Author russell1968 Posted January 22, 2011 Author Share Posted January 22, 2011 Calm the F down, you are a long, long, long way from this her attitude stinks, and she keeps remindin me that we are not together anymore, if i had a bit more cash i would consider it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 22, 2011 Author Share Posted January 22, 2011 Yeah? This Saturday you are going out too, and you are going to forget about your wife for a few hours. Try citysocialising or something, meet some new people, have a few drinks. Let her wonder about what you are up to? can't! Got the girls! Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 22, 2011 Author Share Posted January 22, 2011 Yep, and if she really wanted that, she'd have done it already. Actions speak 100 times louder than words. I seriously think you need to know if she's seeing someone else and nip that sh*t in the bud. I have done more investigating than Sherlock Holmes and iv'e done my fair share of accusing, but found nothing concrete, and top be honest she would have nothing to lose telling me as she lives in a diffrent house, if she was it would mean i could move on 100% and rebuild Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 can't! Got the girls! Ok so that's what you do when you don't have them. When you do have them enjoy it. Take them out fun places, I got 2 kids I know the score, trust me your wife will envy the time you have alone with your kids. You are a very lucky man to have them. Also the other fun thing to do is to have friends round, hold a party on your own, have 10 mutual friends round. Be your own man.. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 her attitude stinks, and she keeps remindin QUOTE] It took 2 of you to bust this marriage, I bet your attitude stank some of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 Rob, Was it wrong of me to ignore her calls when I have our daughters? Actually next time she does that and you see her number on caller display, give the phone to your daughter and say mummy wants to speak to you. Do this every time she calls when you have the kids, I guarantee you this was not about the kids but about control. I've been through this myself Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 22, 2011 Author Share Posted January 22, 2011 i know she is going out tonight, i cant help worrying that she might meet someone new! Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 22, 2011 Author Share Posted January 22, 2011 (edited) she asked if I was seeing someone else. It would lessen her guilt tremendously if you were. Yes, maybe. I wish i knew for sure if she had cheated, that would make all of this irelevent, As i would be done for good! Edited January 22, 2011 by russell1968 Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 i know she is going out tonight, i cant help worrying that she might meet someone new! Forget what she is doing, take a leaf out of your wife's book, think of yourself. Make some plans for next weekend, don't tell her what you're doing be vague. I almost guarantee you she will try to put a spanner in the works. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Yes, maybe. I wish i knew for sure if she had cheated, that would make all of this irelevent, As i would be done for good! Can you not check mobile bills? Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Share Posted January 23, 2011 Can you not check mobile bills Pay as you go! I just got a text asking if the girls are ok, i just wrote back alll good! Two options 1. hang on in there? 2. Divorce her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Share Posted January 23, 2011 Do i ask her how her night was ? or just pretend i don't care? Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Do i ask her how her night was ? or just pretend i don't care? Pretend you don't care, don't mention it. Poker face Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 1. hang on in there? 2. Divorce her? Up to you really, but if you love her, I'd hang on in there. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 I just got a text asking if the girls are ok, i just wrote back alll good! Great!!, now she knows that the girls are OK, she has no more need to speak to you. Do not respond to her anymore today. If she starts accusing you of playing games remember it was HER choice to leave you in the first place. So please to not get sucked in to any ridiculous guilt trip she tries to lay on you. Just keep ignoring, this is her problem not yours. Remember it's not because your being an a' hole, it's because you've been so busy today. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Share Posted January 23, 2011 Great!!, now she knows that the girls are OK, she has no more need to speak to you. Do not respond to her anymore today. If she starts accusing you of playing games remember it was HER choice to leave you in the first place. So please to not get sucked in to any ridiculous guilt trip she tries to lay on you. Just keep ignoring, this is her problem not yours. Remember it's not because your being an a' hole, it's because you've been so busy today I have been out with my girls all day and have made myself busy. One of my daughters is only 17 months and all iv'e had today from my wife is a one sentence text! I;m worried that she has pulled some guy! Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Share Posted January 23, 2011 Up to you really, but if you love her, I'd hang on in there. I do love her, which is why this is so tough! but she feels that she has missed out on her youth and is desperatly trying to make up for it. My brother told me this is what you get when you marry a younger girl I do really love her so i guess i will stick it out, with you guys help Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 My brother told me this is what you get when you marry a younger girl Hmm, you get it with older ones too, the ever present mid life crisis Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 One of my daughters is only 17 months and all iv'e had today from my wife is a one sentence text! Good!!!!!!!!, As I said getting this time alone with your kids is fantastic. There are dads all over who would be envious. Forget about your wife for the evening. There's a new series of Top Gear on, get watching.. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 I;m worried that she has pulled some guy! Maybe she is playing your game to see if you will text her?, maybe she has gone shopping?, maybe she has slept in? maybe she wants you to think she's pulled some guy... You can't control her actions... forget about what she is or isn't doing just do stuff for you and your kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Share Posted January 23, 2011 She is coming over early on the morning to pick up my youngest. How should i play it? Also i may be slightly paranoid but my wife is seriously good looking thats what's worrying me? Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 She is coming over early on the morning to pick up my youngest. How should i play it? QUOTE] I'm guessing being a Monday morning, .. You will be on your way to work, be polite, upbeat, as you would a friend. Hand the kid over. If she wants to chat, you need to be in work early this morning, so make sure you are dressed and ready for work super early. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Also i may be slightly paranoid but my wife is seriously good looking thats what's worrying me? You can't control her, you cannot act worried or jelous about this in front of her. If you act as if you don't care it will be a huge blow to her ego. She is expecting you to get all possesive and jealous. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted January 24, 2011 Author Share Posted January 24, 2011 Rob, She came round a bit earlier than expected this morning, I was cool and friendly, I didn’t ask her about her night out at all, I think this may have annoyed her as she said I don’t know why I keep asking you about the weekend as it feels like a one way conversation, I just said it’s not like that but I’m just trying to get the girls ready. She seemed very keen to get on the computer and check her Facebook page and told me she had met some guy who she had spent a hour chatting to and she gave lift to In the morning as they all stayed round someone’s house, and he has added her as a friend, I just ignored all of this !1 Is she baiting me?Why is she telling me this stuff about Facebook, and a guy she met?Maybe she is trying to tell me subtly that she has moved on?I did not ask her how her night was or did I ask her about this guy on FacebookThis is extremely hard Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Rob, I was cool and friendly, I didn’t ask her about her night out at all, Nice one, you played it perfectly Link to post Share on other sites
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