Author rhonian Posted January 3, 2011 Author Share Posted January 3, 2011 BRAVO!!! You just describe the emotional roller coaster that a person goes thru in a breakup....so did you really give an NEWSFLASH?? Any BREAKING NEWS?? Nope, I truly believe that a high percentage of people in losing their love go through being.....sad/heartbroken.....to anger.......to love again....hence the rollercoaster..... FTR, last nite in my conversation with her, she told me that she was so angry that she wanted to call my work and tell them something but couldnt after she regained her head. Please lets not lose sight of whats really happened here. You spoke out of line. Its easy for people to reread and see that.....It would be so different if I was coming on here and bragging about how IAM fooling her and manipulating her and crushing her without her knowing but that is not whats happening. So what is your real beef? Big deal I got sad, I got angry, I got happy when it seems we have life. Is there something so wrong with that???? Confused..... Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 BRAVO!!! You just describe the emotional roller coaster that a person goes thru in a breakup....so did you really give an NEWSFLASH?? Any BREAKING NEWS?? Nope, Your attitude was not so much a roller-coaster as the whole damn amusement park combi-ride. I truly believe that a high percentage of people in losing their love go through being.....sad/heartbroken.....to anger.......to love again....hence the rollercoaster..... I honestly have never seen anyone blow the way you have. I've seen folks go up and down with stuff, but really - you were extreme. FTR, last nite in my conversation with her, she told me that she was so angry that she wanted to call my work and tell them something but couldnt after she regained her head. So...in other words....you're telling me there's an immature instability in both of you? Please lets not lose sight of whats really happened here. You spoke out of line. Nope. I don't believe I did, because I wasn't the only one to see it being played this way, was I? Its easy for people to reread and see that.....It would be so different if I was coming on here and bragging about how IAM fooling her and manipulating her and crushing her without her knowing but that is not whats happening. No, just more funfair rides... roll up roll up...the show may not be over yet....! So what is your real beef? Big deal I got sad, I got angry, I got happy when it seems we have life. Is there something so wrong with that???? Confused..... My real beef is that when your relationship goes legs-up yet again - and it will, I believe - you're going to go ballistic and irrational.... (it's the carousel ride, next then....) You need to find some inner serenity, acceptance and contentment, because your happiness is not dependent on the presence of a significant other. Read that again. Until you can be completely at peace and OK with being on your own - and loving the company - a relationship with another person will always have a heavy agenda and a price to pay. You need to come to terms with how wonderful a thing life is, whether you're with someone or not. Only then, will you be emotionally equipped to deal with having someone in your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rhonian Posted January 3, 2011 Author Share Posted January 3, 2011 Thanks DK. Things are working out for the best. Almost like a brand new relationship. R/Ls take work and this one is worth the energy to discover my faults and hers. Shes not so easy to admit hers but I believe I have figured out a way through alot of patience, acceptance, flat out forgiveness and most of all prayer. TM, I can see you just want to keep this going. You just have to try to gain some ground and will make every attempt to make yourself look sooooo intelligent. Its too late.....you made yourself look foolish when you initially called me out on something that wasnt even the way it was. Now, a few LS folks have lost respect for you and you have noone to blame but yourself. TM, save your weak attempts to enact revenge and just move onto another potential victim where you look for the opportunity to blow off some steam unecessarily. Please do all of us this favor. YOU are really getting old and I feel most readers are getting weary....although Im sure a bunch have got a real kick out of this. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Did you know you are exhibiting classic signs of passive-aggressive deflection? It's a common trait in those who are to blame for something, but try to turn it round onto the other person in an effort to shift attention from their own very obvious failings. And I'm not bitching. I'm absolutely serious. Everything we've called you out on has always been 'somebody else's fault'. you've taken no responsibility for your actions, you've just thrown up excuses and justifications. You even told us about something she was going to do that was similarly vindictive. Again, blame-shifting and some kind of distorted justification.... I call it like it is, and after 5000+ posts, trust me - my reputation is safe, but really, not something I either care a great deal about or lose any sleep over.... This isn't a pi$$ing competition, so really, whatever..... I hope you manage to find a level of serenity which is both fulfilling and ultimately satisfying. Link to post Share on other sites
