If you do start over with an ex, how does it work?

[ramble on rose]

After reading post after post about people hoping to get back together with the ex (regardless of the reason(s) of breakup), how does the relationship work if/when it does happen? I know specifics depend on the situation, but, do you just throw yourselves back in it "business as usual"?

 

If I ever did get back with an ex, would it be ok to start slowly with the intent of it getting to where it was, or date with no expectation of the outcome? I don't feel I could get back together with an ex and have it start with just casual dating. I would think that after sharing so much with someone, it would be difficult to have no expectation of the outcome. It seems like it would be more work and anguish than it would be worth.

 

Thoughts?

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

would it be ok to start slowly with the intent of it getting to where it was

 

you wouldn't want it back to where it was i.e breaking up stage but i take it you mean the last stage of the successful bit

 

you certainly wouldn't date with no expectation or else you wouldn't be there in the first ( second place? )

 

i am currently casually dating my ex i think i.e no snogging, no sex , no phsical contact in a sexual way

 

It seems like it would be more work and anguish than it would be worth

 

this is probably true, it is a current nightmare for me with her calling me her 'friend'

 

i don't know the answer, i have never started over with an ex and got anywhere as such as a reconciliation and i too would like to hear from anyone who ever did or ever heard of such!

 

good topic!!!!!!!!

[ramble on rose]

Ooops, yes I meant getting it back to when it was really good - certainly not to where it was really bad!

 

I would think both parties would have to be on the same page in order for it to work - not like, "let's casually date eachother and other people and see what happens" - how could you try again with no commitment? You already passed that stage once.