Men That Dont How To Use Tools Or Change A Tire?

[tincanman99]

First off let me say I am not one of those guys. My family were master carpenters and masons from Europe. I know how to do it all.

 

This realization started when my neighbor had a flat tire and I had to go over and change the tire for him because he did not know how to do it. As a matter of fact he did not even know how to hold a screwdriver nor use the lug wrench.

 

I am coming to find out that there are LOTS of men like this. I am pretty surprised. They dont like fiddling with things and frankly wont even do basic things like changing a faucet washer.

 

What do women think of men that are like this? Is it generally viewed in a negative way?

[AverageJoe]

This could turn out to be a great thread on the pussification of men. Please continue.

I will abstain for now.

[colliejoanie]

Gah! This is SO annoying. I grew up surrounded by "manly" men. I now live in a large city and recently had a dead battery in my car. I was in a major park and ride. I was ASTOUNDED by how many men didn't have jumper cables......Let alone the number of men that just walked by me and hustled into their cars!

 

I ended up getting help from a teenage boy who's parents obviously raised him right!

[welikeincrowds]

pussification

 

Can't find that one in the OED

[Hopeful30]

For me its a BIG turn off.

 

They expect us to cook and clean and do everything else, but he can't even change a tire? So now we gotta do that too? I don't think so.

[deebeechrisyo]

Yeah, I have at least two pairs of jumper cables in my car at all times, plus a car jack, etc.

 

I've met guys that don't even know how to jump start a car. The last generation of fathers really ****ed up!

[Hopeful30]

The last generation of fathers really ****ed up!

 

Agreed. Theres not many decent men left. People want equality and to be rid of the traditional mentality... well this is what you get!

[yah]

My SO doesn't know how to change tires or replace a faucet. Doesn't bother me one bit. Growing up, we called and paid people to do that stuff.

[Star Gazer]

IMO, a real man knows how to change a tire and how to use tools, and knows his way around the grill.

[Woggle]

I am very handy and I damn near rebuilt my house myself with some minor help but women except my wife and a few others can change their own damn tires. They are not entitled to my free services. Women should know how to do these things as well.

[Feelin Frisky]

I do what I have to but am not the home workshop enthusiast. I have done stuff like install fog lights on my car and put in a white face gauge dash panel in the last few months and usually accomplish what I set out to do with a wrench, wire cutters, screw driver, soldering iron, jack and what not. I did try to install RAM on my last computer and wound up destroying it. So there's a limit. I hate dropping screws into tiny places and trying to get simms in at impossible angles. I should have left that to proffesionals. I am usually resourceful and diagnose most technical matters--be they in the household, the auto and the computer--correctly. Will someone marry me now please. (Sorry, I won't be caught dead in an apron but I do cook.)

[Pfiend101]

My father (step dad) always had me with him while working on cars/ motorcycles around the house. I have a good grasp of that type of stuff. Major projects I probably can't do but alot of stuff I can. I change my oil/do breaks etc etc. I'm also an Commercial Electrician.

 

I expect someone to call me if they need electrical work. Just as I think they should expect me to call them if I need plumbing done. I do what I do and they do what they do.

 

People that dont know how to do stuff around the house were probably raised by wealthier familys who are able to pay for the "dirtier" jobs. IMO

[yah]

I do what I have to but am not the home workshop enthusiast. I have done stuff like install fog lights on my car and put in a white face gauge dash panel in the last few months and usually accomplish what I set out to do with a wrench, wire cutters, screw driver, soldering iron, jack and what not. I did try to install RAM on my last computer and wound up destroying it. So there's a limit. I hate dropping screws into tiny places and trying to get simms in at impossible angles. I should have left that to proffesionals. I am usually resourceful and diagnose most technical matters--be they in the household, the auto and the computer--correctly. Will someone marry me now please. (Sorry, I won't be caught dead in an apron but I do cook.)

 

Ah, I was wondering if tools included computer-related stuff. In that case, I change I change my answer, OP. Understanding computers and coding is a turn on for me so, yes, knowing how to use certain "tools" are important. Things like home remodeling, I don't care for.

[Els]

I I did try to install RAM on my last computer and wound up destroying it.

 

Good grief, that's the first time I heard of THAT happening! Usually people who destroy their computer are mucking with the power supply, mobo or trying to overclock it. How did it happen!? Did you break something while trying to insert it, rewire the cables wrongly or something?

 

Anyhow, I'm not too fussed about such things - I don't really believe in division of skills or tasks merely based on gender. I'm not a great cook, although I can whip up most basic dishes, so I don't expect my guy to be Mr. DIY either. I am, however, better at fixing computer and network problems, both hardware and software, than most guys I know. Have already helped several male friends set up their routers or reformat their computers.

 

That being said, I do believe both genders should grow the **** up and learn to change a lightbulb AND cook well enough to keep themselves from starving if there isn't a McDs nearby. It would definitely be a turn-off if the bf couldn't do any of those. Fortunately, he can.

Edited December 31, 2010 by Elswyth

[wheream_i]

I'm in my early 30's and growing up, my dad was a jack of all trades. Did a little bit of construction, worked on the family vehicles, etc. and always tried to teach me a little bit of everything. Being a young kid, I didn't have the attention span past just playing with my friends and getting into trouble. Fast forward to my late teens and me getting my first flat tire out in the middle of nowhere all on my own. It took me nearly an hour to change it, lol! You can bet my mind went back to that family trip twenty years earlier when my pops got me out of the car to watch him change the tire.

 

These days I can change a tire no sweat, jump start another vehicle with my own cables, saw my own firewood and take pride that I can do things that "a man should know how to do" as my dad is fond of saying.

