moimeme Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 This is a great piece on the ways people let expectations control them. http://lists.webvalence.com/sites/WorkInProgress/Broadcast.D20030701.html Link to post Share on other sites
Sundaymorning Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 doesnt show up- says there was an error! crud! Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 I can get it from here. If I were on my home computer it would probably be a problem. It is kind of a long link Maybe moi can give you the breakdown directions to search/click from the main site. Link to post Share on other sites
Author moimeme Posted March 19, 2004 Author Share Posted March 19, 2004 It works for me. I've put spaces between the slashes so you can see the full address here but it won't work if you click; you have to remove all the blank spaces http://lists.webvalence.com/sites/WorkInProgress/Broadcast.D20030701.html Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 The above link is perfectly fine in its current presentation. Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 here's another one about blaming others for your disappointments - the whole feature is about how to create joy in your relationships.. http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/features/joy/articles/0,,295574_297372-2,00.html?arrivalSA=1&cobrandRef=0&arrival_freqCap=2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author moimeme Posted March 20, 2004 Author Share Posted March 20, 2004 Thanks, BB! That's a good one, too Link to post Share on other sites
from ND Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 Thats why my ex is holding my things hostage, she is mad i took the control away, Its hard to play mind games with someone when they are 1400 miles away. I think my hopping an amtrak in the middle of the night wounded her more than her cheating wounded me. Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 my pleasure - its a better way of thinking i think - makes my life 100 times less stressful. now i just need a site to tell me how to stop my upper lip going red after attempting to wax it for the first time, I dont even need to. I dont know what i was thinking of. i have 1 hour b4 meeting bf. am on panic stations. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 Originally posted by BigBelm ....now i just need a site to tell me how to stop my upper lip going red after attempting to wax it for the first time, I dont even need to. I dont know what i was thinking of..... Ouch!!!! Is it swollen too? Maybe you could try ice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author moimeme Posted March 20, 2004 Author Share Posted March 20, 2004 my pleasure - its a better way of thinking i think - makes my life 100 times less stressful. I could not agree more!!!!!!!!!!!! now i just need a site to tell me how to stop my upper lip going red after attempting to wax it for the first time, I dont even need to. I dont know what i was thinking of. I'll travel OT with you for a moment. I did that once, too - with the same result. Stayed red for HOURS!!! Never did it after. Last time I went to do my brows, I asked about the lip - my excellent aesthetician said mine was like most people's - very fine and not visible anyway so I oughtn't worry. Perhaps you're the same. I also once, years ago, tried hydrogen peroxide (turns out there was no dark hair but rather sun-stain on my skin!) - my lip went dead white!!!! I've learned my lesson: leave it alone Ask your friends/bf/someone you interact with regularly if they think your lip really needs attention. In the meantime, try ice cubes! Have you any concealer handy? Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 once i bleached by eyebrows white with that creme bleach stuff. no idea why i did that either. i am so glad its not just me - haha concealer is working at moment - too late for ice, my make ups on. if bf has expectations of me not having a swollen face, he can forget them. BB Link to post Share on other sites
Author moimeme Posted March 20, 2004 Author Share Posted March 20, 2004 if bf has expectations of me not having a swollen face, he can forget them. ROTFL! Great segue back to topic!! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Sundaymorning Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 what am i allowed to expect though? -that he will make something of himself and be happy withwhat he does, while trying his best? -all the normal things of a relationship that will be reciprocated (love, trust, honesty, respect...etc) -that he will be happy and make choices that make him happy? -that he not become depressed like my ex did? this is where i start to over-analyze stuff....grrr sorrry Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 Great link..thanks. And to the OT subject. I tweeze my upper lip, or use bleach which works fine for me. But I HAVE to do something... (maltese/armenian heritage! lol) Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 merry - i should be an anchor between TV shows, i can make great tenous links i can monday morning - lip back to normal. now wondering what else i can meddle with and mess up. thinkalot - know where i need to come for tips now when i get over zealous sundaymorning - nope, i dont think you can expect ANY of those things. you cant place your happiness on someone elses actions - or you transfer your right to happiness to somewhere you have absolutely no control. and you cant ask someone to do things that make you happy - if he makes the wrong choices for eg, thats right for HIM as he'll learn from them - its part of his process. you have to live your life to your own rules, and if his dont match yours, hes not making you unhappy, you are making yourself unhappy by staying with someone who isnt right for you. if he doesnt comply with those things youd like, hes not wrong, hes just not compatible with you. did you read the links? read, read and read them again. oh and do then come and debate them here, interested to see what you think. it took me a while, but now i am there with the whole expectation thing, i am suddenly a lot more chilled about life. Link to post Share on other sites
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