Hades Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 PS stop listening to Hades, he/she/it will only keep you hoping and hoping is not moving on. Time to move on. Why stop listening to me? Haa ... what a jerk you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Hades Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 its her birthday in a couple days, should i send a happy birthday text or anything? or still continue no contact? No contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomoGuy Posted January 7, 2011 Author Share Posted January 7, 2011 Thank you both, I will not break no contact, to wish her a happy birthday, I will continue to concentrate on myself and strengthening my weaknesses. In my heart I don't feel this is the end. But today, she is not in my arms, so I have no choice but to realise she is not here. This situation is no longer in my hands. I have said what I can say, and done what I can do. The rest is in Gods hands. please pray for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 PS stop listening to Hades, he/she/it will only keep you hoping and hoping is not moving on. Time to move on. I don't think Hades is giving you false hope or that listening to her advice will keep you from moving on. I would avise you not to overanalize the breakup letter though. When my ex dumped me I took apart every line she said, every little inflection in her voice to try to find out what was really going on. It didn't help. We have the ability as dumpees to twist what out exes said to fit what we want to hear... that they didn't really want to break up with us and that they plan on coming back in the future. Actions speak louder than words though. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 If I offend anyone here, Let me apologize up front. But who does she intend to date? John the Baptist? Personally, I think she was hiding behind the sheild of religion to break up with you. "God, has clearly shown me that you aren't the man for me." And just how EXACTLY did he do this? I mean if you're going break up with someone, just break up with him. Don't make it out that you're breaking up because your faith isn't as strong as mine! Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomoGuy Posted January 8, 2011 Author Share Posted January 8, 2011 To me it seems like she is hiding behind her religion. But its killing me not knowing what the true reason is, or what caused her to say what she did during the breakup when it contradicted everything she had said the day before until the day we first started dating. But unless she tells me with her own mouth, I can only come up with my own stories in my head. And it is not helping. Link to post Share on other sites
krymej Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 This is also similar to my story Romeoguy although were not christian we follow a very spiritual pathway and have much faith in god and christ. i really feel for you on this one as i know it really hurts. i attend the weekly meetings and see my ex there and it kills to know she is the one i have in my heart that that she only felt the same. as Hades and homebrew say you must just hold your faith in God on this one through pain comes much opportunity for growth and learning. seek God as he will provide you with your needs on your journey it could be with her or God may have bigger plans for you both. Allow this to be a test of faith in God and in yourself. Demonstrate higher value and be humble friend. i wish you all the best Krymej Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomoGuy Posted January 9, 2011 Author Share Posted January 9, 2011 Thank you for your advice krymej. I will continue doing what I need to do to make make myself better and strengthen my faith in God. Her sisters birthday is actually today, she has always been a good friend. Can i wish her happy bday on facebook? My ex blocked me anyway, or should I just lay low since it has only been a week and a half. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomoGuy Posted January 10, 2011 Author Share Posted January 10, 2011 (edited) well I decided not to send her sister a birthday message... this is getting tuff... I have to keep occupied or I can stop thinking why this has happened.. I start letting my imagination fill in the blanks and its not good. I have to trust in God and just let it go. I won't find out the unanswers to the questions unless she tells me herself, and since she wanted no contact and I have respected it, she will have to tell me on her own time. I just have to realize that she doesn't want to be with me and its up to her now. Later, I think it will be up to me. Edited January 10, 2011 by RomoGuy Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomoGuy Posted January 17, 2011 Author Share Posted January 17, 2011 Everything until the breakup was amazing... I feel led on... Still doing NC, its getting easier... I just made contacting her not an option, and its pretty easy, when you make it not an option in your head. I still wonder why a girl would lead me on and even talk about marriage to my sisters. And then overnight break up with me. The only answer I can come up with is I was "lead on"... I want a girl that trusts me as a person, not change her mind about my character overnight. I want a girl that respects me when I tell her that I am working on certain aspects of my life, and doesn't makes me feel like "I'm not worthy or good enough for her", Overnight! There is no such thing as perfect, Im definitely not perfect, but neither was she!... If perfect is what your looking for, stop... you wont find it, and you will never be happy... But when God puts someone in front of you that even you say "your perfect" even though you know there is no such thing, look past the "little" things and don't take what you have for granted. I know Im not perfect, but I truly feel like we were perfect for eachother. Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Romoguy- God puts people on our life for a reason, sometimes its to better us and sosmetimes its to better them. You might have been a vehicle for some learining experience that she needed to go through. I truly feel that I was in my ex's life to expose her to a different way of life, now that I am not in her life it is her choice to decide how her life is going to be. Right now you will not see it but in a few months when the pain and shock from the ending of the relationship has faded you will begin to see things from a different perspective. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomoGuy Posted January 21, 2011 Author Share Posted January 21, 2011 Thanks for your inputs coltsfan1... God has helped me alot, Im finally getting peace and realizing I'm not going to be heartbroken forever. Live goes on and Happiness is still here, I just have to get out of the "panic" mode. Its getting better each day! If God wants me to be with her, he will find a way. But right now, Im a single man enjoying my life and spending more time with family and friends, life is good! Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomoGuy Posted January 24, 2011 Author Share Posted January 24, 2011 Anyone think I should write her a letter, maby letting her know I'm moving on? because I basically begged her not to leave me, since it was out of no where I "panicked" and acted desperate. Or does me not contacting her as she wished good enough sign that I'm moving on? Link to post Share on other sites
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