Owz600 Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 Basically a year ago all my very close friends went off to University but I did not as I didn't get the best grades and wasn't sure what course I wanted to follow. The same happened with my ex (we broke up 2 weeks ago) but she went to college and studied Cabin Crew which she loves and is waiting to find out if she has a job soon. I went to college also and studied music for a year and got a good grade but realised I am only interested in making it with a band not being a teacher or anything else so no need to get a degree in it. Anyway I asked my ex months ago how she deals with the issue of not having many friends, her reply was 'I never had many friends in my life so never have depended on them' but with me I love being around friends. I had 2 close friends but we fell out over things such as money, they didn't deserve to be my friends anyway the way they treated me. Now I have very limited friends, I am fine when there are holidays and friends come back from University but other than that there's not many people. Literally 2 friends which I can depend on atm. I have others but I don't see them much. How can I make new friends? Im not loud and usually wait for people to talk to me first. I work with all old people so that's not fun, I am 19 btw. I go to the gym, I am starting a band, I go out with 1 of my friends on weekends but I can't seem to find close friends which I would like to hang with. Now I don't have my ex who was my best friend for 3 years I feel very lonely and don't have many friends to keep me occupied. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
hourglasses Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 I'm not exactly in the same boat, but I've got two friends from HS that I talk to once a year, zero friends from college, and one best friend who I made over the internet... who I then married, and now she's divorcing me because she loves me, but isn't in love with me. But that's another story. I'm not sure I'm qualified to give advice on how to find friends, because I have so much trouble myself... but I've always found the internet to be a big help. It widens the pool, ya know? You say you're into music. A lot of folks I'm acquainted with play on LiveJournal. There are Communities there that you can search for, in which folks enthuse about pretty much any topic imaginable. Look for communities that interest you, be an active poster, get involved in the discussions, and look at other posters main journal entries to see if you can relate to anything they're saying. Comment. And maybe they'll comment back. Do it enough times, and you might have a friend. Internet friends don't help much if you want a buddy to be physically present as you do an activity... but they're really helpful in staving off loneliness. (Just be really careful before you marry one...) Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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