Cornecophia Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 It started off as friends with this guy. He wasn't even the type I usually go for, but over time we got close and got to know each other well. We aren't dating but taking things slow and we flirt and talk alot so we're kind of at that in between stage. So what's the problem? his friends! One always teases Me saying how much I like him and get jealous abou things. Another has made comments in a joking way about my race. Another girl who is a friend and may actually like him I'm not sure was really rude once I got into an argument with him and called ugly etc. He is pretty popular and I hear all kinds of rumors about things he's told his friends about me, almost bragging but other negative things too. Several ppl say he's a player and acts different when I'm not around. When I kind of asked him about some of the comments in the past he basically said to ignore them and not worry about it. One of his good friends is a girl who admitted that she used to like him and thinks he's really hott. I was just curious and she was a little nasty about it. I think he was annoyed/frustrated with me because he said well what do you expect, and something along the lines of if we are to be together I'd have to be mature about things like that and not let it bother me. I guess part of it is his popularity. Many ppl are nosy and want or already think they know what's going on. Obviously it is bothersome to me though because I'm on here posting about it and don't want to keep going to him complaining. What should I do, ignore or confront them? I don't understand why his friend would tease me about liking him. I really like him but it's almost to a point where I'm wondering if it's worth it if his friends are like that! Link to post Share on other sites
Faded_x Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 It started off as friends with this guy. He wasn't even the type I usually go for, but over time we got close and got to know each other well. We aren't dating but taking things slow and we flirt and talk alot so we're kind of at that in between stage. So what's the problem? his friends! One always teases Me saying how much I like him and get jealous abou things. Another has made comments in a joking way about my race. Another girl who is a friend and may actually like him I'm not sure was really rude once I got into an argument with him and called ugly etc. He is pretty popular and I hear all kinds of rumors about things he's told his friends about me, almost bragging but other negative things too. Several ppl say he's a player and acts different when I'm not around. When I kind of asked him about some of the comments in the past he basically said to ignore them and not worry about it. One of his good friends is a girl who admitted that she used to like him and thinks he's really hott. I was just curious and she was a little nasty about it. I think he was annoyed/frustrated with me because he said well what do you expect, and something along the lines of if we are to be together I'd have to be mature about things like that and not let it bother me. I guess part of it is his popularity. Many ppl are nosy and want or already think they know what's going on. Obviously it is bothersome to me though because I'm on here posting about it and don't want to keep going to him complaining. What should I do, ignore or confront them? I don't understand why his friend would tease me about liking him. I really like him but it's almost to a point where I'm wondering if it's worth it if his friends are like that! May I ask how old you all are? I'm going to guess high school aged, considering his friends tease you about you liking him (that's a very high school boy thing to do lol). How is it said? Is it in a nasty way, or just a teasing, good-natured type way? I'd only worry about it if it's done nastily. Either way, how do you respond when he does this? Do you just roll your eyes at him and shrug it off? Or do you really respond back? If you're firing up or responding to him, he's only going to continue doing it. If you've just been shrugging it off and he's still doing it, well, then he's very bored and very immature. I think if all these mishaps with his friends happen on a regular basis, it's them he should be telling to be mature about it. Next time it really gets to you, have a calm discussion with him about it. Tell him you've tried just shrugging off their comments, but they insistently continue to hassle you. Just tell him it would be nice if he could just tell them to cool it a bit, as it would make things a lot more comfortable. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Linkzfirst Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 First of all, we're all whores, it's just that some of us get paid. Anyways... Okay, so you like this guy, and he likes you, but his friends are you're reason for not being together? Well, from my experience, if a person you like friend's don't like you, they'll talk behind your back trying to separate you too. He'll end up having to choose between you and his friends. That's never fun or easy. I'd suggest getting on better terms with his friends first, that is if you really want to be with him. Also, if you think he's a "player" or worried about it, set up some ground rules before things get serious. If he get's mad or stops talking to you because you don't want to do something with him...i.e. sex? move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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