I can't take anymore rejection!!!

[asewel]

Hi, I'm 17 years old and on March the 12th my Boyfirend of a year and a half broke up with me. He never had a proper job, wanting to go out with his mates all the time leaving me by myself, we always argued and i was giving him money (stupid).

 

Since i can remember i have always been the one braking it off with him and he has always come running back. He has started to hang around with the wrong crowd who are all single and 'clubbers' so he was influent's alot by them and change so much. He hasn't been treating me right for a long time, putting his friends before me.

 

Nothing had been right for a while when he came round to mine and told me to my face he didn't want me anymore, he wasn't ready for a relationship and that we had no hope-ok it was true but what the hell did i do to deserve that?? i've done nothing wrong he was so blunt!

I was so depressed and still havn't fully got over it, i'am so in love with him, it hurts so much.

 

So after four days of no contact he rings his friend (who i work with) telling him to tell me he wants me back and he is out side and wants to talk to me.

So i went outside and he was so nice and told me everything i wanted to hear but it was too late and would take a lot of time to repair, so i said to him 'your gonna have to do someting pretty amazing to get me back' and i left. I was happy again coz i felt there was hope.

Then when i got home he phones me and tells me that he wants me so much , but scared he will hurt me again coz he can't change! and is moving away. He is 19 and his family live in africa so he has no-one and didn't seem right on the phone.

 

I felt crushed again, and twice as worst.

 

I know he will be back again but what do i do, i can't take anymore rejection, but i want him so badly, i'm trying to move on but something is holding me back for him. Help!!

[opentonewadvice]

First of all what are you doing giving him money when you are only 17 years old. You are still very young and the last thing you need to be doing is giving out money to someone and being misleaad by your emotions. If he is 19 years old he should be out there working and making his own money and taking you out sometime treating you since you are his girlfriend not the other way around. It seems to me like he is very immature and taking a bit advantage of you because he knows how much you really care for him.And thats not being respectful especially towards your feelings.

 

What you need to do is tell him how you truly feel and what you expect of him. Let him know how his behavior is affecting you , and that you care for him but at the same time will not be disrespected. Because you are still very young and there is plenty of other opportunities out there for you ahead, you do not have to just settle for anyone or anything , I know in this case you really have strong feelings for him but it takes two people to make things work not one. And right now it seems as though he is leaving everything up to you, and not taking things really serious. I suggest you really think things over and decide whether he is truly the one right now for you are maybe just a friend. and if you do decide to furthur pursue him, Make sure his feelings for you are truly from his heart as yours are.