uwantomakeout26 Posted March 17, 2004 Share Posted March 17, 2004 [color=darkred][/color]All Right here's the situation. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months now, and her ex-ex-ex boyfriend keeps calling all the time and won't leave her alone. He will write her messages calling her a whore, slut, bitch, and many more things, but then he turns right around and says i am sorry i still love you and all of this crap. She's tired of it and so am I. What do i do? I want to say something to him but she doesn't want me to cause she knows he will just want to fight. What can her and I do? Link to post Share on other sites
lostforwords Posted March 17, 2004 Share Posted March 17, 2004 block ALL communication with him.... tell her to refuse to accept messages whether it via email sms cell phone answering machine.... block all of it..... Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted March 17, 2004 Share Posted March 17, 2004 The authorities in your city/county need to notified right now about this guy's behavior. The next time he contacts your girlfriend, she needs to firmly state that he is to stop contacting her. Don't ever talk to him again. Don't ever attempt to seek out this guy and confront him. Your girlfriend needs to keep copies of every letter and email he sends. She also needs to have her phone set up so she can trace any calls that are incoming. I'd even advise getting two phones--getting a new unlisted number and only telling friends and family about the new number. If her ex is harassing her by phone, he will still continue to call the other number. Get an answering machine for the old number and let it pick up all the calls. If he attempts to come by her house, call the police each time. She shouldn't allow this guy to keep stalking her, because that sounds like what he is doing. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted March 17, 2004 Share Posted March 17, 2004 Morrigan has it right. Have your girlfriend block all forms of communication, yet save every date/time and notes of what was said in each message that he leaves. Save answering machine messages, emails, and the like. It may be a good idea to change her phone numbers, but this often times costs money and phone companies are not always all too helpful with the process*. Keep a log of everything this guy does. If he does not stop your girlfriend can go to the police (Not the authorities. Police are not the authorities on anything**) and file for a TRO [Temporary Restraining Order]. She will have to see him in court again, but he would be legally barred from any type of communication with her, and criminal charges of harassment can also be filed against him. Please be sure to keep a record of all communications. * I had good luck with Verizon, who gladly changed my number free of charge as it was my first time doing so. The biggest bonus was an accident on their behalf, as my number is actually listed to someone else in an entirely different city I have anonymity. ** No offense to honest officers who serve the community, but when it comes to knowledge of the law police really do not know anything. They are not required to have a degree in law, so I never take legal advice from an unqualified officer. Link to post Share on other sites
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