folieadeux Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 So I did cut back on the sweet messages I send and it felt as if she started to show more interest. So I'm happy I got that going. But.... I text her mid day today just wishing her well on her day knowing she's at working and probably teaching. Her reply noted that she's having a bad day due to her and the rest of the teachers not getting tenure. I don't fully understand the situtation and try to give her some encouraging words about moving forward and staying optimistic. She responds with, just disregard what I told you, it's not fair to say something to you without you understanding the situation. I completely agree that I don't understand the situation but feel as if she's ungrateful in my attepmts to put some light on her day! I'm really going to have to let her know that if she decides to stick around and have me in her life, she's getting the total package which includes the optimistic, and encouraging features. I've been really calm with her but I think it's about time I let her know. At this point, it's not very encouraging to continue this. I'm ranting I guess. I think you're overreacting with your response. She was in the middle of work and stressed out when she sent you those messages, hence the abruptness. And I don't really see the big deal about what she wrote either...she realized, after explaining her day to you, that you may not know what not getting tenure means for her. And she was right...you didn't. She'll contact you when she's able to explain the situation in full to you if she cares to. I tend to agree with the poster above me; it really sounds like you're trying to force something here with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zerovandez Posted January 19, 2011 Author Share Posted January 19, 2011 Thanks for the replies and putting things into perspective for me. Sometimes it's hard to realize my wrong doings and thinking without all of your help. I am overreacting as we are "nothing" at this point and just really getting to know each other. I'll continue to cool it and play it that way. Thanks again you guys/gals! Link to post Share on other sites
TokyoG33kyGal Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 i dunno, but it sounds like this girl is using you as shock absorber, but that's just me. i mean, okay...you may not know what she was talking about but if i was ranting to somebody and he shows concern, i will appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zerovandez Posted January 25, 2011 Author Share Posted January 25, 2011 i dunno, but it sounds like this girl is using you as shock absorber, but that's just me. i mean, okay...you may not know what she was talking about but if i was ranting to somebody and he shows concern, i will appreciate it. Thanks. I do what I can to show support. Her career is really getting in the way of things at this point so I've backed off efforts tremendously. She states that she doesn't want to talk about work but everytime we're on the phone, her spirits are so down and all we can talk about is how her work is effecting her. She know's I'm here but I'm not going to take any negative reactions from her anymore when I try to give her some inspiration. I've made that clear to her and I think it helped. I'll see her in 2 weeks. That's going to be interesting... Link to post Share on other sites
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