ramble on rose Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 AARGGH! Sorry had to get that out. From my earlier posts you know that I had a horrible breakup with the ex. I started feeling great and started dating again. I met a guy who was agressive in chasing me and I was apprehensive to be caught. After a couple of months of dating, he began asking that I spend more time with him. After giving it some time, I decided I'd like to try for more with this guy and made more time for him. As soon as I made more time for him he totally started behaving differently - like he was now disinterested. I was really confused - I finally felt good enough to make the decision and then his behavior completely negated what he asked me for. So I said, look, I'm not with anyone else...not looking to get married but want a monogamous relationship. He got incredibly defensive and reactionary! This was a total shock because just a couple of weeks ago he was touting monogamy and stabilty. He abruptly got up and said he didn't want to talk about it anymore and asked me to leave. I was like, wait! Can we discuss this calmly? He just walked out! I grabbed my bag and followed him outside, and said are you just going to walk away from me? He was SO angry! I was like - ok this dude is a psycho...and left. Later that night I found his cell phone in my purse (it was ringing off the hook). I brought it back to him today and said would you like to talk now? He was incredibly defensive and said no, in a couple of days maybe but not now. I want you to go. I put the phone down and walked out. All I can say is...what the hell......? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 Your 'men with issues' radar is as faulty as most of ours. Time to move on - again. This is unreasonable behaviour - not a good sign. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 he's a jackass, that's what the blank! Maybe the idea of the chase, of pursuing an elusive hot babe was more of a thrill than actually catching said hot babe ... some people are like that, but that still seems kind of odd from someone who initially came on as hot and heavy! wave goodbye and walk away. There are other fish in the ocean, ones who aren't necessarily into playing games. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ramble on rose Posted March 19, 2004 Author Share Posted March 19, 2004 Ladies I'm getting really concerned about the men I'm picking. I have no problem walking away from this but there is a big ol question mark floating above my head. Talk about totally unreasonable! I feel duped. I think I am going to exit the dating world for awhile. I sure as hell am not going to be phoning him. Link to post Share on other sites
cowgirl Posted March 19, 2004 Share Posted March 19, 2004 I will never understand men either I don't think. They think women have issues. I met a guy in my home town last year while I was living away and in the processe of moving back. Before I moved back I would do a weekend up every now and than to see my family as well as him and he would call a few times a week while I was away to see how I was etc. When I moved back a month later that soon changed. He has 2 kids that don't live with him but stay with him every now and than. I started to hear from him less and less. I become very hurt with the treatment so I decided two can play this game. He only started to call when he'd had a few drinks after footy with the boys. As hard as it was for me to do I didn't call him and just tried to move on and meet someone else. I did meet someone else but he proved to be about as good as the last one. Anyway, now his footy season is started again for the year he says he's busy on weekends and that he'll be laying low for a while. We speak on the phone still every now and than and we're still great mates but it'll never go anywhere unless he changes his ways. I honestly think he still hasnt completely gotten over his past or dealt with it I dont know. I also think that while I was living away he knew he could have his cake and eat it to but now Im back it's harder to do. I don't know whats so scary for a male when it comes to a commitment. What better feeling can you get when there's someone out there that wants to care about you and give you all the love they can. I can't wait to feel that again. Well, I've basically given up on it all and Id rather be alone than have someone stuff me around all the time. If there is any guys out there that can explain men's strange behaviour sometimes Id love to hear your comments. cheers everyone!! Link to post Share on other sites
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