Freeing My Mind Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 (edited) Warning, this will probably be a bit long, partly introducing myself and my situation! If you take the time to read it and give me some feedback of sorts, I would be most thankful I figured it was time to introduce myself, as I've browsed the LDR board for the past about 2 months or so, and it has definitely helped me a considerable bit to read about other peoples experiences when it comes to this. As to which, I wish to say thank you everyone. I suppose I'm mostly posting as well to have a place to let my thoughts out a bit to be able to process them efficiently. As I see that there are quite a few very helpful people on the board who I'd say are doing a very good job at giving assistance in what way they can. Now let me start this with saying that I am admittedly young compared to some of the posters here, as is my SO. We do however, have a relationship that has expanded over 2 and a half years, before it fell apart on my end. As I was personally not able to cope with the distance. A few months ago now however, we have gotten back together. After another 2 and a half years or so apart. With a lot of new experiences and thoughts. We still found the connection again and wish to go in for this again, as we now also have more options available to us, as far as closing the gap goes. The past 2ish years have been reasonably quiet on my part. While for her they have been quite turbulent. A lot of things happened, and a lot of it wasn't too good either, and I definitely think now that I wish they wouldn't have happened. However I'm not going to let it stand in my way. Some of it almost makes me sick to think about, and knowing that by what she said, not directly, it would appear as if I was the spark to it. Which makes me feel incredibly bad as well. I suppose it should be said that I am in and from Europe, whereof she's from and in the USA. We have a roundabout date as to when we will be able to at least temporarily (up to 9 months) be able to close the gap by a very considerable bit. I'd still be about 2 hours away from where she is now, but we've decided that even though that can be far at times. It is definitely much, much better and by far doable. Hopefully, this date should be between april and june. So it's not that long to go! And as far as how we met goes, we did initially meet over the internet, however I was for periods able to close the gap and be with her. So it was somewhat of an LDR from the very beginning. I reckon that gives somewhat of an overview over my current situation. I am honestly not 100% sure as to why I am writing it here, but most likely I can imagine it being as I mentioned, to have somewhere to let my thoughts out to people who are at least in a possibly somewhat similar situation, or that may have more experience in this than I do, that I can get some sort of advice or along the lines from. Thanks for the read, I will definitely continue posting as well, I do not know how much I would be able to help others by posts, but I am definitely going to share my thoughts, for what they are worth. Edited January 18, 2011 by Freeing My Mind Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Welcome aboard and glad you finally took the plunge. I lurked around myself for a few months prior to posting and find this board an invaluable resource in coping with my LDR as well. Congrats on being able to close the gap soon; that's definitely a big step. I think it speaks volumes that the pair of you were able to reconnect after your time apart and I wish you the best of luck. Hope to see you around. Link to post Share on other sites
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