why do girls not respond to text messages sent to them?

[Dilusional]

Hey, im just curious as why do girls not respond to text messages, it seems as if its coded in their DNA . Like for instance, why is it that if i get a girls number alot of times they simply never even respond to my message and i just leave it at that. Or alot of times they'll respond and seem interested and then stop texting.

 

Ive always figured it was because they do not want to talk to me anymore because obviously if i were of any significance they would respond as im sure they have responded to others in the time period that i texted them, they just simply look over it.

 

Which is probably the case but idk i just wanted some others input on the subject.

[jadedone]

Hey, im just curious as why do girls not respond to text messages, it seems as if its coded in their DNA . Like for instance, why is it that if i get a girls number alot of times they simply never even respond to my message and i just leave it at that. Or alot of times they'll respond and seem interested and then stop texting.

 

Ive always figured it was because they do not want to talk to me anymore because obviously if i were of any significance they would respond as im sure they have responded to others in the time period that i texted them, they just simply look over it.

 

Which is probably the case but idk i just wanted some others input on the subject.

 

stop texting and call them like a real man.

[counterman]

I agree, just call and see what happens then.

 

Some might not be interested, some might not prefer texting as it is less formal, some might have given you their number even if they're not interested etc. I would call and if they do not pick up, go on to the next one.

[Dilusional]

stop texting and call them like a real man.

 

Very amusing, but it was just a typical question. But naturally, ive tried the calling thing too. Maybe i should of rename my thread

[cerridwen]

Sometimes I don't receive the text; sometimes I've put my phone away for the night; sometimes I don't like the person texting but don't have the heart to tell them.

 

If you text twice and get ignored both times, move on.

[Dilusional]

Sometimes I don't receive the text; sometimes I've put my phone away for the night; sometimes I don't like the person texting but don't have the heart to tell them.

 

If you text twice and get ignored both times, move on.

 

But not telling them is the worst because at least if your honest theyll understand why you stopped texting them! (as if they didnt already know ).

 

But yea i knew the answer to these questions, i just wanted to get a female point of view on the subject. But there have been numerous times where i called a girl and they always usually say the same thing "Can you call me back in a few minutes" or, "Can you call me back tommorow" or "Im busy i have to go", by then natrually, i get the picture -_-

[walktheline]

The girl I've been dating turned off her text notifications because she's been getting late night forwarded messages and didn't want to be bothered. I hate to say that I initially thought that she was ignoring me until we talked on the phone.

 

I don't like to use texting other than to casually chat or ask when I can call.

[Dilusional]

Its rather funny because alot of times when i text girls, theyll stop texting right in the middle of seemingly semi interesting conversation (or maybe i thought it was, hence my name, Dilusonal ) like we will talk about all sorts of things, and then they just stop texting. Normally youd expect a winding down of a convo or it may seem stale so you know it may end, but to just stop talking when it seems semi interesting. Strange indeed.

[zengirl]

Hey, im just curious as why do girls not respond to text messages, it seems as if its coded in their DNA . Like for instance, why is it that if i get a girls number alot of times they simply never even respond to my message and i just leave it at that. Or alot of times they'll respond and seem interested and then stop texting.

 

Ive always figured it was because they do not want to talk to me anymore because obviously if i were of any significance they would respond as im sure they have responded to others in the time period that i texted them, they just simply look over it.

 

Which is probably the case but idk i just wanted some others input on the subject.

 

I respond to texts. My roommate (the female one) is sitting in the living room, texting somebody back right now. So, women respond to texts. Not coded in our DNA to ignore it.

 

I don't know you, so not sure why women don't respond to your texts. I'm guessing they wanted some attention, they got it, and they're now bored. Mostly because you're young, and -- if you're dating girls who don't text you back -- possibly dating flaky girls?

[Dilusional]

I respond to texts. My roommate (the female one) is sitting in the living room, texting somebody back right now. So, women respond to texts. Not coded in our DNA to ignore it.

 

I don't know you, so not sure why women don't respond to your texts. I'm guessing they wanted some attention, they got it, and they're now bored. Mostly because you're young, and -- if you're dating girls who don't text you back -- possibly dating flaky girls?

 

The really funny thing is the girls who dont respond to any message or call at all when they've given you their number. As in you never even had a conversation end, they just didnt respond right from the beggining . Or sometimes they'll respond to maybe 1 or 2 of your messages then never say anything back after that.