Jake99 Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Thanks DK. Things are working out for the best. Almost like a brand new relationship. R/Ls take work and this one is worth the energy to discover my faults and hers. Shes not so easy to admit hers but I believe I have figured out a way through alot of patience, acceptance, flat out forgiveness and most of all prayer. TM, I can see you just want to keep this going. You just have to try to gain some ground and will make every attempt to make yourself look sooooo intelligent. Its too late.....you made yourself look foolish when you initially called me out on something that wasnt even the way it was. Now, a few LS folks have lost respect for you and you have noone to blame but yourself. TM, save your weak attempts to enact revenge and just move onto another potential victim where you look for the opportunity to blow off some steam unecessarily. Please do all of us this favor. YOU are really getting old and I feel most readers are getting weary....although Im sure a bunch have got a real kick out of this. Rhonian, you are really in need of some sereious help. You came on here crying the blues, suggesting you were a victim because of your breakup and people stepped up on tried to give you advice. You demonstrated the willingness to accept advice as long as it was positive towards your needs but the moment it was helpful criticism you put you back up and became aggressive and confrontational. Grow up man! You need to look at your posts and see how conflicting you come across. Stop attacking everyone else and look in the mirror. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rhonian Posted January 3, 2011 Author Share Posted January 3, 2011 (edited) Jake wake up. What part are you missing? What part dont you understand? Re-read the thread. Read TMs 1st reply=helpful, constructive, it was by no means a positive reply but I read and respected. 2nd reply=w/e. 3rd reply, is where everything started going downhill. It was her drawing her conclusions BEFORE she knew what my "plan" was. Calling me out and saying I wasnt using the help given doing the opposite of what I should do and that wasnt the case at all. She was totally wrong. So, what would you do Jake? Its your thread. She doesnt have it factually right, what would you do? Would you defend yourself and make sure the record is right? Or would you just let her go on misunderstanding the truth. Then, expressing my inner thoughts about revenge but not acting on them....im like some kind of murderer. Can we take a poll somehow? I know in my 40 years on this earth that there has been plenty of times from grade school to present when I have heard family, friends, coworkers say how they "felt" like they could hurt their mate somehow, someway. THAT IS A NATURAL HUMAN EMOTION/FEELING! The difference, whats inexcuseable is when you act it out and take that revenge and nothing could be further from that in my situation. So, really, what is this whole argument about. I thought LS was a place where one could express their deepest thoughts without the fear of rejection and kick-back. Edited January 3, 2011 by rhonian Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 ....I know in my 40 years on this earth that there has been plenty of times from grade school to present when I have heard family, friends, coworkers say how they "felt" like they could hurt their mate somehow, someway. THAT IS A NATURAL HUMAN EMOTION/FEELING! Actually, it isn't. It's a conditioning influenced by circumstance, upbringing and social environmental influences. Wanting to hurt someone close is something that actually goes against nature. It's an anomaly in the psyche, and one that is not prevalent in balanced humans.... The difference, whats inexcuseable is when you act it out and take that revenge and nothing could be further from that in my situation. So, really, what is this whole argument about. You say you weren't going to act it out. Yet here, you make it quite plain that it's exactly what you are doing..... Now, listen carefully, I am playing her. Iam taking my revenge. Iam angry. I want to feel better. Why, would I do this? BECAUSE SHE PLAYED ME FOR 2 YEARS! I gave and gave and gave and she took and took and took. When I think about her selfishness with me and how everything was about her and she tells me "She has never really done anything wrong." I cant accept that so instead of walking away Im gonna play with her mind, she deserves it. Nothing about what Iam doing is an attempt to reconcile the relationship. Did I want that thru this whole 3wk NC...YES! But after our conversation last night and she ripped me apart and saw no good in me its time for revenge. UNDERSTAND NOW????? So you weren't just thinking of doing it. You actually were in the process of doing it. Do whatever it takes to get over this, but be lucid, be sensible and act in a way that even if you look back on it in five years' time, you can hold your head high and say: "I did everything right, and I was dignified." I thought LS was a place where one could express their deepest thoughts without the fear of rejection and kick-back. If all you want is people who will agree with you and back you to the hilt - you've come to the wrong place. LS is a place where you will get as many opinions, views and comments as there are members. Nobody rejected you - or kicked you back - while you made sense. You stopped making sense when you went from this - I cried out to God for help. I gave this whole situation to Him and told Him that this whole breakup has physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted me. I asked Him to give me peace and comfort. I asked Him to give me closure with the way that the relationship ended. I asked Him to give her back to me if she is the one He wants for me. I told Him that I have made so many mistakes in the relationship and that He could trust me to do the right thing, even if we are supposed to go our separate ways. To this. I walked out on her. I bruised her ego. No man has ever done that to her and it gave me the control. I know her. I know how cruel she can be. I will slowly teach her a valuable lesson. Link to post Share on other sites