 

Maybe it is the "pussification" of men in America as I know a lot of men who would rather pay someone to do their dirty work. But I also think a lot of it comes down to single women with children and the media and their portrayal of female celebrities raising children without a man. Who needs a man in the house, right?

[Hopeful30]

I am very handy and I damn near rebuilt my house myself with some minor help but women except my wife and a few others can change their own damn tires. They are not entitled to my free services. Women should know how to do these things as well.

 

Then I suppose you know how to cook and sew?

[zengirl]

First off let me say I am not one of those guys. My family were master carpenters and masons from Europe. I know how to do it all.

 

This realization started when my neighbor had a flat tire and I had to go over and change the tire for him because he did not know how to do it. As a matter of fact he did not even know how to hold a screwdriver nor use the lug wrench.

 

I am coming to find out that there are LOTS of men like this. I am pretty surprised. They dont like fiddling with things and frankly wont even do basic things like changing a faucet washer.

 

What do women think of men that are like this? Is it generally viewed in a negative way?

 

Wouldn't care about the faucet, so long as he can call a plumber. I can change a tire, but if the guy has AAA or whatever, I don't care. As long as he has some way to do everything he needs to be self-sufficient, I'm cool. If he's prissy about something basic that I'd do --- like changing a lightbulb or hanging a picture --- I'd find that a bit odd.

[Woggle]

Then I suppose you know how to cook and sew?

 

I actually do. Not sewing so much but I am a great cook. I did the household stuff just fine when I was single.

[Hopeful30]

I actually do. Not sewing so much but I am a great cook. I did the household stuff just fine when I was single.

 

So then I assume that your wife cooks for herself, and you cook for yourself right? After all you said your services aren't free. So that means that both of you do everything for yourselves. And god forbid she gets a flat tire, her husband wouldn't dare come to the rescue! But hey! At least he can cook his own meals

[zengirl]

I actually do. Not sewing so much but I am a great cook. I did the household stuff just fine when I was single.

 

FTR, I agree with your stance (everyone should be self-sufficient), Woggle.

 

Though not the whole attitude. I can change a tire; if anyone needed help, I'd help them out -- male or female -- if I could (and wasn't endangering myself), just because it's nice.

[Woggle]

So then I assume that your wife cooks for herself, and you cook for yourself right? After all you said your services aren't free. So that means that both of you do everything for yourselves. And god forbid she gets a flat tire, her husband wouldn't dare come to the rescue! But hey! At least he can cook his own meals

 

I said that my wife is different and so are other women I know. I just don't go out of my way to help women I do not know. There is a chance they could be a manhater and be looking at me as dumb muscle so I don't give free service to them.

[Feelin Frisky]

...How did it happen!? Did you break something while trying to insert it, rewire the cables wrongly or something?....

 

The computer was not designed very well for access. It was an HP Media Center PC and you'd expect an HP desktop to have some accessibility but the hard drive, CD writer and other stuff were all covering the memory slots. I was tring to hook up a music device for guitar which needed twice as much RAM as I had. The whole thing was a master abortion from start to finish. The salesman for the device sold it hard without knowing that it was a little ahead of the curve in its demands--assuring me hat it would run fine with my computer. Then they refused to take it back wehn it didn't claiming some kind of "software policy" as if I could use the software without the effects hardware. Anyway, I tried for hours to get SIMMs in without taking out all the other guts but I couldn't do it. I had to take everything out. Then I ran into that age old problem--having too many screws and connections left over--obviously leaving something undone.

 

Since I didn't have that much on the hard drive that wasn't backed up on CD or on an Internet drive, I just bought a new computer with all the RAM and processor speed I needed. I just treated myself to a new box instead of trying to put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I won't screw with that again though--computers aren't the easy access bus boxes I'm familair with any more.

[Distant78]

This is such a stereotype. So a man is not a man because he's not a craftsman.:rolleyes:What HAS this world come to. Now I've grown up surrounded by men, especially my father who's a former "preventer" for the government, who knows how to build houses, repair cars, the whole package. And as a result I've reluctantly obtained some of those skills, including those to survive in drastic situations.

 

But I don't use them unless it's extremely important and I prefer to pay someone a boat load of money so that they can make a living off of their skills they aquired over years of practice. I just don't have it in me to waste my precious time on Earth spending 40-minutes to 2 hours or even a few weeks trying to repair or compose something unless I really seriously have to.

 

And you women that do nothing but sit on your buns and look at your fingernails and toenails while us men outside do the hard work, need to get off your azzes, stop being selfish and thinking about cheating, and help your man before he injures himself by accident. You women cannot compare cooking a simple meal and washing clothes to being in negative degree weather trying to fix something.

[Hopeful30]

There is a chance they could be a manhater and be looking at me as dumb muscle so I don't give free service to them.

 

If there is a possibility that your wife looks at you like this then I feel sorry for you. If she is your wife, if she married you, and if she is spending her life with you, then I very highly doubt she is doing all of that just for your muscle. She can get muscle anywhere she wants, she doesn't have to marry it just to get help changing a tire.

 

I dunno. The way I see it, if people get married, then they help each other. All this talk of "my services" seems very childish to me.

[Hopeful30]

And you women that do nothing but sit on your buns and look at your fingernails and toenails while us men outside do the hard work, need to get off your azzes, stop being selfish and thinking about cheating, and help your man before he injures himself by accident. You women cannot compare cooking a simple meal and washing clothes to being in negative degree weather trying to fix something.

 

Talk about STEREOTYPE! Hypocrite

 

Okay. Instead of negative degree weather how about you give birth to a 10 lb baby out of your a**hole. Hows that?