jadeone Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 So after my boyfriend decided to spend about 10 hours over at my house so we could exchange Christmas gifts, my mom has decided she dislikes my boyfriend for the following reasons: 1. He is a cheapskate. We are broke college students, but she believes that he should take me on a date every single week and that my Christmas gift wasn't expensive enough. He bought me a bracelet about a week before Christmas, which was an early Christmas gift he said and then for Christmas, he bought me a blanket with my favorite characters on it. I bought him a bracelet which cost less than his gifts. However, my mom says the bracelet didn't count because it was before Christmas. She is also set on that I spend tons of money on him, when he's actually spent more on me (and she refuses to believe me). To add on to this, he was talking about how much it costs to come down here (since it's 100 miles), which she thought was rude as well. 2. He told my mom that she should set up a thing where I can text my bank to see my balance. She said it was rude and uncalled for. However, I'm always complaining to him how I wish I could do that because the only way I can check my balance is calling my mom and having her check or going to an ATM. I told her that and she still says it was rude. 3. He didn't take me somewhere that day, even though we planned on it. I actually insisted (and I told my mom this, once again, she refuses to believe) that we just stay and have pizza on my home. My goal isn't to bankrupt him! 4. He asked if he could stay for dinner or if he should leave, which my mom also said is rude. 5. This is my fault, but she hates how he knows everything about my family. She thinks he's selfish and only cares about himself and not me. She thinks he is using me for money (that I don't have!) and has a huge ego. My mom thinks the only reason he is dating me is because I'm beautiful and naive, so I'm an easy catch. (I have never dated before, by the way.) The only flaws I truly see is that he's clingy and always wants to talk to me on Facebook chat or spend time when I'm not in class at college. By a lot of time, I mean anywhere from 4-12 hours, which drives me crazy sometimes. He will get upset if I don't want to spend time with him (he gets over it quickly) and other times, he's okay with it. The one thing that bugged me was when he acted like I wanted to spend more time with one of my gadgets that I got for Christmas than with him on Facebook, but he got over it and apologized for acting like a jerk. I really don't see the things my mom sees. I don't know if what he did was rude or not, because it's things I would say. He's definitely not using me for any money because I am broke! Anyways, my mom is now acting in a way to provoke me into hating him and I am having to pretend I agree with her hatred towards him just so we don't argue. She is encouraging me to lie and to be generally rude to him just because of her opinions, which is unfair. Of course, once I go back to college, she'll have no influence over me, but if this relationship lasts, it can never, ever end well, I believe. Should I break up with him because my mom dislikes him even though I think her reasons are strange, or should I continue dating him and ignore her "warnings"? Or am I blind and is his behavior rude? Link to post Share on other sites
Goldenspoon Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 Pretend that you broke up with him and currently dating a black guy. Your mom will beg you to take your "ex-boyfriend" back. Link to post Share on other sites
Keridan Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 If he is your first boyfriend, that's why yer mom doesn't like him. She is probably afraid you are too serious with the first one to come along. The reasons she gives sound weak because she doesn't know or can't express the real reason (even if I'm wrong about what the real one is). You might try having a talk with her that he is there as long as he keeps you happy and you'd really appreciate if she supported that. And unless you are ready to marry him, letting her know it isn't permanent yet might help a bit The clingy thing is something to watch out for, btw. Not a huge deal, but he might be insecure that you might lose interest in the first boy if something better comes along. Just don't let it get out of control. A short talk might take care of it if he is just feeling insecure. Just making sure he knows it bothers you a bit is important, too. Good luck! Hope all goes well! Link to post Share on other sites
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