samsungxoxo Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 In most threads that I've stopped by, it's always the boy (during his school years) or man having a crush all the time while she either doesn't notices him, ignores or harshly rejects him or is simply a friend. Has this ever happened once to a woman too? Long ago there was a guy in class I had a crush on during the 7th grade and at some point he knew it (someone obviously told him). Upon entering my freshman year of high school and seeing him again, he was back on my mind. In the end it didn't worked out. It was a blunt rejection, which led to an argument and a couple days later he tried being my friend but I wasn't interested, not after the way he treated me that day in front of his sister. He was interested in a shorter girl that's not even 5 ft and wasn't smart in class. However, the best part is the girl wasn't interested in him. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 An emphatic "yes" from me. At school, when I was a bit of a swot and not very sociable, I developed a number of crushes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted January 9, 2011 Author Share Posted January 9, 2011 An emphatic "yes" from me. At school, when I was a bit of a swot and not very sociable, I developed a number of crushes.Thank you for sharing this. I'm not alone now. This can suck because there is nothing we can do when a man isn't attracted to us. The more make-up, the worst.... Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 I don't have any regrets about my crushes or wish that something had developed. To be honest, I was more attracted to the intrigue and wrote an Adrian Mole-esque diary about all the gossip at school (google if you've not come across him). Though I agree that crushes do suck, on the otherhand, as long we recognise that they're just crushes and we don't get carried away with acting upon our feelings, I don't think it's necessarily all that bad. I like to be reassured now and again that my heart still works! Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 I had lots of crushes in school, and a couple in college. I wouldn't call it "unrequited love" because I was usually too afraid to tell them. I just admired them from a distance. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 IMO unrequited love usually happens to people who have been single for a long time and or have problem finding people to date. Since most women have no problem finding people to date and are only single for a long time because they want to be, unrequited love rarely happens for them. And even if the girl does get a crush on a guy, odds are it won't be unrequited love because the guy will probably give her a shot if he wasn't seeing anybody else and the girl looked halfway decent. I have been aware of three girls 18+ having crushes on me. Unfortunately, all three were bigger than me. Which makes me wonder if there is a correlation. Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted January 9, 2011 Share Posted January 9, 2011 IMO unrequited love usually happens to people who have been single for a long time and or have problem finding people to date. Since most women have no problem finding people to date and are only single for a long time because they want to be, unrequited love rarely happens for them. And even if the girl does get a crush on a guy, odds are it won't be unrequited love because the guy will probably give her a shot if he wasn't seeing anybody else and the girl looked halfway decent. I have been aware of three girls 18+ having crushes on me. Unfortunately, all three were bigger than me. Which makes me wonder if there is a correlation. Maybe you ought to give a "bigger" (not sure what that means) woman a chance then. You are missing out on a lot of love Link to post Share on other sites
alethean Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 I had a crush on the same guy from age 6 to 19. I'm 20 now, so you can gauge how pathetic I was. Link to post Share on other sites
northern_sky Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 For whatever reason, unrequited love seems to be a lot more common among men. But it does happen to women too. I've experienced it. I was in love with a guy for seven years whom I met in college, even though we barely knew each other. Even when I was in a relationship during that period I still had feelings for him (though not as strong). Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Maybe you ought to give a "bigger" (not sure what that means) woman a chance then. You are missing out on a lot of love Uh bigger than me, means just that, a girl who weighs more than I do. I'm 162, any woman who weighs more than I do is obese (unless she's really tall) and I'm just not into women like that. Link to post Share on other sites
shayan Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 I'm pretty certain unrequited love happens to girls and boys, and it most people who have gone through life. Most people don't marry the first person they fall for, and usually the break up isn't mutual. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Haven't been reading the boards much, have you? I can think of at least 3 active posters who had struggled with unrequited crushes before. Since most women have no problem finding people to date and are only single for a long time because they want to be, unrequited love rarely happens for them. And even if the girl does get a crush on a guy, odds are it won't be unrequited love because the guy will probably give her a shot if he wasn't seeing anybody else and the girl looked halfway decent. Not every guy is like you. Not every guy is interested in any girl on the proviso that she looks halfway decent. For pete's sake. I can think of any number of reasons why a guy would not be interested in a relationship with a girl, or not interested in a relationship in itself. I agree that women in general can find casual sex much easier than men, but in relationships it swings both ways. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted January 25, 2011 Share Posted January 25, 2011 are you kidding me? it's the story of my life Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted February 9, 2011 Share Posted February 9, 2011 HELL YES! I've always been the dumpee so far. I had an unrequited crush on someone in high school; he had a girlfriend. Men can be equally as blunt, if not even more so. My ex dumped me out of the blue by phone. Then insulted me me via text, listing all my faults. Never heard from him again, just aswell. And you think women are bad? Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 are you kidding me? it's the story of my life I can certainly write a novella at this point. I always see myself as either jinxed or cursed- any guy whom I fell for, they can never reciprocate in kind. Link to post Share on other sites
Green_eyes Posted February 22, 2011 Share Posted February 22, 2011 This is a great thread - I thought it was just guys I was also of the opinion that crushes only happened to teenagers - which was a little naive of me. I have a friend who is the most amazing person. We get along like a house on fire and I finally plucked up the courage to tell her how I felt about her. Sadly, she doesn't feel the same way - and a wonderful evening together where we had talked for hours ended with both of us in tears. However, we are still great friends and although I wish there could be more between us knowing her as a friend is still better than not knowing her at all. Obviously, she is unlikely to stay single forever - and I'll have to come to terms with that when it happens, but come to terms with it I will. Gosh, life is complicated. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted February 22, 2011 Share Posted February 22, 2011 This is a great thread - I thought it was just guys Going by the age of the thread and the level of activity therein, it primarily is just guys I don't really consider a secret crush to be an unrequited love simply because one has no idea whether the affection would be returned if they don't let the other person know... Then you have the requisite women falling for men who are already taken. Either it's an unrequited love or they become an OW. Neither is deserving of sympathy. The same can be said for a man who gets a crush on a woman who is already taken. Link to post Share on other sites
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