My Mom is Driving me CraZy

[Butterflying]

We'll be having serious conversations and I will tell her something she did that hurt my feelings. Like the time she told me that she would choose my younger brother over me if the choice ever needed to be made.

 

I remember when she said that like yesterday because I was only 12 years old and it really hurt me. She was upset because I wasn't getting dressed fast enough and we were on our way to visit my Aunt in the hospital. She'd just given birth to my baby cousin.

 

So over 20 years later, I told my mom about that and how much it hurt me. Instead of apologizing, she claims it never happened. She called me a liar and accused me of starting trouble between us.

 

A few months ago, she called me before sunrise one morning to relay a message she'd gotten from another member of our family. The message was for me to be careful at work because the relative dreamed that I would lose my job and my career would be over.

 

I was appaled that my mother would call me so early to bother me with something so ridicculous. Right away, I told her I was not worried because it was only a dream. I am only focused on positive things. Her response was, "Suit yourself. When it happens, don't say I didn't warn you."

 

So tonight, Mom and I were having a discussion about my brother (whom I love dearly). This same relative had a negative dream about him. I told my mother not to relay that message to him because it's only intended to put negative thoughts into his mind just like the message she gave me months ago. It's our thoughts, not the relatives dreams, that will create the outcome of our lives. I told her to stop listening to that relative who is a very evil person anyway.

 

That's when she got upset again. She asked what I was talking about. I reminded her of the time she'd awaken me only a few months ago. Again, she called me a liar and said she never did any such thing. So I laughed and told her, "In a few months from now, you won't remember telling me this negative message about my brother either."

 

Either my mother has selective memory, or I really am lying about all these things. I know I'm not making this stuff up, unless I'm crazy. Does anyone esle have this kind of experience with a loved one? How do you handle it?

Edited January 4, 2011 by Butterflying