lynn3/21 Posted March 18, 2004 Share Posted March 18, 2004 Hi I have been dating this guy for a year, and I'm not really sure were it is going. We have had one serious talk in the past year and that happened just about two months ago. He was the one that wanted to have the talk not me. Don't get me wrong I was happy to have the talk because I felt it was well over due. We have never met each others families, and that has started to concern me. In the talk that we had he revealed to me that he cared for me a great deal, and wanted the relationship to grow. I asked him how we should go about doing that considering that we only see each other once a week and we only talk on the phone about once or twice a week (one of those phone calls is to set up the weekly meeting). He suggested that we start spending more time together, but in the past two months that has happened only twice outside of the weekly get together. I am truly in-love with this man, and of course I want to know what this is between us. He was very emotional during the serious talk and that some what touched my heart, because up until that point I never really knew his feelings for me. He stated that we needed to take one big jump into our relationship, I have no idea what that means. Since then I have brought it to his attention that we have yet to spend more time together, and he agreed. But he continues to ask me how do we do that. During football season we both would go to the local college games with are families, never together. We always managed to do something during the week instead of the weekend, so I feel if we did it then why can't we do that now. He told me that I am by far the best girlfriend he has ever had, and he felt that he should tell me that more often. Our relationship started in the same work place, I no longer work there. We kept it a secret from our co-workers to keep down the problems. He approached me with the idea of dating, and I accepted. When we are together he has to be next to me or touching me in some way form or fashion, and I love that about him. Recently I revealed to a friend of mine that still works with him, that he and I were dating. He told me that he was ok with me telling my friends, and to me he seemed to be somewhat relieved that I did. Now I know you may be thinking to yourself why are they still keeping it a secret from their families. Well the last and final twist to this story is the fact that he is a white male, and I am of course an African American female. To us this should not matter but as you know it will matter to our families, especially his. I don't feel in anyway that he is hiding me because there is nowhere he will not take me. But if he feels that his family will never accept me then we have a serious issue. What should I do, should I just wait until he wants to have another serious talk or should I bring the whole relationship thing up again? Please help!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted March 18, 2004 Share Posted March 18, 2004 I think it's very strange that you have been dating a year and only see each other once a week, and only talk on the phone once (or so) a week to set up that meeting, and have not met eachother's families. Are you exclusive? Are you sleeping together? How old are you two? IMO, it doesn't sound like a "real" relationship. It sounds like casual dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted March 18, 2004 Share Posted March 18, 2004 It doesnt sound like a real relationship. I see my friends more often then that, i mean don't smother each other but a little more often would be good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lynn3/21 Posted March 18, 2004 Author Share Posted March 18, 2004 I am 29 and he is 36, and yes we are exclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
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