Omei Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Haven't been on this site in a while because I have been with my SO for 3 weeks. I just left him at the airport, I feel heartbroken, he feels heartbroken we cry. Now I am sitting at home with a bag of Mc Donalds and no idea what to do with myself I feel so empty again. Just wanted to share. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Oh, I am all too familiar with that feeling. It has been a very long time since the last time I went through that, but the memories were so strong they still feel real. You NEED to go all out and pamper yourself today. Splurge a little on something that will make you feel better - massage, good meal, whatever. Surround yourself with friends. The first day is always, always the hardest. {{hugs}} Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Aw Must be so difficult to say goodbye after 3 weeks, it's hard enough after 4 days for me, although I normally feel a mixture of happiness from seeing him and sadness that he's gone. It's going to be worse for you at the moment after just saying goodbye, but it will get easier and you'll start looking forward to the next time and smiling about what a wonderful time you just had with him. Hopefully you can talk to him later/tomorrow? When will you next see each other? Bet you had a wonderful time?! (((((((hugs))))))) Haven't been on this site in a while because I have been with my SO for 3 weeks. I just left him at the airport, I feel heartbroken, he feels heartbroken we cry. Now I am sitting at home with a bag of Mc Donalds and no idea what to do with myself I feel so empty again. Just wanted to share. Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Welcome back Omei, hope you had a wonderful trip! I felt the same way you did a few weeks ago. I've been struggling between being a wreck and just trying to keep myself busy since then. I've also been trying really hard to stay positive and not be upset every time I speak to my SO. Some days are better than others. The only thing keeping me optimistic is our visit next month. Do you have a next visit planned yet? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Omei Posted January 16, 2011 Author Share Posted January 16, 2011 I will be talking to him as soon as he gets home, yeah we have another visit planned....Hopefully for march I will be going over there for a week and he'll be comming back here in June for 3 months. Its hard when we do the long visits going back to by myself its nice when hes here with me and my daughter we both miss him when hes gone...its been 2 years of us visiting now...im so ready for it to end one day. Link to post Share on other sites
rainiejae Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Aww...big huge hugs! I am new to all of this but I can tell you turning to get on the plane killed us both, especially since he asked me to marry him while I was there. It's only been 5 days since I left but it feels like years & we have so much to be hopeful for & seems awful that we are being excited via skype. The original plan was no later than June he would move here but we are both so miserable apart the no later than has turned to March (cartwheels). Is there a best way to cope? Not sure but when I try to do other things my mind always goes back to him & wishing for him to already be here. I do find that us talking about how bummed we are to be apart does help a bit as then we address our feelings & we then can move on to happier topics. Until one of us randomly says "I wish I could hold you". UGH! So...lots of contact, lots of communication about feelings & try to do what you can to not dwell, as hard as that is would be my only advise. Please keep in mind though my advise probably sucks as I have only been dealing with the pains of a LDR for a month... Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 You're so lucky that your partner is as excited as you talking about the future and that he's so keen he wants to move asap, I would find my r/ship so much easier if my partner was like this, he sees us living near to each other in time as a natural progression rather than a pressing need. I have 2 years or more to wait He's so laid back he doesn't see it as him having to wait. Aww...big huge hugs! I am new to all of this but I can tell you turning to get on the plane killed us both, especially since he asked me to marry him while I was there. It's only been 5 days since I left but it feels like years & we have so much to be hopeful for & seems awful that we are being excited via skype. The original plan was no later than June he would move here but we are both so miserable apart the no later than has turned to March (cartwheels). Is there a best way to cope? Not sure but when I try to do other things my mind always goes back to him & wishing for him to already be here. I do find that us talking about how bummed we are to be apart does help a bit as then we address our feelings & we then can move on to happier topics. Until one of us randomly says "I wish I could hold you". UGH! So...lots of contact, lots of communication about feelings & try to do what you can to not dwell, as hard as that is would be my only advise. Please keep in mind though my advise probably sucks as I have only been dealing with the pains of a LDR for a month... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Omei Posted January 16, 2011 Author Share Posted January 16, 2011 I have 2 years or more to wait He's so laid back he doesn't see it as him having to wait. I have 2-3 more years to wait also after the 2 I have already waited. We wanna be permanent but are waited to decide when the time comes, but promises me one day we'll stay together. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 I think it makes sense to not rush into things, but it's also not easy if you have more than 2 years to wait. Good for you for sticking with it! I have 2-3 more years to wait also after the 2 I have already waited. We wanna be permanent but are waited to decide when the time comes, but promises me one day we'll stay together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Omei Posted January 16, 2011 Author Share Posted January 16, 2011 I think it makes sense to not rush into things, but it's also not easy if you have more than 2 years to wait. Good for you for sticking with it! Your name seems fitting HeavenorHell...last night i was in heaven today im in hell. Link to post Share on other sites
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