hoping2heal Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 I just wanted to thank you guys for bringing the day into perspective for me. Especially your post in the other thread, AG, about the most important thing being just that we're together with the one we love and who loves us. It is too easy to forget that sometimes, too easy to get caught up in the commercialization and superficiality. In fact, I just caught myself fretting the other day, "Will he, with his busy schedule and procrastinative habits, think about making reservations for our dinner? He definitely will want to go out for a nice dinner when the time comes, but if we don't reserve ahead everything will be fully booked! Should I preempt him and do it instead? etc"... But then I read this thread and realized, that is all silly. And that is why I bristle whenever people claim that LDRs aren't 'real'. Because sometimes, people in LDRs are actually the ones with their priorities in the right place. Thanks, guys. I am oddly fond of the Valentines Day my honey & I had last year. We had a fairly dramatic, blow up fight about it. He was feeling badly because he just did not have the finances at the time to go all out for me like he wanted..so instead of doing a little something..he did nothing, he was just frozen and he felt guilty and stayed away. So, me..I flipped out about it. I thought he did not care about me, did not really love me, could not believe that on V day of all days he would drop the ball like he did. He already felt bad enough (which I did not realise at the time, mind you) for not giving me what he felt I deserved so it was just a big match of two wounded people. At one point, and I will remember and cherish this always he said I hate Valentines Day now. It hurt my feelings that he did not make an effort, it hurt his feelings that somehow our relationship could be quantified by what took place in one day. When I calmed down I realised some of the things he said were true. Even though he froze and dropped the ball on that day, the reality is all of the other non Holiday days..he is so amazing. He is thoughtful, romantic, loving and affectionate. He treats me well and with respect and he is the most supportive man I have ever known. He loves me so much and he has proven that in countless ways over the years. I get the feeling he has plans to not repeat last year but that does not matter now, no matter what kind of flowers or jewelry or chocolate I get today, for the next 364 days of this year (and many years to come!) I get to have my crush, my wonderful man that I both like and love who is charming, and thoughtful, and fun to play with, and fun to debate with. He is honest and he is comitted. Totally comitted to me and to us. I get to live the dream and have been for awhile now..and so on this Valentines no matter what I get or what we do, I am thankful that this year I have a love that is so genuine and wonderful and brings so much joy into my life all of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 I sent my SO chocolates and a valentines day card and he loved it, but he did nothing for me nothing at all not even after he got his gift today still nothing and ive been talking about vday all week. Sighhhhhhhhh just a e-card would have done it for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author folieadeux Posted February 16, 2011 Author Share Posted February 16, 2011 I sent my SO chocolates and a valentines day card and he loved it, but he did nothing for me nothing at all not even after he got his gift today still nothing and ive been talking about vday all week. Sighhhhhhhhh just a e-card would have done it for me. I know you must be disappointed; I honestly would be too. But, maybe he's just one to show his appreciation for you in other ways (and on other days). Do you guys have an upcoming visit? Maybe he's saving something for you in person. Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted February 16, 2011 Share Posted February 16, 2011 I know you must be disappointed; I honestly would be too. But, maybe he's just one to show his appreciation for you in other ways (and on other days). Do you guys have an upcoming visit? Maybe he's saving something for you in person. We do he's coming march 12th, im not too upset about it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author folieadeux Posted February 16, 2011 Author Share Posted February 16, 2011 We do he's coming march 12th, im not too upset about it anymore. That's good; glad you were able to move on from it quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
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