Sevenscars Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 Or are there cases where they never speak to you again? I've been having trouble recently trying to realize that she is gone for good. I'm just waiting for her to message me, which will show me that she actually cares about what she did. Its not possible for someone to just not care, right? All my other exes contacted me eventually but for some reason I get this nagging feeling that ill never hear from her again. Does anyone have an ex that just up and left, and they never heard from them again? Link to post Share on other sites
Rose T Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 I think they always get in touch. Watch what you wish for though - my ex boyfriend (cheated on me and left me for OW 6 weeks ago) just got in touch to tell me he'd made a terrible mistake. I took no pleasure in telling him we couldn't start over as the trust has been broken. I know you want to hear from her, but sometimes it can be heartbreaking. Link to post Share on other sites
radrluv72 Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 I'm on day 18 of NC with my ex, and frankly, I think if I heard from him today all it would do is bring up all the old feelings of devastation & hurt that I've just gotten past. I know the day may eventually come--sooner or later--that I might, but I can't even think about dealing with him right now. Especially since it's been 6 weeks since we split up and I've met someone new...of course, knowing my luck, just when I get to the point where I'm content (emotionally) with my new prospect, my ex will come along to confound all that... Link to post Share on other sites
J0N Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 3 months NC, and I haven't heard a word. I don't think I ever will again. Link to post Share on other sites
Sonolumino Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 It'll be 4 months in 2 days since the last time we spoke. I fully intend to never hear from her again. Trust me, we're better off. Link to post Share on other sites
Good Arms Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 While it saddens me immensely that I have my doubts we'll speak again, other than a quick "hey" if we have to pass by at work, it also terrifies me the thought that she would speak to me again. Because what am I supposed to say: "well, since you dumped me I've not been doing too good"? I have no experience of break-ups prior to this, so I respected her decision and did NC for my own good. Just a few texts in the days after breaking up checking we were each OK. No desperate begging to have her back, even though I knew I'd take her back in a heartbeat. Many unanswered questions, things I wish I said and asked, doubts about her love for me the whole time, but even if she did get in touch, I wouldn't go there. I don't know how I'd handle it, unless she says "I made a mistake" - and she won't - so I guess I don't want to hear from her. Link to post Share on other sites
lovesparis Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 as much as i hate to admit it and as much as it hurts me to say it, in my experience the dumper does not come back. Link to post Share on other sites
J0N Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 as much as i hate to admit it and as much as it hurts me to say it, in my experience the dumper does not come back. I know this is how my situation is going to be, it kills me, it really does. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Does anyone have an ex that just up and left, and they never heard from them again? Sure, plenty. It's just great information about the relevant dynamic. Actually, it speaks louder and with more meaning than any words they could possibly say. Since this isn't good news, you have my sympathies. BTDT many times... Link to post Share on other sites
stopthemadness Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 My ex used to "check in" every week or two. So what happened? I never started the healing process. I let him email or call and i would respond.Not anymore! And am doing it for me. Many Many times I thought it would be BETTER if he would just stop all contact. So i agree with Rose T, be careful what you wish for. N/C is needed to heal. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 I was dumped 6 months ago, my ex still hasn't contacted me one iota. It would mean having to admit that he was actually wrong about something, something he's never done before! My first boyfriend dumped me 8 years ago. I haven't heard from him since the day we brokeup Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 All my other exes contacted me eventually but for some reason I get this nagging feeling that ill never hear from her again. You sort of answered your own question here, you noticed? How'd you feel about those exes that eventually contacted you? Were you completely over them? Did you care whether or not to hear back from them? Were you surprised when they reached out to you? Does anyone have an ex that just up and left, and they never heard from them again? I've dumped someone and never looked back. I've been dumped and that ex got in touch through Facebook years later and while we're Facebook friends, I really don't care about him anymore. I was very surprised to see him get in touch as I remember feeling that he will never contact me again. To this day, I have NO idea why I was so over the moon about the guy. The important thing here is to get to the point where you won't care if they come back or not. Link to post Share on other sites
rajcs25 Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 In my experience, the girls who left me never came back........ It Sucks. They never come back. It really SUCKS. Or are there cases where they never speak to you again? I've been having trouble recently trying to realize that she is gone for good. I'm just waiting for her to message me, which will show me that she actually cares about what she did. Its not possible for someone to just not care, right? All my other exes contacted me eventually but for some reason I get this nagging feeling that ill never hear from her again. Does anyone have an ex that just up and left, and they never heard from them again? Link to post Share on other sites
jeff2321 Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Nope they rarely ever come back if ever. 5 months and not a word from my ex that I lived with for nearly 3 years. Jeff Link to post Share on other sites
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