tobydog1 Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Why, when there is so much evidence, will he not admit to an affair? After all he is living with her but just won't admit it........Why? Come on Homebrew and others tell me the answer! x Link to post Share on other sites
Author tobydog1 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Share Posted January 3, 2011 BTW, it is tobydog, Debbie, as he deleted my email and I had to set up another account etc.....Still me tho! Link to post Share on other sites
YellowShark Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Why, when there is so much evidence, will he not admit to an affair? After all he is living with her but just won't admit it........Why? Come on Homebrew and others tell me the answer! x I caught my EX-of-7-years with the MM in-the-act and STILL they both deny the affair. I saw the sexts, they were seen by other people as well, the whole deal. I believe that people deny it because it will make them look like the bad guy that they really are.., and their egos simply can't stand that. In my case the EX and MM have gaslit everyone who will listen that I made it all up and just went nuts one night. Go figure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tobydog1 Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 Cheers Yellow But why? Do they not want to hurt us, are they feeling guilty or wanting to keep the door open? x Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 ]I caught my EX-of-7-years with the MM in-the-act and STILL they both deny the affair.[/u] I saw the sexts, they were seen by other people as well, the whole deal. I believe that people deny it because it will make them look like the bad guy that they really are.., and their egos simply can't stand that. In my case the EX and MM have gaslit everyone who will listen that I made it all up and just went nuts one night. Go figure. HOLY PETE! that is just diabolical! I bet you felt like you were going crazy or dosed with a hallucinogenic at times. Truly sorry you had to go through that because it would be even worse than the actual cheating to me to have someone KNOW you know and lie anyway on top of it all. Link to post Share on other sites
2010_Sorry Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Cheers Yellow But why? Do they not want to hurt us, are they feeling guilty or wanting to keep the door open? x I honestly wouldn't give him that much credit. He's in denial about what he has done wrong because he can't deal with it himself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tobydog1 Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 True, he knows I could not tolerate infidelity so knows I would never have him back. I love him but could never ever have him back now. He knows this and knows he cannot come back. So yes he can't deal with it. I know him and I know he is in turmoil.... Or maybe I am wrong and he is having the time of his life with his new OW and new pals?????? Who knows? Sadly Dx Link to post Share on other sites
YellowShark Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Cheers Yellow But why? Do they not want to hurt us, are they feeling guilty or wanting to keep the door open? IMHO they are selfish and narcissistic and don't ever want to look like the bad guy. (which they are.) So they deny, deny, deny. HOLY PETE! that is just diabolical! I bet you felt like you were going crazy or dosed with a hallucinogenic at times. Truly sorry you had to go through that because it would be even worse than the actual cheating to me to have someone KNOW you know and lie anyway on top of it all. Oh. It gets even worse sally4sara. Not only do my EX and MM deny to this very day that they were having an affair, and that I busted them red-handed.... I busted them red-handed on my own deck while my son - (her step son) - and I were sleeping inside! But wait... it even gets worse. MM's wife was pregnant with their first child at the time. And MM was a good friend and neighbor - who's lawn my son cut, and who's business I helped him with repeatedly. So my EX and my ex-good-friend lie to everyone that I "made it all up." Yup, that's me, I just got up one night and decided to frame my EX-of-7-years, and my good-friend-of-4-years. Needless to say they crossed just about every social and moral barrier I believe in. Which ties into tobydog1's question, "Why, when there is so much evidence, will he not admit to an affair?" Well they don't admit it because they are so sick and toxic that no one on Earth would side with them if they did admit it. And their sick ego's just can't take that. So they lie and gaslight everyone. Needless to say cheaters are generally very damaged people inside. Link to post Share on other sites
just_some_guy Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) Maybe he's trying to avoid unnecessary drama and trouble. Edited January 5, 2011 by just_some_guy Link to post Share on other sites
Author tobydog1 Posted January 6, 2011 Author Share Posted January 6, 2011 Could I just ask why you seem to dislike me/my comments so much? You are only person on here that seems to really have taken a dislike to me and what I have posted I would like to know why if you have time to tell me. Thanks Dx Link to post Share on other sites
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