pureinheart Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Or, maybe, like myself and millions of other people married to addicts, her H will deal with his addiction and continue a life of recovery. If you are truly knowledgeable about addiction and recovery, you would know that an addict has to hit his or her personal rock bottom before they are able to admit and deal with their addiction (no matter what the addiction is). You would know that the addict has to be the one to want to be in recovery. You would know that true love and support isn't easy, but very possible when dealing with an addict. You would know that loving an addict isn't hell on earth if the addict is willing to put the work into his or her recovery. You would know that millions of addicts are able to overcome their addiction and lead happy heathy lives. Many of them become better parents, friends, siblings, children, etc, after they have made the commitment to admit and deal with their addictions. Maybe you were not dealing with an addict that was willing to do the work of recovery. Every addiction is different, with different methods of recovery...there are some similarities, although certain ones can't be played with...this is one of them, especially if kids involved. This is mostlikely why the W is going to the extent she is, it's not about claws coming out, it's about fear. If she is intent on staying with him, then to protect her kid(s) a prison is the best way to make sure. Why do you think sex offenders must be registered... Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Every addiction is different, with different methods of recovery...there are some similarities, although certain ones can't be played with...this is one of them, especially if kids involved. This is mostlikely why the W is going to the extent she is, it's not about claws coming out, it's about fear. If she is intent on staying with him, then to protect her kid(s) a prison is the best way to make sure. Why do you think sex offenders must be registered... Sex addicts aren't necessarily sex offenders(which includes rapists) or molesters so why would a prison be necessary? Link to post Share on other sites
Goldenspoon Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I'm not concerned. I feel nothing for the jerk. I am entertained though. Btw, the mistrust didn't start with me. He had an affair with one of his coworkers about 8 years before I became involved with him. The wife caught on right away, but he told her lies to make her think it was in her head, but she still had some mistrust. He told me about this after I had been in a relationship with him for a year. Typical attitude of a mistress. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Typical attitude of a mistress. sad isn't it? entertained while a family is left in ruins after the fun has been had. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 This is mostlikely why the W is going to the extent she is, it's not about claws coming out, it's about fear.Wow. Talk about jumping to conclusions. If it was me this happened to, and I let him stick around at all, I would be doing it purely to make his arse miserable. THEN I would dump him after he'd done all the crawling and groveling I felt was due me. Link to post Share on other sites
blizzard Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 GG, I can tell you from personal experience that there is a different dynamic involved when sex addiction is present. It left me feeling dirty. It is the most unwelcome element I have ever dealt with. A sex addicts concept of love and sex are really twisted and distorted. I really feel bad for anyone who gets involved with this man as this is the true form of narcissist. Personally, I hope she gets out...it is hell on earth. yes pure, it can feel like a form of slavery. and it crushes your self confidence. what's sad is that many conform to it...not recognizing it is an addiction...a problem...that true intimacy isn't suppose to feel that way. I hope so too. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 yes pure, it can feel like a form of slavery. and it crushes your self confidence. what's sad is that many conform to it...not recognizing it is an addiction...a problem...that true intimacy isn't suppose to feel that way. I hope so too. Honeslt it sounds to me more like describing an ow situation. Especially the form of slavery part. Pure I don't get it. You were married 3 times to sex addicts and yet YOU became an ow? Link to post Share on other sites
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