What is she thinking? why wont she listen to anyone? I dont get it..need to walk away

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Hey every one I haven't posted in ages but I find myself sitting here watching a train wreck in the making and I just need some others advice as well. The basic jest of it all is I have a female friend who is in a what would appear to be less then ideal relashionship. Hes like 47 and shes like 25 or something along those lines they always fight to the point the police have been to their house but yet she refuses to leave this guy?

 

Mainly because she likes the security of living in his home I think. Ive had to stop listing to her go on about things as she never seams to actually want to take advice or help offered and I found all the drama very emotionality draining. That said I now have some serious doubts as to wither or not I can even watch this impending train wreck in the making.

 

Apparently her and this guy are trying to have kids together and have been for ages but now they are at the stage there considering IVF and all that jazz. Lots of people have tried to talk her out of this as per the rocky relashionship and their age difference. But she refuses to listen to reason ive personally tried to talk to her nicely and make her see that it wouldn't be fair to bring a child into the unstable home.

 

Not to mention his age difference wouldn't be fair as well and I know that personally being a child of older parents myself. But she still refuses to listen and says and I quote "maybe a baby will fix things" and "I just want one" it floors me.. The selfishness?

 

I also came from a broken unhappy home and I know exactly what that kid will endure why on earth put a helpless child thu that if its completely unavoidable? I think I need to just back away slowly and start fading away even more again as the situation is a bit upsetting to me to watch...what are your thoughts? Thanks guys..

[Questionis]

Maybe you can try talking with her about her feeling as, that will get to the bottom of things.

Maybe the reason she is staying with him, is more than security and it goes deeper...

You said that you have been through similar things in your life, you would be the best person for her to share things with!

[carhill]

I think I need to just back away slowly and start fading away even more again as the situation is a bit upsetting to me to watch...what are your thoughts?

 

Those would be them. Odds are they won't miss you at all.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Maybe you can try talking with her about her feeling as, that will get to the bottom of things.

Maybe the reason she is staying with him, is more than security and it goes deeper...

You said that you have been through similar things in your life, you would be the best person for her to share things with!

 

 

Ive tried all she says is stuff like I quoted above a baby will not fix things and can make it worse but I cant get it thu to her shes determined..

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Those would be them. Odds are they won't miss you at all.

Yeah its already been a strained friendship but we were trying to work things out but now Im having my doubts. Your prob right they have so much drama in their lives im sure my absence wouldn't matter at this point.

 

I don't ring her like I use to but she still rings me from time to time so ive cut things back to casule friendship I guess you could say. I feel bad but im going thu some stress as well at the moment and cant handle any more..

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I really feel you man!

Um Im a female while the idea is admittedly exciting in a kinky kinda way to be felt up by a total stranger I don't think my partner would take to kindly hahha jk ...Thanks for the replies guys..