kim654321 Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 Am i a bitch, i have been married for 18 mostly great years. now im having an affair or am i, i dont know, my hubby is great but r we just best buddys or r we in love. My husband does everything for the family, i work full time so he makes the dinner and does all the housework (magic) but my work college is amazing we just click, my hubby had an affair with my step sister and i found out, eventualy i thought they r well matched and i came to terms with them being together but all this fell through,he was devastated,now i truly think i am in love i have tried so many times to stop the feelings but i cant, i have went all the way with my lover and i think about him 24/7 (nothing to do with the sex )i have said to my hubby many times that we r more like brother and sister and we really, r i dont want anything bad to happen to him as i do love him but not in the way like husband and wife. What is more wrong is that we have three wonderfull boys 2gether, how can i do this 2 my family. Any advice will be so much appreaciated thankyou so much for reading this message. x Link to post Share on other sites
from ND Posted March 20, 2004 Share Posted March 20, 2004 you need to come clean with your husband...you already cheated, it will come out sooner or later, get upfront and end it with husband or end it with lover. my x girlfriend just did this to me, she started writing her ex husband, i dumped her and never looked bakc Link to post Share on other sites
TheFaithfulWife Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 You need to talk to a counselor, You have what sounds like depression. I know how you feel. I would give your husband a chance at reclaiming the attraction you once had for him, but you need to stop the affair you are having now. You have children and for their sake you need to a counselor first alone, then with the husband. You may find like my husband and I did that the love we thought was gone was just hidden away. The woman he had the affair with no longer has any interest to him and our relationship is hotter than ever after 18 years. We just got back from Lake Tahoe an hour ago after having a blast gambling and make the bedsprings bounce like a Sometimes all it takes is rediscovering each other, sure the other man may make your world rock right now, but if you were to let your husband try to do the same I think you should go to counseling and with the counselor disclose the affair to your husband. Good luck TFW Link to post Share on other sites
teddytim1 Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 There is a lot more to this than meets the eye. Get a copy of "The Erotic Silence of the American Wife." I do not agree with everything in the book, but it has some very valid points relative to the self image imposed by the institution of marriage. Read this before you tear yourself apart. I am not suggesting infidelity is the answer, but being a sensuous and sexual being is part of being human. A must read. Link to post Share on other sites
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