 

Ive also had girls who didnt respond to me but responded to some of my friends, with the same phone of course, so it was obviously something i was saying wrong with those girls as i asked my friend, Well how the hell did you get her to talk to you but not me?? Their like "Because you have no game" (fail ftw )

 

But idk, most girls that i meet simply either stop responding or dont respond at all, bad luck indeed

[ConflictedGuy27]

lol. it's cause you're texts suck.

 

unoriginal, not funny, not stimulating, not challenging, i.e.:

 

"so how's your day?" lol.

 

sure, I'm speculating, but I'm correct.

I count on guys like you sending texts like yours, that make texts like mine worth answering in minutes.

 

you must arouse curiosity.

[Dilusional]

lol. it's cause you're texts suck.

 

unoriginal, not funny, not stimulating, not challenging, i.e.:

 

"so how's your day?" lol.

 

sure, I'm speculating, but I'm correct.

I count on guys like you sending texts like yours, that make texts like mine worth answering in minutes.

 

you must arouse curiosity.

 

There are times in which no matter what you say, they wont respond that's the reality. But one thing is you shouldn't take it personal. I cant count how many times ive asked a girl out right from the start in which they agreed they would but then failed to do so when i asked them "So what time do you want to go?" often times it leads to them not responding at all again, strange. Or there have been times where their like im busy today but maybe tommorow blah blah blah fail

[ConflictedGuy27]

There are times in which no matter what you say, they wont respond that's the reality. But one thing is you shouldn't take it personal. I cant count how many times ive asked a girl out right from the start in which they agreed they would but then failed to do so when i asked them "So what time do you want to go?" often times it leads to them not responding at all again, strange. Or there have been times where their like im busy today but maybe tommorow blah blah blah fail

 

you get flaked on because your texts are inadequate to keep them interested.

 

"There are times in which no matter what you say, they wont respond that's the reality." <--- wrong. this dismisses all error on your part.

 

why ask a girl out "right from the start"? why should they say yes?? if you haven't established that you're worth spending time with, than guesss what? they won't spend time with you.

 

your texts suck.

if you disagree let's see some.

[ricochet01gal]

They may simply get bored by so many texts, even if some of them are interesting, or they may actually be busy doing other stuff and not have time to keep texting back and forth. I get irritated when a guy keeps texting me continuously instead of just calling. I'd keep the texting to a minimum and instead actually speak to them. Also don't call or text all the time (like every day), especially early on in the dating stages. At least, that's what I think, as a female myself.

[fishtaco]

Some women are flaky.

 

Some women give out numbers to men they're not interested in.

 

Some women act like they're interested for other motives. Once that motive is no longer there, they have no reason to keep communicating with you.

 

Some women change their minds.

 

Don't ask why, just know if your communication is not reciprocated, you drop them and call the next number. Hence you want to get multiple numbers and date multiple people. Even some anti-multi-dating people will agree in the beginning, it's okay to do so. Very few will be so strict as to think that once you get one number, you can't go get another.

 

So get as many numbers as you can. "Why" is never something you need to know. Just know that if you don't get a response, don't bother wasting any more of your time.

 

I actually almost never even try a second time. I don't care if it's because their phone malfunctioned. If they don't reply, I scratch them off the list.

 

Unless your text/call is offensive or creepy, it's not your fault. Women that are interested in you, will give you a break. If a cute girl you like was so nervous she said something goofy, do you drop her immediately? If you do then it's because you weren't all that interested in her in the first place. So look at the big things, like the flow of communication, as opposed to the little details. Unless your goal is to play the perfect game, then yes, you have to be without weakness every step of the way. But then it'd about you and your skills, it wouldn't be about her, or the potential relationship. Different goals.

[phineas]

Usually women stop responding to texts when I start giving them one word responses or say something to close it all out.

 

It works wonders & now i've got to figure out how to get them off the damn phone in 15 mins. or less.

 

No offence to the ladies, but jeezus you will talk a man's cell phone battery dead if he lets you. LOL!

 

I'm trying to send out the message to women that I prefer to talk to them in person. If it means I only see them once a week then fine by me.

 

I gotta tell ya, it's pure heaven.

Being able to wind down in front of the TV without a text or phone call every night.

