, 2004 No, my husband does not do speed, and never stays up all night watching porn. He does look at porn a bit. The real question is whether this bothers you. If so, it doesn't matter who else does or doesn't do it. Does this behavior cause problems in your marriage? Quote
tattoomytoe Posted March 17, 2004 Posted March 17, 2004 ask your father, your uncle, maybe your brother if they do that. what a load of crap! effectively delivered by an addict! Quote
Fritz Posted March 17, 2004 Posted March 17, 2004 Well considering I'm a man, I might be somewhat qualified to answer. My answer is, no not all men do speed and watch/read porn all night. Read/watch porn occasionally yes. Obsessively while doing drugs..no. He has a serious problem. Quote
Thinkalot Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 No my partner does not do that. I certainly do not think all men do. Quote
red-rose-in-winter Posted March 20, 2004 Posted March 20, 2004 NO, my husband doesn't do speed, or any other drugs. He doesn't stay up all night looking at porn either!!! Quote
Karlise Posted March 20, 2004 Posted March 20, 2004 I am not married but in a long term committed relationship. My BF reads PlayBoy...but that's about it. I read it too. And he NEVER does speed. Just a beer or two at night. Speed is way too hard core and addicting...I would be very upset if I knew he was doing that Quote
gaia Posted March 20, 2004 Posted March 20, 2004 My husband has never done speed or stayed up all night watching porn. I don't think he even looks at porn (except involuntarily on the net), but I don't really care if he does, since it has no detrimental effect on us. Quote
redhead30 Posted March 21, 2004 Posted March 21, 2004 No. He does tons of other stupid stuff, but looking at porn all night is not one of them. Quote
Wolvesbaned Posted March 21, 2004 Posted March 21, 2004 Married_Woman, I have been married for 4 years and my husband does not do that. In fact, I know of no man or woman, that does. I hope our responses so far has shed some light for you. Quote
Arabess Posted March 21, 2004 Posted March 21, 2004 I would think doing speed while clicking on porn all night would be EXHUASTING! Only YOU can be in a position to evaluate if this is a relationship you want to remain in. I sure wouldn't. A little of this and that is acceptable. If it's interupting your normal relationship though.....it needs to be addressed. I would NOT consider it NORMAL! Quote
carla Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 This poster says another NO on the speed and another NO on the staying up alnight reading/watching porn. Quote
rennelea Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 Hun. Get this guy help. Now. Or you will end up as Desperately_Unhappy_Married_Woman. This is not normal behavior, especially if he says it is. Porn is unnatural and speed... well, let's just say that I have seen what drug addiction can do to a marriage and a family and you do not want to go there. Quote
bplbarnes Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by Married_Woman Question for the married women... My husband of 3 years, has days every now and than that he does Speed, close our bedroom door, he's up all night watching porn, looking at his porn magazines. He says all men do that. Does yours? Thanks for answering... D. At the end of the day - if it bothers you and he doesn't stop - do something constructive about it!!! Talk to him, talk to his friends, find out if there is an underlying issue maybe?? Quote
li'l bunny Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 My hubby does not do that. The only time he looks at porn is with me and then he doesn't really want to. As for the drugs....I really hope you have no kids involved in this. My H has never done drugs and would never to drugs. I know a few men who go out now and again and do it but certainly not married men. Quote
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by Married_Woman Question for the married women... My husband of 3 years, has days every now and than that he does Speed, close our bedroom door, he's up all night watching porn, looking at his porn magazines. He says all men do that. Does yours? Thanks for answering... D. No. Mine will smoke a little and stay up all night programming his game stuff (he is a software and game developer/programmer) or watching movies from Blockbuster. He'll look at pictures of nude women (mostly artistic or deviant type stuff) and occasionally some actual porn between other things he happens to be doing on the computer, but its not too often, nor is it for too long at a time. Being pleasantly high doesn't lend itself well to hardcore porn/sex/masturbation. The mind simply wanders before you can even get there. Heh. There's only so much excitement one can get out of it anyway before it just becomes motion on a screen. I watch it more than he does, and I don't watch it that often. I can't imagine setting aside an entire night for drugs and porn! Geez!! Is it some hobby for him? Or a compulsion? How old is he? What's your sex life like otherwise? Quote
JadeStar Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 No my husband doesn't do speed. Yes he has watched porn sometimes. I don't know that I would say that ALL men do it, I think alot of the time people that say that, its just a way of them justifying what it is they are doing. Also it depends on the amount of time hes viewing it, if its all night, every night or just about every night, then I would say he needs some help. For the speed as well. Good luck. Quote
whichwayisup Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 My husband doesn't do that, no porn and no speed. SOME men may do that, but not all men. I think if it is bothering you then you need to talk to him. Find out why he has to beat off to porn alot. The speed is another issue all the together. Tell him how it makes you feel and somehow it is affecting your life and the marriage?? Good luck. Quote
Rosewilt Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 No, my husband does not do either. He may look at porn and maybe I dont know. But he doesnt do drugs. I think it's a huge problem and he needs help, you need to talk to him because that's harmful to his health and to yours. Dont play with your health Quote
RecordProducer Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 My ex-husband was masturbating with a porn magazine when I was "very" pregnant ( ) and couldn't make love to him anymore. A friend of mine who's married told me he used porn sites for that purpose, but I don't know how often. Many men love porn. If I were you I would be worried about him doing speed. I don't know what speed is exactly and how it affects the brain, but I get the impression that you mind the porn part more than the drug part. I think what a man does with his penis when he is alone is his own business. I understand that you would like him to sleep with you and not stay up all night with pictures of other naked women. Why doesn't he make love with you instead? Do you reject him or does he reject you? What he does shows how unsatisfied he is with his life. Maybe you should help him instead of accusing him. You didn't post enough information. Quote
mandyraen Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Hey Im actually so glad you wrote this, my husband does the same thing!He only used to do speed every once in a while, but now starting to get a litlle out of control.And he is so sexual on it also, looks at magizines,and computers, and likes to talk about fantasies. Now im thinking he is getting to interested in his fantasies and may want it to become reality, i dont know what to do. Quote
km Posted May 8, 2005 Posted May 8, 2005 I can tell you, from past experience, that some husbands surely do practice what your husband says is normal -- and that those husbands are ADDICTS. The porn is a compulsion that he needs to practice WHEN he does speed, which he does because he's addicted. And he's got no time for you to get in the way of this habit. He is trying to buy himself the time alone to do what he wants, when he wants it, by giving you this line of bull. The bull indicates a level of DISrespect for you, and a level of desperation. I was lucky - I stayed with my husband and he eventually broke his addiction. But without any counseling, and so underlying issues (immaturity, mistrust, arrogance) remain, and it ain't no picnic. I'd start going to Nar-anon asap. If you want to stay married, that's one thing. But place yourself first. Take care of yourself. Quote
amy1975 Posted May 8, 2005 Posted May 8, 2005 no my hubby doesn't do speed or look at porn. What a waste of time-he could be doing something more constructive than wank off to internet porn. I don't know how women can stay married to assclowns like these guys-i wouldn't respect him, let alone have any desire to sleep with him. do you have daughters-if so, watch them real well when they around 'daddy' Quote
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