BlindRage Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 Last night I caved in and contacted my ex while crying at around 1:00 A.M. Well she ignored it even though she goes to sleep at like 2 everyday. In the call (I left a voicemail) I told her how I love her and just miss her and all our future plans together. I doubt she would listen to a voicemail from me so I texted her and told her I'm sorry for my feeling but can't help myself and that I'm sincerely sorry for all the things I have said during the last 5-6 (thats when we broke up) I took out break up extremely hard as many of you have read from my previous post. I also said I mean it when I want her to be happy even if its not with me. Okay so here is the question: Right now I'm sitting outside my classroom waiting for class to start (winter semester started today) I feel like I'm about to cry my eyes out in front of everyone. How can I stop my feelings right now? I'm thinking of positive things but whats best right now? Link to post Share on other sites
KYoung2200 Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 What did you NOT like about her? Talk about that a bit, maybe. Go in there and focus on school work. Maybe look around at other females? Link to post Share on other sites
lostanddazed Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Hey man.. in all seriousness. You got to act like a man. I'm not bashing I felt the way you did. But I maned up and told my ex where she could stick it. I lived with her almost 6 years and i found out she been sleeping with me and another Guy for the past two months. Just think of her as already married, watch a funny movie. Delete her number, and for God sakes don't call or text her. The biggest turn off for women is neediness. Your life is gunna go on man. In the words of all my good friends ... f that hoe. You think she's home thinking of you? Get real man.. you gotta boost your ego back up.. go get laid.. you would be surprised what kissing another girl could do. Furthermore delete all your pictures of her.. if its been 5 months man.. its time to let go. Don't listen to corny ass live songs... listen to some rap.. songs about nailing girls.. you may have passed up on 6-7 different girls already by sitting around moping. Sorry if it sounds harsh, but that's reality man. Link to post Share on other sites
stopthemadness Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Last night I caved in and contacted my ex while crying at around 1:00 A.M. Well she ignored it even though she goes to sleep at like 2 everyday. In the call (I left a voicemail) I told her how I love her and just miss her and all our future plans together. I doubt she would listen to a voicemail from me so I texted her and told her I'm sorry for my feeling but can't help myself and that I'm sincerely sorry for all the things I have said during the last 5-6 (thats when we broke up) I took out break up extremely hard as many of you have read from my previous post. I also said I mean it when I want her to be happy even if its not with me. Okay so here is the question: Right now I'm sitting outside my classroom waiting for class to start (winter semester started today) I feel like I'm about to cry my eyes out in front of everyone. How can I stop my feelings right now? I'm thinking of positive things but whats best right now? ok..Stop all contact.please do it for you.I too miss my ex ALL the time but I know hes moved on with his life. So I refrain from calling him. Thats what my therapist says. Maybe you seeing a therapist is a real good idea. Have you ever thought about it? Am sure your school should offer smthing. Iam not saying am prefect because some times I break N/C but for the most part I control the "gota call them now" feeling. We ALL get it we just fight it. Youll learn to fight it to. Hang in there. Stay strong and fight the feeling to contact them. Link to post Share on other sites
KickinCowgirl Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 I'm sorry.. its so hard. Don't beat yourself up for caving in... Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlindRage Posted January 11, 2011 Author Share Posted January 11, 2011 ok..Stop all contact.please do it for you.I too miss my ex ALL the time but I know hes moved on with his life. So I refrain from calling him. Thats what my therapist says. Maybe you seeing a therapist is a real good idea. Have you ever thought about it? Am sure your school should offer smthing. Iam not saying am prefect because some times I break N/C but for the most part I control the "gota call them now" feeling. We ALL get it we just fight it. Youll learn to fight it to. Hang in there. Stay strong and fight the feeling to contact them. Your advice encouraged me to seek help. I went to an appointment today with a therapist and I have a follow-up appointment next week. The session was good and she pretty much told me what I know but didn't want to bring up. It's just hard, my life has been hard, I texted my ex a final-final good bye telling her to take care and I hope everything she does makes her happy and ended it with "I'm out now I give up." Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 They can't ignore you if you never contact them. Link to post Share on other sites
PleasantDeviation Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 I recently been through the same thing. My ex dumped and ignored me right away. It's tough. I cried a lot. I started thinking about all the things I didn't like about him and actually am thankful he's out of my life now. Start paying attention to other women. You don't have to date them. Just make some conversation. It's gonna take time but you'll be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Don't be her willing ego booster anymore. The next time you feel the urge to call, just imagine her sharing your texts and voicemails with her girlfriends, laughing at you. Even if she doesn't share your messages, she will share all details with someone. A lot of girls do that, unfortunately. Don't make the mistake of putting her on a pedestal and think she won't do it to you. We've been there, bro. Stay strong, maintain NC multiple times over. Regain your dignity. Link to post Share on other sites
J0N Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 I'm sorry to say this but everytime you contact her, it lowers her respect for you. At a certain point she will start to see you as pathetic. Sorry to be harsh but there is only one way to move forward, contacting her isn't it. Link to post Share on other sites
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