myhearthurtsbadly Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Rhonian, i understand the pain you are going through but seriously stop having a go at Tara. She has helped countless people on this forum and none of us will have you insulting her. That is all i have to contribute. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rhonian Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 Really, you speak for the entire forum? 4 of you have spoken up for her out of hundreds maybe thousands. I tell you what I think and that is I believe that the majority have read this thread and saw where she was the 1st to insult and attack AND I DEFENDED THE TRUTH. I DEFENDED MYSELF. I WILL NOT APOLIGIZE FOR THAT. As a matter of fact, please do this for me......start from the beginning of this thread and read and the very first place where you see someone was insulted I want you to QUOTE it with your next reply.....can you atleast do that for me??? Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 rhonian, Grow up! Is your ego and self-esteem so fragile that you can't handle some constructive feedback? You went from one extreme to the other in a matter of days... Wanting to hurt the women you broke up with. That reason you are so defensive... we are hitting close to home. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rhonian Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 Grow up? Really? I couldnt be being defensive because I was attacked and insulted (Tara) and then had to endure lies about my r/l (YOU)? Dude, look at all of the views of this thread and 4 people are speaking up. Its because people can see that I was going along with the advice given until YOU and TARA decided to cross the line. What you label "defensive", I call "defending". Whats hitting home is YOU/TARA are not able to get over the fact that you made yourselves look bad and I called you out on it with FACT. I never went after anyone until someone downed me. FACT. Another part you both are missing is IAM QUITE SURE there are ALOT of people looking at YOU/TARA and are saying to themselves "why are you guys continuing coming back to this guys thread and antoginizing him?" You both seem to be somewhat intelligent but Im starting to wonder.... How bout if you stick to your own threads or better yet just leave mine.... Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 We've got a wild one going now... Page 5 and counting! Link to post Share on other sites
Author rhonian Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 We do. Since, "myhearthurtsbadly" doesnt want to acknowledge my request......could some anonymous random person start reading this thread from the beginning and at the moment you start to see/feel the thread turn for the worse just "quote" that person (wherever that person may be?)....... any takers? Link to post Share on other sites
edgeofdarkness Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 yeah ok i read your thread and u know what, u r seriously whacko dude, you dont know if yr coming or going i think you need counseling or something becus your blowing hot and cold and seriously its not smart and you really need to look at your attitude, becus tara is one of the most respected posters on here and she has really helped a load of people if you cant see that from her posts your blind as well as dumb. Man up admit your faults and get help becus you really r off the wall with this one man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rhonian Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 ......but I notice how you "read" but you didnt do what I asked did you? Hmmmmm....wonder why not? You completed 50% of the task....what about the other half? Why did you dodge that part.... I can tell you Ive been around the block. Do you really think you are going to sit ON THE EDGE OF DARKNESS and get me to be offended that you think Iam whacko. Im not the one on the edge of darkness...woooooohhhhhh! Look DarthVader, Im smart enough to know that TM has been part of this forum long enough that she is going to get some support from nutball-suicidal goofs like you..... so one more time....i will ask slooooooowwllllyyyyyyyy..... Show.....me.......who......attacked......insulted.......who.....first...???? Link to post Share on other sites
