marqueemoon4 Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 I hope you are strong russ and do the right thing, even if its the hardest thing to do - don't envy you this at all! :-) Yep, spurs fan. I am on the season ticket waiting list (a little present to myself) and can't wait to start going down WHL again. I have also put my eldest on too, so he can enjoy PL football live. awesome.. that'll be great for you to bond with your son. he'll love it. I'm just glad there are no Red Devils fans on this board Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 STAY STRONG. You know you are better off with out her, I have no fear that you will continue to do the right thing on your own. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 I feel exactly the same. She will want to reconcile the day after scumbag dumps her. It has been said on these boards a million times, i am not going to be second choice. ever. And if not then, it'll be when you're finally over her and have someone else in your life. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 Russell, I only say this because I believe that ending a marriage is a very personal decision so I won't give you my opinion of whether you are done or not. I do believe however that you should not settle in any way for an unhealthy relationship. It would set a terrible example for your children. If you would like to know that you have done everything, simply set some VERY strict terms and conditions for a possible reconciliation, such as her entering into 12 - step and being sober for six months as well as receiving personal counseling to sort herself out. Then, you might consider marital. As well, tell her that you will be moving on with your life during this time period but that that is her absolute only chance at a "maybe." Don't stop proceedings. Ugh, addicts are nightmares. Link to post Share on other sites
Bugz Bunny Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 Hi Russell I have read 90 % of your thread and the last 2 posts with your STBXW txt messages showed that its always the same with them (WS-cheaters)... She f***ed you financially and emotionally and was pregnant with OM,and suddenly wants you back...Oh God what a poison she is... You know sometimes its better to live single life then to live with a poison like she is...and remember that you are not alone because you will always have your children...and when you move on in a couple of months there will be a better women for you my friend because you deserve better... Be strong my friend and enjoy life with your children... P.S.I am sorry for my english if there are mistakes in my writing because its not my native language... Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 This is the messages that i thought was a low tactic, read below U know i'm still your wife i'm still the girl who's hair you held back when i was being sick when i was pregnant, i'm still the same girl u neglected for years i ****ed up i'm sorry If you still ove me and think there is cahnce we could save our family then please don't leave it to late , i already told you time and time again i still loved you, if you can see a light at the end of the tunnel then say before the divorce goes through your call mate, it may or may not be true, I'd keep going as you are. A divorce can be stopped at the last second if you choose. Link to post Share on other sites
debtman Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 i'm still the same girl u neglected for years there's the kicker...through all the pleading, begging and whining, it's still all about her and how bad you were to her... She's deluded. You're better off without her. She's done you a favor. You should thank OM... I tell myself that all the time. Sometimes it works. Hard to turn off love. At least for some of us. My stbx (like yours) seems to turn it on and off like a faucet. Good luck and keep posting... Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 your call mate, it may or may not be true, I'd keep going as you are. A divorce can be stopped at the last second if you choose. I hope Russell didn't go back to her after all this. After 1000 times of this back and forth crap with her and he is still falling for her BS. She plays him like a fiddle and knows it. Link to post Share on other sites
jaymz Posted August 6, 2011 Share Posted August 6, 2011 Russell: Any update on this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted August 8, 2011 Author Share Posted August 8, 2011 Russell: Any update on this? Didn't go back!!! But have been dragged into a world where i don't want to be!! The OM called me and told me that my STBXW had texted her the exact dates that her and her husband have had sex.... so this means that she has found that why they where kiving together he was sleeping with my wife, She has gone crazy and is going to unleash hell on him! I also found out that the second i was out the door she was with him. I honestly coudn't give a **** anymore, im trying to have my daughters as much as posssible, so i can get them out of the way of this bulletstorm. Some people are just not wired correctly Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 Didn't go back!!! But have been dragged into a world where i don't want to be!! The OM called me and told me that my STBXW had texted her the exact dates that her and her husband have had sex.... so this means that she has found that why they where kiving together he was sleeping with my wife, She has gone crazy and is going to unleash hell on him! I also found out that the second i was out the door she was with him. I honestly coudn't give a **** anymore, im trying to have my daughters as much as posssible, so i can get them out of the way of this bulletstorm. Some people are just not wired correctly Strange folks lol... I reckon you should set up your STBX with OM's ex in a mud wrestling ring lol. Could be good entertainment... Link to post Share on other sites
Tech_E Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 Thank heavens you didn't go back to that POS. Forget about her and move on. She's put you through hell on earth. Take care of your innocent child and grind your boot into this womans skull as you leave her in your rearview. I only wish I could personally help you in some way, especially after what she has put you through. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted August 8, 2011 Author Share Posted August 8, 2011 Thank heavens you didn't go back to that POS. Forget about her and move on. She's put you through hell on earth. Take care of your innocent child and grind your boot into this womans skull as you leave her in your rearview. I only wish I could personally help you in some way, especially after what she has put you through. Thanks Tech e, it really has been a ****storm, but i'm happy it's over ! There is going to be nore drama in the next 4 months thats for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted August 19, 2011 Author Share Posted August 19, 2011 After 9 months of seperation i finally spent the night with another woman! I feel like a human being again!! Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 awesome! glad you're still moving in the right direction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted August 19, 2011 Author Share Posted August 19, 2011 Thanks, finally things have calmed down and i hardly hear from her, which is great! In a weird kind of way i feel guilty about last night Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 Don't feel guilty. BANG away! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 I did feel guilty the first couple of times after my ex and I broke up. I think that it is natural for a lot of people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted August 19, 2011 Author Share Posted August 19, 2011 (edited) I did feel guilty the first couple of times after my ex and I broke up. I think that it is natural for a lot of people. Yes i agree it's Natural, I have to go and pick up the kids in a couple of hours , i hate this time of the week Edited August 19, 2011 by russell1968 Link to post Share on other sites
BlindRage Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 after 9 months of seperation i finally spent the night with another woman! I feel like a human being again!! Nice job! Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 In a weird kind of way i feel guilty about last night Nahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted August 20, 2011 Share Posted August 20, 2011 Yes i agree it's Natural, I have to go and pick up the kids in a couple of hours , i hate this time of the week Just for the fun of it, tell your STBX that you spent the night with another woman. Then come back here and tells us her reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
jaymz Posted August 20, 2011 Share Posted August 20, 2011 (edited) Just for the fun of it, tell your STBX that you spent the night with another woman. Then come back here and tells us her reaction. Personally I wouldn't bother. It implies you are still attached to her by wanting to provoke a reaction. If the new Lady in Russell's life is serious, the stbxw will find out about it eventually anyway. Then tell us the reaction Edited August 20, 2011 by jaymz Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted August 20, 2011 Share Posted August 20, 2011 Just for the fun of it, tell your STBX that you spent the night with another woman. Then come back here and tells us her reaction. Not a good idea (though it would be fun). His wife will find out on her own, but then again knowing Russell's wife maye it's better if she doesn't know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted August 20, 2011 Author Share Posted August 20, 2011 Part of me wanted too tell her but when i went to pick up the girls she wasn;t there! 5 mins later she turns up with the other man in his car! She apologised for being late and went inside to get the girls clothes, i saw the other man and gave him a big friendly wave,i just smiled to myself! Earlier that day she called me and asked if she could come to Spain with me (she really is mental!) Anyway i'm dating again and having fun Link to post Share on other sites
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