jop Posted March 17, 2004 Share Posted March 17, 2004 hi! my name is matt, an my ex jus broke up with me bout 2 months ago. just before we start, my ex is a really confusing type an is a type of daydreamer. we were great (like 2 peas in a pod) completely inseperable, we saw eachother every week end an in college for the last 6 months we were together an i loved it cos i was spending time with a really great girl, she meant the world to me. we started having occasional bickering towards the end, an later she wanted to end it, she said it was something she didnt want and telling everyone that it wasnt all great because they didnt see wat it was like "behind the curtains". anyway, we saw eachother in a party bout 2 weeks later and she started talking to me and then sat on my lap (like she used to do). then later in the night we ended up kissing and danced together. while we were dancing she wispered in my ear "i love you" now i said it back because im the type that says wats on my mind. the next day i rang her house and she said she did all that because she was drunk and all her mates told her to kiss me that night. i was upset, an me and her had a falling out. 1 an a 1/2 weeks later she saw me in college around the back having a cigerette an asked for 1 off me, so i gave her one an talked, she then hugged me an i said "whats this for then?" and she replied "i dont know, i just felt like hugging you" then we got caught up and kissed. then she said that she wants to start again, but away from everyone else, like a secret relationship. i said "ok", an we went along with it. it went on for about a week and she stopped, suddenly out of the blue. then i asked her if she wanted to go to the prom with me, an she replied "i dont know, i dont want you, or anyone to get the wrong impression". so i left it there then a rumor went around that i was taking my ex before her to the prom, now she wont speak to me, her mates say that she thinks im obsessed with her. but im not i just care about us getting back!! sorry its sooo long, but i had to explain in full detail. someone help!!!! how do i get her back??????? Link to post Share on other sites
wishfullthinker2004 Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 Matt, you help me understand the male side, and I'll help you with the female side. Read (how do I reach him). In my shoes. Even if I was drunk, I would have NEVER danced with you or KISSED you for that matter if I didn't still care. You need to have feelings for someone before you do that, and I don't think that alchohal really makes that bit of a difference, unless she was faling over drunk and can't even stand. Chick is confused. Obviously cant thin for her self. She is still there, and I think she still loves you, and never wants you to let go of her. As she doesn't want to let go of you. Which in the same time, make you feel better, but...is hurting you more. Take it day by day. Maybe ask her to hang out with you, maybe she will come to her senses and make up her mind. Wishful. Link to post Share on other sites
Draco81 Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 its hard the last time i went out with my exgf was after christmas 2003 cause she wanted to give me my gift. we danced and kiss i felt so energized again that i thought i had her back. I thought wrong she she took a step back in stead of forward. that was the last time i saw her its been 3 month now and still wonder what went wrong. All I could say if she told you she loved you she'll come around.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jop Posted March 21, 2004 Author Share Posted March 21, 2004 thanx guys. ive decided that i need to jus be cool bout everything. show her that im getting on. on friday i went up the college an coz it was a nice day an i was goin out i dressed up smart and wen she went to her bus she couldnt stop looking at me!!?? so she came over to speak to my mates near me but i walked away and talked to someone else. she looked like she wanted to talk to me but i jus played it cool. was that a good thing?, is my situation good? and wat shall i do now? Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted March 21, 2004 Share Posted March 21, 2004 She sounds like a very confused girl who gets a kick out of toying with your heart. She is bad news dude and she will continue with this behavior as long as you allow her to. If you don't want to get your heart broken, repeatedly, you need to put a stop to this. Stop giving in; stop going along with what she says and leave her alone. This woman is poison. ~V Link to post Share on other sites
Author jop Posted March 22, 2004 Author Share Posted March 22, 2004 the girl aint poison tho..........c the thing is she is a really nice girl, but she is a confused type, u know not knowing wat shes doing an in a world of her own. with a girl like this how can i get her back! Link to post Share on other sites
CanadianBornCutie Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 There are differences between the confused type and wanting a world of her own and someone like her who treats you rather badly. The fact that she wanted to keep your relationship a SECRET is very rude. And i'd be offended if a guy told me that. You are a very caring individual and she may be immature and confused right now, but that is no excuse to treat you the way she is. It doesn't seem like she has respect for you or what relationship you had or have. I know you love her and if you want to hang out with her...but next time she goes in for a kiss or says I love you, you should tell her that don't do it if you don't mean it. don't play with my heart. If someone truly loves you she wouldn't hurt you. On the other hand she might not realize that she's doing this to you. trust me from experience, there are things that are always going to go wrong in a relaitonship it's never perfect it's how you handle situations that make your relationship stronger. The mistake i made was not bringing up things that bother me when they did and I let it slide.....and it kept continuing.... So in my final breath, you are a good person, i'm sure she is too, but i think you just deserve a little bit more respect. if she's going to kiss you, she should mean it and especially if she says she loves you keep us posted! P.S I think if you want her back...make her want you back......she has to realize what she's lost... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jop Posted March 24, 2004 Author Share Posted March 24, 2004 thanx. i appreciate all your help......its really made me think. in college i sometimes catch her eye and she looks away (as if she's just looking around), but i always catch her out!!! her birthday is coming up in a month so im not sure......but i might jus get her flowers sent to her house. not saying "i love you" or "im here always" or mushy stuff like that, but just "hope you enjoy your birthday, from matt". you know sumthing simple but could mean anything. thats what im aiming for anyway to do or give......sumthing simple but could mean anything. any thoughts or ideas will b appreciated and thanx canadian cutie Link to post Share on other sites
Author jop Posted March 27, 2004 Author Share Posted March 27, 2004 i found out wat went wrong wif us!!!!!!! me an her were going through a rough time an i was starting to get depression. i was always tellin her wat was wrong like with family, college an work. an she was going to college depressed coz i was depressed, an she couldnt get on wif her work. i didnt tell her i went to c the gp an got diagnosed wif depression coz i didnt want things 2 b different so she must've thought that i was becoming a depressing person 2 go out wif. i aint got depression n e more wat shall i do??? shall i go to c her outside college an take her 4 a walk an talk it over, or shall i jus leave it b? Link to post Share on other sites
wishfullthinker2004 Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 Well, good for you, you went to see someone, but...wait...are you taking meds? I was on paxil for 2 years, and it was the most horrible ride in my life. Be careful. As far as you two go. hang in there, let her know how you feel. If something pans out, then great. Take care of yourself first. She will come when she wants. Link to post Share on other sites
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