PowerOfOne Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 That poor poor woman.... Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) For me... Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. - 1 Corinthians 4 -7 For rhonian... Now, listen carefully, I am playing her. I am taking my revenge. I am angry. I want to feel better. Why, would I do this? BECAUSE SHE PLAYED ME FOR 2 YEARS! I gave and gave and gave and she took and took and took. When I think about her selfishness with me and how everything was about her and she tells me "She has never really done anything wrong." I cant accept that so instead of walking away Im gonna play with her mind, she deserves it. I would not wish or think like this nor would I ever do this to my worst enemy... Much less someone I care about. Did rhonian's EX treat him poorly? I will take his word for it. I am glad that he recognized it and did what was in his best interest and dumped her. Where he crossed the line is dropping down to her level (most likely below) and choosing to retaliate. That is childish, immature and not very healthy or constructive. We all know that, we see how negative and destructive that behavior is... he does not. With rhonian... It is like what my Paw Paw always told me... "You can't reason with someone that is unreasonable!" Edited January 4, 2011 by homebrew Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 ......but I notice how you "read" but you didnt do what I asked did you? Hmmmmm....wonder why not? You completed 50% of the task....what about the other half? Why did you dodge that part.... I can tell you Ive been around the block. Do you really think you are going to sit ON THE EDGE OF DARKNESS and get me to be offended that you think Iam whacko. Im not the one on the edge of darkness...woooooohhhhhh! Look DarthVader, Im smart enough to know that TM has been part of this forum long enough that she is going to get some support from nutball-suicidal goofs like you..... so one more time....i will ask slooooooowwllllyyyyyyyy..... Show.....me.......who......attacked......insulted.......who.....first...???? I think you're scaring us.... Link to post Share on other sites
edgeofdarkness Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 ......but I notice how you "read" but you didnt do what I asked did you? Hmmmmm....wonder why not? You completed 50% of the task....what about the other half? Why did you dodge that part.... I never dodged any part, I read the thread start to finish and I even went over some posts more than once,adidn't just read your posts or taras, i read evey post from every poster. I can tell you Ive been around the block. Do you really think you are going to sit ON THE EDGE OF DARKNESS and get me to be offended that you think Iam whacko. Im not the one on the edge of darkness...woooooohhhhhh! Look DarthVader, Im smart enough to know that TM has been part of this forum long enough that she is going to get some support from nutball-suicidal goofs like you..... so really what your looking for is someone to say oh gee wizz poor rhonian hes quite right tara attacked him first and he's the poor victim here, is that what you want, so you really do want to post on a forum where everyone agrees with you, well tough luck dude, its not going to happen anytime soon here. so one more time....i will ask slooooooowwllllyyyyyyyy..... Show.....me.......who......attacked......insulted.......who.....first...???? get....it....through....your.......head.....It...... actually.......doesn't......maaaattttttteeeeeeerrrrrrrrr........!!!!! what matters is whether the post was justefied and there is nothing wrong with her posts. she didnt attack you she didnt insult you, she tried to tell you that you were out of order and FWIW many agree with her. so everyone who doesent agree with you is going to get insulted and belitled with sarcasim just because we all agree that tara has a point and you are out of line....ok whatever you really make me laugh your really quite pitiful, man Am4Real he doesent scare me, hes pathetic, and PowerOfOne is right too. seeyabye, have a great life. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 We do. Since, "myhearthurtsbadly" doesnt want to acknowledge my request......could some anonymous random person start reading this thread from the beginning and at the moment you start to see/feel the thread turn for the worse just "quote" that person (wherever that person may be?)....... any takers? Okay, I am a random person who just read this thread from start to finish, and I will acknowledge your "request." The thread started its downhill plummet on post #3, where you, the OP, made a complete 180 change from the stance you took in your first post without even a nod to YOUR absolute inconsistency. Your thread was firmly designated to the toilet on post #9 - the bitter revenge post. The thread's unfortunate trajectory was piloted by you alone. I don't think that a person can begin a thread by prayerfully turning the outcome of a lost relationship over to the God he or she worships, and soon thereafter villainously gloat about revenge, and be taken seriously. You've depicted yourself as an unstable person. For the record, I came to this thread to learn more about you after posting on your other thread about your relationship with your children. I believe it's considered bad LS etiquette to mention other threads in a specific thread, but I can't help it ... a person who can justify the behavior that you have in this thread probably has a lot of work to do to form a "good" relationship with anyone, especially his or her own estranged children. Hope you are going to do the work. Link to post Share on other sites
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