turokturok5 Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Hello dear friends, - I open my facebook and see her in new year's photos with a guy,on his lap, hugging and such. I go nuts, feel like I want to puke. Can't bear the thought of her having a relation with that guy (he's like the opposite of me). hahaha i know how you feel hey. my ex told me she fell for me because i was the nicest/sweetest guy she had ever met. the new guy she is pursuing, who happens to be my best friend, is pretty much a loud, abnoxious, sex-driven male, he gets drunk and abuses her, calls her a slut and such, always points out flaws in women, isn't exactly attractive but openly talks about multiple girls he is trying to pursue. It's odd how she can do a complete 180 in her selection of guys Link to post Share on other sites
1784 Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Well, alimpo83, it seems that you have gotten the sort of closure you need to really leave her and all of your memories behind. I mean, she said sorry which is nice, and accepted some blame. What more can you ask for? You also seem to realize that even though you felt so much love, the day to day never truly made you happy. This is a GIANT revelation! I should know, I've come to the same conclusion. It's a hard realization. When I would look at my relationship from afar I could choose to see what I wanted to see - and those things seemed good, even great. But when I was IN the relationship, day to day, I realized that there were a lot of things that bothered me. Things I wasn't sure I could ever accept or get over. Just day to day habitual type stuff. This stuff never goes away. It's very easy to use LOVE as a panacea for everything. we make it so BIG and MAGICAL. It's not an elixir, though. You can love someone and also know that you're not meant to marry that person. It's a sucky realization but it is true. That's what I've just gone through. The love I had for this girl was immense but I don't think we would ultimately make one another happy in the long term. It sounds like this is the same for you and your ex. You'll be fine. I think you've received all you need to move right along and be a happy person. Link to post Share on other sites
lolo1234 Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 This girl sounds like a moron. Sorry had to say it . At least she recognizes how dumb she is. I hope you can move past this. You deserve better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alimpo83 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Share Posted March 24, 2011 Well, alimpo83, it seems that you have gotten the sort of closure you need to really leave her and all of your memories behind. I mean, she said sorry which is nice, and accepted some blame. What more can you ask for? You also seem to realize that even though you felt so much love, the day to day never truly made you happy. This is a GIANT revelation! I should know, I've come to the same conclusion. It's a hard realization. When I would look at my relationship from afar I could choose to see what I wanted to see - and those things seemed good, even great. But when I was IN the relationship, day to day, I realized that there were a lot of things that bothered me. Things I wasn't sure I could ever accept or get over. Just day to day habitual type stuff. This stuff never goes away. It's very easy to use LOVE as a panacea for everything. we make it so BIG and MAGICAL. It's not an elixir, though. You can love someone and also know that you're not meant to marry that person. It's a sucky realization but it is true. That's what I've just gone through. The love I had for this girl was immense but I don't think we would ultimately make one another happy in the long term. It sounds like this is the same for you and your ex. You'll be fine. I think you've received all you need to move right along and be a happy person. For me the day to day was great, it wasn't for her, apparently, from some time to the end of the relation. I still love her, and never forget what we had. But she assuming blame and I coming to say to her to leave me alone forever (sigh) is what I needed. I'm a train wreck, but I'll get better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alimpo83 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Share Posted March 24, 2011 Right now I just want to disappear. Damn, I'ts a rollercoaster, all over again! DAMN! ((((((( Link to post Share on other sites
Author alimpo83 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Share Posted March 25, 2011 5 months, 150 days of pain and suffer and doubting myself, wondering where would she be... The memory of "us" is draining me a little bit more everyday... it's sad, but true. Had some days better, others worse. Now worse again, for some moments. I'll be better in a few days, for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alimpo83 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 It's been a few months and I still get affected when I see something about her... Today I opened my hotmail account and she had changed her nick to "here...waiting for you" - for the other guy. Makes me wanna puke. Once a month at least she sends me an SMS with some fake excuse to say something. The last time was about my fathers birthday, she sent a message and then "huge little kiss for you and tenderness for all". Whatever. It's been like 7 or 8 months and I still feel like s*** and get affected. When I feel worse, my relationship with the new girlfriend seems a nonsense, I feel like I don't like her, well, I'm not certain at these moments. Damn this! Link to post Share on other sites
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