Ross PK Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 A lot of times when I go to the supermarket I will catch women staring at me. Everytime it happens I'll look away after say a second, only on a couple of occasions have the women looked away first, so as for the others, I'm not sure how long they would've continued to look at me if I hadn't looked away first.
oaks Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 They are wondering what you are doing in the women's clothing aisle.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 just gaze back & watch the reaction. they may be into you... or you may have tissue streaming from the bottom of your shoe. either way. gaze back.
Art_Critic Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 What does it mean when you catch women staring at you? That you forgot to zip up your fly.. Ross.. it most likely means that they found you appealing in some way.. Look back and smile back to them..
carhill Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 I generally get this when I'm in the card aisle looking for a birthday/anniversary/thank you/sympathy card. I guess it's strange seeing a man in the card aisle I don't ascribe any meaning to such things. Some people are just friendly. A quick glance at their left hand usually confirms this.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 It means you're either a hunk or the elephant man. If you're just unattractive there's little chance you'll find anyone staring.
MrNate Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 A lot of times when I go to the supermarket I will catch women staring at me. Everytime it happens I'll look away after say a second, only on a couple of occasions have the women looked away first, so as for the others, I'm not sure how long they would've continued to look at me if I hadn't looked away first. It could mean two things: 1. You're ugly 2. They want dat azz.
brainygirl Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 You have a booger on your face You look nice You are wearing a bizarre hat or outfit Or they were staring off into space or past you and you are self centered enough to THINK that all the women around you stare at you all the time. So . . . really means nothing.
reservoirdog1 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 Hold her gaze until she breaks it. According to studies of body language, if she breaks the gaze by looking to her left or right, she's not interested. If she breaks it by looking down, that's a sign of "submission" and indicates interest. Just what I've heard, anyway.
Author Ross PK Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Hold her gaze until she breaks it. According to studies of body language, if she breaks the gaze by looking to her left or right, she's not interested. If she breaks it by looking down, that's a sign of "submission" and indicates interest. Just what I've heard, anyway. I tried looking out for this today, but no women seemed to notice me. Oh well. I would've really loved to have found out whether I am desireable to some women or not.
carhill Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 OP, I'd like to suggest entertaining a change in perspective. Focus on women who are desirable *to you*, whether that be physical, mannerisms, 'aura' or whatever. Try it.
KraftDinner Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Honestly, it could mean anything. a) they think you are hot b) they think you are hideous c) you remind them of someone they know d) you have the same sweater as they do e) you are in their way f) you are in their line of sight g) they are looking at you as they think of something else "did I pick up the drycleaning" etc. h) they wonder if they know you i) etc. I think people read too much into glances, etc. However, if they are looking at you and smile, play with their hair, look demurely away while batting eyelashes -- they like what they see. Without describing the type of look, it's impossible to say.
Seamless74 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 its a broad generalization to be sure,, but that being said people in general tend to look at things that interest them..
Author Ross PK Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 OP, I'd like to suggest entertaining a change in perspective. Focus on women who are desirable *to you*, whether that be physical, mannerisms, 'aura' or whatever. Try it. What do you actually mean by focusing on them? Seeing if they're attracted to me? I find the majority of women desirable, so nearly any woman that looks at me I find attractive.
Author Ross PK Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 However, if they are looking at you and smile, play with their hair, look demurely away while batting eyelashes -- they like what they see. Well, they've not done that. I've never experienced that even once in my life.
carhill Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 What do you actually mean by focusing on them? Seeing if they're attracted to me? I find the majority of women desirable, so nearly any woman that looks at me I find attractive. You're a fortunate man indeed. Now, when you observe a woman whom you find desirable, own that and let your body and mind express it. If it is mutual, she will return that expression with her own. if they are looking at you and smile, play with their hair, look demurely away while batting eyelashes -- they like what they see. Yep, that's one sign. Regardless, IME, the best way to learn social cues, beyond reading about them, is to actually take risks and make mistakes. No harm in being friendly
Author Ross PK Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 You're a fortunate man indeed. Now, when you observe a woman whom you find desirable, own that and let your body and mind express it. If it is mutual, she will return that expression with her own. I wouldn't really know what to do.
lovefool988 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Lets just put it this way, there are chances that the woman is actually looking at something else, or just staring at nothing while being lost in her own thought, there is chance that the gaze is simply mistaken. But there is also a real possiblity that she is actually look at you. You can usually spot the difference in the eyes when you make eye contact. However, such mild interest does not really mean much really. Say, you went to a supermarket and saw a beautiful girl, your natural response was to gaze upon her to study her features, and then, she happened to look your way. So the girl then thought, "oh that man is staring at me, what does it mean?" It could mean: 1. you think she is beautiful and you like her 2. you are studying her beauty in a neutral manner 3. you panic and looks away 4. you lost interest and looks away 5. etc etc At the end of it all, does it matter? Not much really.
Author Ross PK Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 Lets just put it this way, there are chances that the woman is actually looking at something else, or just staring at nothing while being lost in her own thought, there is chance that the gaze is simply mistaken. But there is also a real possiblity that she is actually look at you. You can usually spot the difference in the eyes when you make eye contact. However, such mild interest does not really mean much really. Say, you went to a supermarket and saw a beautiful girl, your natural response was to gaze upon her to study her features, and then, she happened to look your way. So the girl then thought, "oh that man is staring at me, what does it mean?" It could mean: 1. you think she is beautiful and you like her 2. you are studying her beauty in a neutral manner 3. you panic and looks away 4. you lost interest and looks away 5. etc etc At the end of it all, does it matter? Not much really. It does when you're hoping that it is possible for women to be interested in you, and you've never experienced a woman showing interest in you before. If I could just get some proof that it is possible for me to be desired by the opposite sex, it would make me feel so much better, and then at least I'd know if I put in loads of hard work then what would seem impossible just may happen and I may get to have sex/a girlfriend.
Author Ross PK Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 (edited) Hold her gaze until she breaks it. According to studies of body language, if she breaks the gaze by looking to her left or right, she's not interested. If she breaks it by looking down, that's a sign of "submission" and indicates interest. Just what I've heard, anyway. Just saw a girl today who I remember in the past kept looking at me several times while she was stood in a queue. I was sure that, if it is possible for me to attract women, this really could mean she's interested. So today we made eye contact as she walked past me, but she broke the gaze by looking to the right. I knew it would have to happen. I guess this makes all the other times when I've caught women staring at me to be pretty meaningless too. I was actually starting to feel really good about myself for this past month or so, because of thinking that maybe just maybe these women found me desirable. Edited January 18, 2011 by Ross PK
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