Els Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 Honestly though, this guy doesn't even seem like it would bother him too much. It would surprise me if he wasn't somewhat relieved. From his apparent disinterest, it seems he has come to the same sort of conclusion as the OP has. Yes, I think so too. Someone who is even slightly invested in their relationship wouldn't pass up the one and only chance to see their SO in a year, for no good reason. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 This isn't just about a birthday card, the birthday card is symbolic of their r/ship, ie; lack of interest shown in the OP. She has feelings for the other man because her r/ship is not fulfilling or loving. I don't condone seeing a married partner or seeing someone else's partner, married or not, but nevertheless she has feelings for someone else as as her current r/ship is so lacking. The guy is in Iraq and you're worried about a birthday card? Ok... Obviously now you have another guy come back, you suddenly barely know your fiancé, he's terrible for how he treats you etc etc. And by the way, unless youve lost the use of your legs, why couldn't you have gone to where his family is to see him? It goes both ways. Obviously this is over and you should tell him as soon as possible, but deluding yourself as to your motives is pretty screwed up. Sorry, him not sending you a birthday card doesn't excuse you communicating with another man, and wanting to jump from this relationship to the other guy, world doesn't work that way. Link to post Share on other sites
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