marqueemoon4 Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 I would like to thank Robf1971, Whats next, mm4 Hopes and dreams, willow, steadfast, Debtman, don't forget WGW! you'll be fine man... be STRONG. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 don't forget WGW! you'll be fine man... be STRONG. Yep sorry Wgw (Jack!) i wish we could all go to a bar and have a drink and shoot the ****! Link to post Share on other sites
What_Next Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 You're welcome. I wish I could take you out for a pint. If there is anything I can do for you just ask. I am a half a world away, but if you need an ear, I'd be there. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 I would like to thank Robf1971, Whats next, mm4 Hopes and dreams, willow, steadfast, Debtman, You have helped me so much in a time when i felt like giving up! I wasn't a very good husband! I tried my best to get my wife back(It didn't work!) I walk away from this with my head held high! i am a better person now! You're welcome, russell. All those that have followed and posted CARE ABOUT YOU! Think on that during this extremely difficult time. You have a major soul wound that needs to heal. Take the time out to LOVE yourself. I really like willow's suggestion. She needs locked up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 16, 2011 Author Share Posted May 16, 2011 Out of the bad-comes some good, everyone on LS who has taken there time out of there lifes to help a stranger im overwhelmed with how kind people can be! i know some people where gettin inpatient with me, but i needed to go through this! Even as we speak my phone is ringing me, she is trying to change the way i see my girls! I will not pick up the phone! I will not have anything to do with this scumbag anymore! Sad as a chapter of my life ends, but now i choose! Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 At least you can see the true colors coming out, takes away some of the pain. Move on, to bigger/better things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 At least you can see the true colors coming out, takes away some of the pain. Move on, to bigger/better things. Thanks Surfer, very true! I will not wasteone more bit of energy on her. She can live in the knowledge that she has broken up two families ! I have to start taking better care of myself, i haven't been eating or sleeping, What i need is advice on hot wo start healing? Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 What i need is advice on hot wo start healing? It has been said before but the best advice is to go NC. However, with the the kids, it is only possible to do LC, which leads to problems again as you have to read her texts in case it is about the kids. I have to really wonder how long she has been seeing this guy. Many many messages ago it was suggested that there was another guy. I don't know if any of us will know if that was the case back then but one sure has tio wonder. Good luck Russ. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 Wow. wow, wow, It turns out she has been seeing another guy! The scumbag from down the road! There is no words that that can tell you how i feel, Ohh sh*t, man I'm sorry Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 I coudn't agree more!!!!!! I just found out that the Om's wife took a overdose last night!! My x bitch has already started dicking me around with my girls! she is trying to control me! Ok man. You've got to stay cool. Legal childcare agreement needed ASAP Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 What i need is advice on hot wo start healing? Pretty much what we've been telling you from the beginning. Get a new social life, put your energy into work and making money. Concentrate on protecting your kids, make sure you get fair access.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 She has already started the threats about if i don't adhere to the conditions in the Seperation agreement she will then fight me for the house! Also another one saying that we seperated months ago and she hasn't been mine for ages! I'm just trying to get on with my life! Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 I have to really wonder how long she has been seeing this guy. . Russell, In my opinion this is unforgivable, you need to move on with your life, she's gone. Forget trying any reconcilliation. Even if she comes back on hands and knees on a bed of nails, be very wary about taking her back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 Russell, In my opinion this is unforgivable, you need to move on with your life, she's gone. Forget trying any reconcilliation. Even if she comes back on hands and knees on a bed of nails, be very wary about taking her back. Yes it is! I have a condition in the seperation agreement, it means i have my girls every weekend, **** myself in the foot there a bit, it means i never ever get a sleep in, also means no long weekend in Portugal in June, never get a Friday night out Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 Yes it is! I have a condition in the seperation agreement, it means i have my girls every weekend, **** myself in the foot there a bit, it means i never ever get a sleep in, also means no long weekend in Portugal in June, never get a Friday night out yea man she loves that I'm sure, she'll be out drugging it up til all hours of the morning. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 Yes it is! I have a condition in the seperation agreement, it means i have my girls every weekend, **** myself in the foot there a bit, it means i never ever get a sleep in, also means no long weekend in Portugal in June, never get a Friday night out It's not a bad thing really. You can get the best of your kids. Plenty of stuff to do weeknights too. Just don't do anymore favours for your wife Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 Two hours before she told me about the other guy she was holding my hand while we where walking around the park! Honestly, it makes that bit easier Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 Two hours before she told me about the other guy she was holding my hand while we where walking around the park! Honestly, it makes that bit easier Every time she makes a threat to fight you for the house or take kids away do not react. just document and email to your solicitor. Talk is cheap anyway it's all bluster. As I've said before expect her to get nasty just to get a reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 The below is from my Lawyer Dear Russell Thank you for your e-mail received earlier today. I have checked the separation agreement and there is no specific reference as to who collects or returns the children - it simply states that you have shared residence and they reside with your wife Sundays 6.30 to Friday 6.30 and they reside with you every weekend Friday 6.30 to Sunday at 6.30. The separation agreement is clear as to the interest that your wife has now received in respect of the matrimonial home, but as previously advised, to fully protect yourself, you should now consider issuing divorce proceedings, and we can have a binding agreement drawn up within those proceedings basically repeating what is written in the separation agreement. I think this may stop your wife making all of these threats towards you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 Every time she makes a threat to fight you for the house or take kids away do not react. just document and email to your solicitor. Talk is cheap anyway it's all bluster. As I've said before expect her to get nasty just to get a reaction. Why does she want a reaction? She left me i have paid her off! All i want now is peace! Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 Do what the lawyer says Immediately.not only does it protect you but also shows your wife she can't walk all over you Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 Do what the lawyer says Immediately.not only does it protect you but also shows your wife she can't walk all over you Just filed! Boy is this going to get ugly, i'm gonna strap myself in as Kansas is going bye-bye! Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 I'm not responding to anything from her now! I'm leaving it in the hands of my solicitor! Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted May 17, 2011 Share Posted May 17, 2011 Good idea. Strict NC. That was my plan too - I told my wife, no more talking to me unless it is about paying me for the mortgage/cars/debt/etc. She tried to contact me a few times about pointless s***. I ignored her. Two weeks later... "I made a huge mistake." I am not saying that is your goal at all, to get her back. But the no contact thing is important for both of you. A. It gives you peace and quiet, time to move on, clarity that you need. B. Puts the other person in their place, gives them some perspective, shows them what they are missing and what they f***ed up. Hopefully it makes the feel bad for what they did, knocks them out of their fantasy world. Good luck, I was days away from filing before my wife came home. In most situations though, it makes sense to just get it over with, end it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Share Posted May 17, 2011 Good idea. Strict NC. That was my plan too - I told my wife, no more talking to me unless it is about paying me for the mortgage/cars/debt/etc. She tried to contact me a few times about pointless s***. I ignored her. Two weeks later... "I made a huge mistake." I am not saying that is your goal at all, to get her back. But the no contact thing is important for both of you. A. It gives you peace and quiet, time to move on, clarity that you need. B. Puts the other person in their place, gives them some perspective, shows them what they are missing and what they f***ed up. Hopefully it makes the feel bad for what they did, knocks them out of their fantasy world. Good luck, I was days away from filing before my wife came home. In most situations though, it makes sense to just get it over with, end it. My wife is sub-human, the Om wife just called me, she told me all she has around 4-6 months to live, she told me all she wanted was for him to be holding her whilst she died, Link to post Share on other sites
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