Author russell1968 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Share Posted July 14, 2011 That is amazing to read! I am so happy for you. Of course she is interested in you again. Totally predictable. Expect her to get more agressive once she realizes that you've moved on. Ignore it all and go and live your life and be happy!!! Congrats my friend. Thanks WN Just recieved a text from her saying she has heard from my daughter that i'm going out tonight and to have good time! She also wrote i do love you you know that! What the hell?? I'm happy i'm going out for drinks tonight. Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 Seems she's finally feeling the repercussions of her own selfishness and realizing that you're moving on. She's in panic mode -- i.e. "what have I done?!" Bravo, Russell!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Share Posted July 14, 2011 Seems she's finally feeling the repercussions of her own selfishness and realizing that you're moving on. She's in panic mode -- i.e. "what have I done?!" Bravo, Russell!!! Thanks, I haven't responded and i won't either! Iv'e been through hell with this women and now i'm ok! Don't really fancy crawling down that dark hole again! Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 Thanks WN Just recieved a text from her saying she has heard from my daughter that i'm going out tonight and to have good time! She also wrote i do love you you know that! What the hell?? I'm happy i'm going out for drinks tonight. Human nature, she had you in the palm of her and and it was boring to her. She forgot all about you for 6 months, looked around and has suddenly realised she can't have you any more. So you have suddenly become desirable to her again. I still think it's a load of fake BS. If she really wanted back she'd be at your door with her cases. If you took her back now she's be bored and off with another OM within a few months. However, I do think this is just the begining, she will not leave you alone!! Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 What the hell?? I'm happy i'm going out for drinks tonight. So you should be. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 I really love reading this man. Love when they come back with their tail between their legs. Unlike you, I made the poor mistake of taking mine back. Don't ever do it man. Move on and be happy. You are already off to a great start. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 !! There is nothinf like painting your front-room in your underpants listening to AC/DC . Too much information lol Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 WN: I don't know man. After what happens in these situations, things can never be the same. Only a handful of us on here have had success... odds don't lie. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 I just found out she was pregnant with OM baby, but she has had a termination, Man when will this **** end.. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 I just found out she was pregnant with OM baby, but she has had a termination, Man when will this **** end.. Yuck, there is no return to this woman Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 FFS i just can't believe this Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 FFS i just can't believe this How did you find out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 A letter to my house Saying congratulations on your pregnancy, when i challenged her she said she had a termination. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 A letter to my house Saying congratulations on your pregnancy, when i challenged her she said she had a termination. What can I say? Just keep going as you are, your doing a great job. At least you didn't have sex with her so you don't have to worry about STD's. How was the other night out by the way? Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 It was great ! Bad hangover Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 It was great ! Bad hangover It will be interesting to see if your wife has the barefaced nerve to keep contacting you after this latest revelation. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Jeez man... that is bad news. At least it's not your problem - I know it still hurts on some level. Keep doing what you have been man. Have an enjoyable weekend regardless. This woman is a f'ing moron, you are rid of her now, awesome for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Steadfast Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 I was where you are now about 2-1/2 year ago Russ. Here's some advice; The less you know the better, unless you're building some kind of legal case. The (pregnancy) letter that came was addressed to her, wasn't it? You opened it. Mistake. I still get mail here for my ex and no matter how tempted I am to open it, it goes in the trash. Some were hand written. I do not give it to her. Finish the break. If it's that important, they'll find her. Does not matter if she signs the papers or not. If she ignores it long enough the divorce will go final as uncontested. It'll just take longer. Right now she's panicked. You'll see another side of her when she realizes you aren't changing your mind. Chances are, she'll become bitter and withdrawn. You might notice the relationship with her kids start to deteriorate significantly too. Stay strong, be kind and stay the course. Oh, and do yourself a favor and stay away from alcohol. Work out instead. Finally, life is life; single, married, or otherwise. This is the truth. There will be good days and bad. Press on knowing you are not willing to live it with someone who has no concern for your well-being. Addition by subtraction. Hang in. You're still day-to-day. No shame. Make the next right, always! Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 Hey Steadfast, Good to hear from! Great advice...Thank you My STBXW was trying to pull my strings on Friday talking about us getting back together???I knew this was bull ****! So i said why don't you sign the papers and it give's us four months!! She did sign, then she went and spent the evening with the other man! The next day, i knew she would be hungover, the girls where mean to go to there cousins birthday party and my wife was meant to take them, she said she would call me back but she didn't , so i ended up taking them, all of her sisters and mother was there, they all said they where happier it was me there rather than her, whilst i was there she sent me a really spitefull message telling me she was back together with the other man!! When she found out i took the kids to the b'day party she went crazy and came round my house screeming and slapping me, i told her she should of called ( I think she realized How much of a bad mum she had been!) IO then got around 20 text messages telling me that she wishes i was dead. It makes things easier! Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 Hey Steadfast, Good to hear from! Great advice...Thank you My STBXW was trying to pull my strings on Friday talking about us getting back together???I knew this was bull ****! So i said why don't you sign the papers and it give's us four months!! She did sign, then she went and spent the evening with the other man! The next day, i knew she would be hungover, the girls where mean to go to there cousins birthday party and my wife was meant to take them, she said she would call me back but she didn't , so i ended up taking them, all of her sisters and mother was there, they all said they where happier it was me there rather than her, whilst i was there she sent me a really spitefull message telling me she was back together with the other man!! When she found out i took the kids to the b'day party she went crazy and came round my house screeming and slapping me, i told her she should of called ( I think she realized How much of a bad mum she had been!) IO then got around 20 text messages telling me that she wishes i was dead. It makes things easier! Russell, your wife doesn't give 2 hoots about you. Call the police, I keep telling you, have her arrested. Otherwise she will never leave you alone. When you meet someone 1000 times better than her she will do nothing but undermine your new life. Stand up to her.... or she will constantly be there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 Russell, your wife doesn't give 2 hoots about you. Call the police, I keep telling you, have her arrested. Otherwise she will never leave you alone. When you meet someone 1000 times better than her she will do nothing but undermine your new life. Stand up to her.... or she will constantly be there. Ok ,she wants me dead, she will never call me again or talk to me again. Well, she has already texted me this morning and s left a voicemail asking me too take a week off work this summer for the girls.. I want help out this summer but i have to put my job first! P.S she did sign the divorce papers but the wrong part, when i asked her to sign in the right part, she told me to **** off and get her served so it would cost me more money Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 I'd hate her if I didn't feel sorry for her. she is one f-ed up bird who is going to require years of therapy/counseling if she is ever gonna get her sh*t together. You don't need this, stay the course. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 Ok ,she wants me dead, she will never call me again or talk to me again. Well, she has already texted me this morning and s left a voicemail asking me too take a week off work this summer for the girls.. I want help out this summer but i have to put my job first! P.S she did sign the divorce papers but the wrong part, when i asked her to sign in the right part, she told me to **** off and get her served so it would cost me more money Ok, stop taking this from her. You to her, " Wife until you can talk to me in a civilised tone and stop swearing this conversation is over" It is crucial you stand up to her, Link to post Share on other sites
Author russell1968 Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 Ok, stop taking this from her. You to her, " Wife until you can talk to me in a civilised tone and stop swearing this conversation is over" It is crucial you stand up to her, I'm not even talking to her anymore, iv'e got nothing to say Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 I'm not even talking to her anymore, iv'e got nothing to say Ok, but you need to communicate re your kids. You cannot let her treat you like this. If someone attacks me, I don't care who it is I will call the police. Your wife has suffered no consequences therefore carry's on treating you like dirt. Stop allowing this. Link to post Share on other sites
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