 

I'd turn off my phone, but it's my only phone and I keep it on so the ex can talk to the kids or I can receive a call about the kids in emergency when I don't have them.

[sweetjasmine]

I gotta tell ya, it's pure heaven.

Being able to wind down in front of the TV without a text or phone call every night.

 

Yeah, seriously. Just quiet, and no annoying phone ringing or buzzing.

 

Just speaking for myself, I don't particularly like texting - I use it in situations when I can't make an actual call. I hate it when people bombard me with texts and try to have an extended conversation. It's irritating. I'm not going to sit there glued to my phone all day like a few of my friends do. Plus, I don't have an unlimited text plan because I don't need it. I'm not going to burn up my quota on a single conversation because neither person can wait a little while until they're able to actually call. I think I'm in the minority here, but I think it's rude to persistently text someone unless you know for sure they have an unlimited texting plan.

[Dilusional]

Thanks for all the responses, i guess i really should just move on if they dont reply (even though i always do move on ). But yea, i sometimes start talking and get my hopes up and then they just stop texting or calling, its like frick i thought it our convo was going somewhere , then i have to start from square one and get anotehr girls number (Which isnt always easy as girls sometiems say they have boyfriends, their phone is off, or other things to not lend out their number) or talk to another girl in my phone. But i guess thats apart of life?

[ConflictedGuy27]

Thanks for all the responses, i guess i really should just move on if they dont reply (even though i always do move on ). But yea, i sometimes start talking and get my hopes up and then they just stop texting or calling, its like frick i thought it our convo was going somewhere , then i have to start from square one and get anotehr girls number (Which isnt always easy as girls sometiems say they have boyfriends, their phone is off, or other things to not lend out their number) or talk to another girl in my phone. But i guess thats apart of life?

 

make a friend that's great with women.

buy him a beer... hell, buy him a few.

 

hang out; watch him; learn his ways; & apply.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

why do girls not respond to text messages sent to them?

 

This should be obvious to you.

 

"girls" have the p*ssy, and with it the power.

 

 

The most sensible thing for you to do is stop texting them !!!

[tami-chan]

I will ignore a text when I do not think the text message or person is important enough. But there are many occasions when I really cannot respond right away and will explain the reason for the delayed response.

[Star Gazer]

I've been guilty of this, with guys I really don't care about losing or turning off/pushing away. My more recent practice is to respond, as not responding to a text is really rude - almost like having someone walk up to you and ask you the same question, only to ignore them. But I now respond with something short and curt that someone who understands social cues would understand clear as day.

 

There are times when I don't have my phone on me, or am busy, etc., and I cannot respond right away. But for those guys where I do care if I lose them or turn them off, I always apologize and explain my silence and engage them in conversation.

[nessaaa]

You get their number just to text them....how cute..*disusted face*.

I've had people who try to have convos through texting, it's annoying..call me, its alot easier.

[Dilusional]

Well, i wouldnt call myself desperate, but seeing as im single atm, any lady who gives me their number im surely going ot want to talk to. :)Even if they dont date me, i still like having a female to talk to (though maybe females dont care if a male talks to them tahts ok ). But idk, if its a female its like, this is cool i wanna talk to her for the sake that she a female.

 

But my homies who i know (male friends) its like meh, i can talk to your ass anytime who cares . I guess i put too much of an emphasis on conversations for the sake that im talking to a female, maybe i should just not care like they obviously do, who knows. Eitehr way im gonna keep getting females numbers, maybe one day theyll feel im "important" enough to respond too.

[ConflictedGuy27]

I guess i put too much of an emphasis on conversations for the sake that im talking to a female...

 

I don't think you're putting "too much" emphasis on this. it's normal to want females in your life. unless you care to live a life devoted to celabacy, you're doing the right thing by placing importance on having women in your life. I'm the same way.

 

...Either way im gonna keep getting females numbers, maybe one day theyll feel im "important" enough to respond too.

 

I love the attitude and it will pay off.

 

you'll get mixed opinions on LS regarding when to call and text and text taboo bs, but whatever. fact is, women have individual preferences and tastes with regard to the most effective way(s) they wish to be pursued by men. what one prefers isn't necessarily what another does.

 

continue to take chances like you've been doing. that's what a lot of guys that have given up don't have, that you do -- the will to keep putting yourself out there and reaching out. I respect that.