McGrupp Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 if you guys at some point really loved each other, you realize when one of you wanted to leave, the other would be upset, right? so many people beat themselves up for their actions and wish that they could re-do the breakup so it wasnt so messy and they left on "good terms" **** that it's supposed to be messy sure it wouldve been cool if you just shrugged and were cool with it, and they were left wondering how you were so indifferent...but... lets face it were emotional people, not robots, and we reacted how we reacted so stop beating yourself up. no breakups ever are like friendly and amicable unless both parties want out. Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 This is so true but it doesn't make the pill any easier to swallow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author McGrupp Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 alot of the anxiety is shouldve couldve wouldve rarely do people just walk away and know what theyre doing unless they had this experience before. use it as a time to learn. Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 alot of the anxiety is shouldve couldve wouldve rarely do people just walk away and know what theyre doing unless they had this experience before. use it as a time to learn. I'm a break up pro... due to lots of experience... I trade my knowledge for 10 less break ups any day of the week and twice on sunday! Link to post Share on other sites
D78 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 if you guys at some point really loved each other, you realize when one of you wanted to leave, the other would be upset, right? I agree with this, but people sometimes add insult to injury. For example, my breakup began one fine Sunday when he lied to try to get me to dump him. Then he accused me of all sorts of ridiculous things and danced around the subject until eventually I said "why don't you just say you want to break up with me?" Then he started acting very cold. It really bothered me that (1) he lied, (2) I realized he was no where near as strong as I thought, (3) he played games, and (4) he thought he had to act cold. Our relationship was at one time built on respect and communication, and I guess I stupidly expected him to respect me and communicate with me when he was leaving me. It totally confused me, and added to the pain I had to process as part of accepting the break up. I think a lot of the stories on LS follow the same lines. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 Consider the following: The best outcome of a relationship is Marriage. Right? The best outcome of a Marriage is that you are together until death. Right? So basically the best outcome of any relationship...is that you get to spend your life with someone, and watch them die. I have been thinking of that one for a while. It makes the idea that heartbreak can be avoided sound ridiculous. We are all doomed to have our heart broken at some point in any relationship... even a perfect one. So what the heck, just do what you feel you can live with. That's my motto. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 Consider the following: The best outcome of a relationship is Marriage. Right? The best outcome of a Marriage is that you are together until death. Right? So basically the best outcome of any relationship...is that you get to spend your life with someone, and watch them die. I have been thinking of that one for a while. It makes the idea that heartbreak can be avoided sound ridiculous. We are all doomed to have our heart broken at some point in any relationship... even a perfect one. So what the heck, just do what you feel you can live with. That's my motto. Brilliant. So very, very true. Link to post Share on other sites
mickleb Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 if you guys at some point really loved each other, you realize when one of you wanted to leave, the other would be upset, right? so many people beat themselves up for their actions and wish that they could re-do the breakup so it wasnt so messy and they left on "good terms" **** that it's supposed to be messy sure it wouldve been cool if you just shrugged and were cool with it, and they were left wondering how you were so indifferent...but... lets face it were emotional people, not robots, and we reacted how we reacted so stop beating yourself up. no breakups ever are like friendly and amicable unless both parties want out. This guy is cool as a cucumber, ain't he? One day, you will be here. (Read the first 6 months of McG's journey on here if you don't believe me.) x Link to post Share on other sites
daMien_rice Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 Consider the following: The best outcome of a relationship is Marriage. Right? The best outcome of a Marriage is that you are together until death. Right? So basically the best outcome of any relationship...is that you get to spend your life with someone, and watch them die. I have been thinking of that one for a while. It makes the idea that heartbreak can be avoided sound ridiculous. We are all doomed to have our heart broken at some point in any relationship... even a perfect one. So what the heck, just do what you feel you can live with. That's my motto. what if you die first? Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 I would die most heartbroken at leaving my wife behind. Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 What if you both die at the same time? Say for your 25th anniversary you decide to spice things up, but the roof collapses at the orgy you are attending leaving a tragic yet highly erotic scene. Link to post Share on other sites
D78 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 What if you both die at the same time? Say for your 25th anniversary you decide to spice things up, but the roof collapses at the orgy you are attending leaving a tragic yet highly erotic scene. Then, you both win. Kind of. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Hi McGrupp and mickleb How you both doing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author McGrupp Posted January 8, 2011 Author Share Posted January 8, 2011 Hi McGrupp and mickleb How you both doing? im swell. truthfully really very good. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Great to hear! im swell. truthfully really very good. Link to post Share on other sites
mickleb Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Hi McGrupp and mickleb How you both doing? Hi HOH. Glad to hear you talked to your fella about what was bothering you. I'm great, thanks. Planning to travel the world.. x Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 That's great to hear, good for you Hi HOH. Glad to hear you talked to your fella about what was bothering you. I'm great, thanks. Planning to travel the world.. x Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 What if you both die at the same time? Say for your 25th anniversary you decide to spice things up, but the roof collapses at the orgy you are attending leaving a tragic yet highly erotic scene. Well how likely is that? :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
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